Don't chase. If a guy wants you let him come to you.?

Question

Men, do you agree with this?

Why or why not?

I ask this because I notice that the men that I DO want coming just seem to stare and generally DO NOT approach...

Answer 1

They're picking up on your feminist attitude.  They don't want the anger and drama.

Answer 2

Well think of this, should the guy always be the one to choose you?

If you want a guy who doesnt immediately want you is he no longer an option?

If you want to get noticed you have to make some sort of move, sometimes more forward then not. Maybe a wink will draw him to you or maybe you have to get up walk over and start a conversation.

Answer 3

Not a bad philosophy if you like being alone alot. There's nothing wrong with letting a guy know you're interested in him and doing a little pursuing yourself.

Answer 4

Good question. I've approached men before, only to have them turn away. I don't think many of them like being approached by women, because they automatically assume that I'm looking for a one-nighter, which I am not.

Answer 5

i guess when they are shy you should try and put in some more effort

but i mean you cant let them do 100% of the work

you have to throw in some charm and let him know hes welcome

you cant just stare back at guys and just have an awkward silence

you should introduce yourself and walk away

and then see if he approaches again :)

Answer 6

Guys aren't good at taking hints. If you're interested ,you'd be wise to make a move before that other chick beats you to it.

Answer 7

well in  my opinion that . i would not chase a guy. because is not worth it to chase . if he wants you he will come to you . if you keep chasing him .. all you will get is rejection. and we're girls don't like rejection in any case with relationship.

Answer 8

i think you should be able to go after them as well if you want to. sometimes they are too shy to approach you.

Answer 9

it depends Girls tend to scare me off when they do this mainly because i dont know them or there just fat

Answer 10

looking back....the best boyfriends and the man I married....I wanted.  They took to long so I asked/approached.

The ones who chased me...were at best ok bf's....the worst(read abusive) was the one that chased me the hardest.

IDK if this holds true for all women,....but it sure did work out that way for me.

Answer 11

Men are intimidated by approaching beautiful women.  They think that you're taken or that you wouldn't want them.

Hey..if a man acts weird or loses interest in you for making the first move, is he really worth it?  

Probably not.

There are some guys that don't like being a made a move on, but a guy I liked told me last night how it was so s**y for me to make a move on him a long time ago.  This guy is very attractive and has women throwing themselves at him, so it's not like nobody hits on him.

Answer 12

Sooner or later, somebody has to make a move. Why shouldn't it be the woman?

Answer 13

If there was another wanting to date me, I would appreciate the fact that they would come up and engage with their thoughts and reasoning. Men are lost puppies when it come to women and their thoughts of what they want, Everyone just assumes everything and there is absolutely nothing to assume in a relationship between two opposite s*x's, After all women are from Venus and men are from mars or however man has framed that. God Bless.

OH!! PS. My scenario might not work for the simple fact that most people do not like hearing No or the feeling of rejection. Forgive me for not considering the Pride Factor in Man. :)

Answer 14

It never bothered me if a woman came after me ... It's a compliment.