Don't know how to approach...?

Question

This is going to come out as a silly and insignificant problem.

As some might know, I'm homeschooled, I have been all my life and so has my other 3 siblings. But I would MUCH prefer public school, which is probably not understandable but I hate homeschooling so much. And I don't really know how to tell my mom I would like to go to public school. I just worry because everything I bring something up she's always talking about something or another wrong with it. Although she's said before I CAN go to public school, but I see that was more of setting me up. Help?

Answer 1

First of all, let us rationally analyse why you don't like home-schooling. Rabinandranath Tagore was for one home-schooled. If you are getting what you want, if your mom is not interfering in your desired carreer, then I for one think she is right.

Next, having resolved the 1st issue, let us now proceed to the next : how to approach your mother ? Try through dad, through a common friend, but explain it rationally and make it justifiable.

During the 2nd world war, the army was secretly working over the nuclear bomb. They did not know how to approach president Roosevelt. Because, if he realised what it was, then probably he would not accept.

So the army top brass scratched their heads and came up with a double plan. They would casually send the paper through a friend to Roosevelt on a Sunday, on a light mood. Second they prepared a list of important peronalities,who signed on this paper along with Einstein. Roosevelt had a great respect of Einstein, so if he saw the name of Einstein, he would immediately put his signature on the paper.

However, for the top-brass, the problem became even more complicated : Roosevelt might be fooled, but there was no way they could fool Einstein. He would understand the implication immediately, and being a lover of humanity and peace, he would totally refuse to put his signature over the paper. So the top-brass prepared a film, on the work done by Germany on heavy water, and nuclear fission, and showed it to Einstein. They stated, 'Sir, if we do not do anything , then we would lose the war.' So very reluctantly, almost feeling he was being cheated, Einstein put his signature. And then of course Roosevelt also did.

So the matter of approaching rightly an issue is sensitive and highly psycholigical. you devise a way to convince your mom-Einstein reasonably or fool mom-Roosevelt. Either way, you should be effective and get your way!

Good Luck and above all Study well !!

Answer 2

It sounds like

1) you don't think you deserve to be happy and

2) it's your job to make your mother happy.

Do either of those make sense? Your mom is responsible for her own happiness, as you are responsible for your own.

It's a mom's job to analyze things to bit and find everything possibly wrong. Doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you--that's just her job as protector of her family.

Approach it more in terms of your actual problems and not the solution you see to your problem. School is ONE solution to whatever it is about homeschooling that you hate (one of which seems to be an unhealthy relationship with your mother). Identify what really bothers you about your lifestyle now and bring it up. Have a discussion with her about it instead of setting it up as something that will generate a yes or no answer. "Mom, I've been thinking a lot about something lately. Could we talk about it?" Then you could share about how you've been feeling (sharing how you are feeling has NOTHING to with your mom's feelings, do you understand? as long as you aren't accusatory and it's really about your feelings) and how you'd like to try something different. Then take it from there. Be willing to listen to her side of things and recognize that she worries, too. :)

Answer 3

tell her what u want 4 ur future...

Answer 4

Hi,

I think it's great that you are concerned about hurting your Mom's feelings, she's obviously doing a good job with you.

Just be honest and tell her that you would like to try attending public school next year.  Since you have never attended public school your Mom may understand that it's something you feel you'd like to experience.

Of course you might want to ask her if it will be alright for you to quit and go back to home schooling if you find you don't like public school.

I have no idea what the schools are like where you live, or what your normal homeschool day is like but the lack of freedom to move at your own pace and really explore what interests you the most may not be as much fun as you think it will.

But the best way to find out whether or not you'll like public school is to attend for at least half a year, it will take some time to adjust.

Good Luck

Answer 5

first of all you will have a future if you keep home schooling..

make a list of the reasons why you want to go to public school.  don't just say "but I hate home schooling!" think of some of the arguments your mom might say, and have answers prepared.  don't get angry or annoyed, and start off by saying that you want to discuss this with her, and while you will listen to her side, you also want her to consider your side.  

Good luck! if your mom sees that this is really important to you, I bet your mom will really think about it.

Answer 6

Me too!! this is my first year homeschooling, but I hate it too!!  I just said: "I don't really like homeschooling, I feel like I don't have many friends, and I would really like some!!"  and I allways try to bring up this too: "But Public School is Free!!!"  It worked!! I will be going next year!  God Bless!  and I hopr this helped!