Don't know what to do, help?

Question

I gave my daughter up for adoption a little over 6 yrs ago when she was only 2 days old. We had an open adoption, I got to pick her parents, we were involved in everything. At first we got pictures and letters every few months. Then it went down to once a year, usually a couple months after her birthday. Now I haven't heard anything for almost two years. We went through a adoption agency and they have either changed their telephone number or closed. So we can't contact them. I don't know how to get ahold of the adoptive parents to let them know I still would like progress letters and pictures of the precious little girl.

Answer 1

All I can advise you to do is to advertise in the paper that is written in the area that they last lived in.Just say that you are looking for anyone who might be able to let you know their forwarding address as you need to contact them on a personal matter.I wish you luck.

Answer 2

why not report them or they just don't want you to see her any more or they have moved to a different country?

Answer 3

If she was so precious why give her away? You want your cake and be able to eat it to....Six years? your "concern" and question is laughable....

Answer 4

Have you googled the agency, and the names of people you worked with there? Do you know the full names of the a-parents, or where they worked? Addresses, or email addresses from previous contact? I would follow any leads you have to re-establish contact. Maybe they are just being lazy. Hopefully they didn't decide to hide from you.

I'm sorry this has happened. I really respect the intent of open adoption, and feel strongly that people should honor such an agreement. We don't have contact with our daughter's birthmom because she didn't want to (I see it as her choice).  But I would always welcome contact.

Answer 5

Sadly there isn't much you can do. There are no laws protecting opened adoption. They can be closed at any time. Can you drive to the agency to see if they are still there? If they are still in business and just moved maybe someone in the neighborhood can tell you where they moved to. Other than that I have no suggestions. Maybe see if the parents have a my space or a blog.

Answer 6

Do not listen to the nasty voices.

Although I do not believe in adoption either. Except for Orphans and abused children

But There is no need for outright nastyness...

Unfortunately this is why I say NO to OPEN Adoptions, its a complete head stuff and there is no legality to it and this sort of thing happens

I am so sorry that this has happened to you.

My advice Keep on writing letters to her so that one day when she is of the age to look for you that you can show that you wanted to keep involved in her life.

Keep on searching for these people and yes take out a ad asking them to contact you.

I wish you the very best of luck. I hope you can reunite with her one day and I hope she will understand

Answer 7

sorry this is happening to you. this is why people need to share their info in an open adoption. Our sons family know the info on us and our faimily and I have their too. It would be pretty hard for us to lose eachother.

First don't trust the agency that they don't know anything. They have names and all they have to do is send a letter to the only address and write "address service requested" to get a copy of theri new address. If you have their names and old address you could do it. They could even do a basic google search. It's so easy to call an old number and claim they disappeared.

I would suggest giving them youe name and address when you can get ahold of them, and ask for theirs. leave the agency out of it. even a po box would be better than the agency.

good luck to you.

Answer 8

They might have left new contact details with the agency