Don't know when to have baby # 2?

Question

when I was 20 I got pregnant. I wasn't married yet, but my wedding was 4 months away (it was planned before the pregnancy) my grandmother was furious she was never happy and hated talking about me being pregnant. She didn't even want me to tell anyone. (my mom passed away when I was 19 grandmother is only close relative) I never felt like I had a joyful pregnancy. Now everyone is asking when we are having another baby including my grandmother. I still feel like I would have to hide it if we were trying. I feel like everyone would think I did something wrong again. I missed out on the joys of being pregnant because of all the negative ppl in my life. How do I make myself think that I'm not doing something wrong and I shouldn't feel ashamed?

Answer 1

I'm sorry your grandmother made you feel that way...you are ultimately the maker of your own happiness....no one has the right to tell you how to live your life as an adult...If you are ready to have #2 .... don't seek peoples approval, you and your husband will make that decision. Your weren't wrong for having your first little one and you won't be wrong for having a second one...a baby is a beautiful and wonderful experience...hopefully this time around the negativity will be gone and so will those feelings...:)

Answer 2

Just focus on your beautiful baby and the joy you have now with the baby. Your happiness and that of you family (husband and baby) are all that matter!

Answer 3

You are 20 your not a baby anymore.  If I wanted another baby I would have it when the youngest is about 2 then they will be close.  I have no brothers or sisters and I am glad I had my 2 boys 18 months apart . I wouldn't wait to long though my mom and her sister are more than 10 years difference in age and they are not close at all.

Answer 4

Let the baby do #2 whenever it needs to.

Answer 5

when your first baby is about 2 or 3 and when you have time to handle it

Answer 6

I am 16 years old and have baby number one on the way. due in september. the i live with my boyfirend in an apartment so my mom does not support me but we are still close and write letters all the time. (we live in different cities) i am almost 6 months and stilll have not told anyone including my mom on my side of the family yet. although my boyfriends family all knows and cant wwait. I have been hidding my stomach for so  long and still am. so i know what you went through. I hopee everything works out cause i dont have an answer to your question. good luck and think of it this way, if noon else is supporting you and the baby than why feel bad. thats how i make myself feel better.