Don't you really think that the groom should have a lot more say in what the bride & bridesmaids should wear?

Question

since they really are the center piece of the wedding!

Answer 1

I wish more grooms would be involved, but the fact of the matter is that they tend not to.

I actually showed my fiance a photo of my dress before ordering it - he really didn't care.  But he did actually help me out in choosing the bridesmaids dresses!

Answer 2

Umm my answer is no!  Plus, I don't agree that the bridesmaids are the centerpiece of the wedding.  Even if they were, my answer would still be no.

Unless, the groom's family name is Dolce, Gabana or Versace, I don't see any good reason for him to be involved in any of the females' attire.

Take care!

Answer 3

I agree. BUT most men don't care or their response is "Honey this is more your wedding than it is mine, and my opinion doesn't really matter" Or something along those lines. I know when I got married I tried to include my husband in it as much as possible and he shared what he wanted but for the most part he says this is your wedding, I would be content getting eloped.

And then you have to worry about the mothers too who can be worse than the brides.  

Answer 4

The Bride decides on her own dress and the dresses that the bridesmaid wears. You can discuss colors with your wife but you shouldn't have any say in the dresses they wear.

Answer 5

He should be able to have a say but ultimately the bride chooses her dress and the BMs dresses. He can voice his opinion freely but the bride might not care what he thinks lol...  

Answer 6

If my fiance had wanted more say in our wedding, I would have given it to him. But he told me from the very beginning that weddings are for girls and he didn't care what kind of dress I wore, what kind of cake we had, even what kind of tux he had on. He gave me free rein to do what I wanted and that's the way most guys are. :-)

Answer 7

No.Men usually don't understand the ins and outs of women's fashion.But they should both definitely agree on the style of clothes because its both their day and should be as comfortable as you can.

Answer 8

Most men I know could care less about that.  My personal opinion is that is something the bride and groom should discuss prior to making arrangements.  If the bride truly values the grooms opinion, she will at LEAST ask him if he cares what she or the bridesmaids wear.  Usually, that gets brought up when picking colors.

As far as the bride and bridesmaids being the center piece....no...the bride and groom are the center piece.

Answer 9

I think that the bride to be and the groom to be should be talking about what they agree on and what compromises they can make before they even decide to get married.  

Most of the time, they say the wedding is more for the bride as traditionally, the brides parents paid for the wedding.  

Me, I would never ask my parents to pay for a wedding for me.  I am too independent and when and If I get married, I may just elope.  It is much cheaper and not as stressful.  I might have a party to celebrate wtih my friends and family later.

Answer 10

I feel that you should definately voice your opinion . If your bride truely values your desire to be a part of the decisions in your own wedding and how you both are precieved . Then your bride should definatey take your opinion to heart .

Answer 11

Most guys are really eager to duck out of choosing women's fashions for any occassion :)

If you really are interested, and really do have preferences about the bridesmaids, or the colors, or whatever in those catagories, I would think your bride would want to hear them, and accommodate them.

That said... Many women feel that their own dress is sort of the wrapping paper for a present, and that keeping it secret is important.  The bridesmaids are usually coordinated with this bride wrapping, so there may be features you do not appreciate involved, if your woman is of the 'suprise wedding dress' bunch.

Also, many women spend much of their young life planning their wedding, and have a 'dream wedding' in mind that was disigned long before there was a groom to go with it.  It is too bad people do not put in an equal amount of preparation for being a good mate, rather than a fantasy about a single day... But that is how it is.

If I were a man who actually cared about some of the aspects of my wedding and party, and my bride did not either consider my preferences or explain to me why her own were so important to her... I think I would worry that I was  'dream groom' as well, rather than a seprate unique person she wanted to spend her life with.

Answer 12

well, it used to be that the bride's parents paid for the wedding so they would get what they wanted I.E. what the bride wanted but if you're paying for it then you should have equal say, cause even if the money's your's, you have to deal with the bride afterwards.

Answer 13

Nope. Most guys actually don't care about those details. My fiance was interested in knowing what I picked and why I chose it, but he didn't try and have a say in it. I told him I get to pick what my girls wear and he can decide what his guys wear. I think you need to trust that the bride is going to make good decisions here and not second guess her.

Answer 14

are u stupid. no that is the brides day, the one they dreamed about since they were young. yo have no say in anything except your tuxedo and maybe not even that. and most grooms don't care

Answer 15

no, they don't decide that its all up to the bride and anyways the grooom isn't supposed to see her dress! he can pick out the suits for the groomsmen and himself but why would he pick out the dresses? its her thing she gets to do that is only by herself and the guy cant see her dress so then how would he know what matches?! lol

ohh jeeez  

Answer 16

No. I think the bride and bridesmaids should choose their own outfits, and the groom and groomsmen should choose their own outfits. There's nothing wrong with offering advice or suggestions on either side, but I do think the ultimate decision should rest with the person who is wearing the outfit.

Answer 17

I'm completely offended by the previous questions.  My husband is neither controlling nor g*y.  Yet, he enjoyed helping with decisions for our wedding because he was so excited to be marrying me.

When we first got engaged, my husband and I browsed bridal magazines to get an idea of what we wanted.  We saw a dress that we both loved and went to try on dresses together.

The wedding planning process was a bonding experience for my husband and me.  We climbed this obstacle together and are ready to face anything else.

I feel sorry for the guys of those brides who think it's their day only.  Seriously? Did you forget the reason for the event in the first place?

Answer 18

I think that if he really wants to have a say he should..Girls usually take over because the grooms are not interested in details..

IT would be especially helpful to if the groom could take into account the body types of all the girls and make an informed decision regarding the coloring and sizes of all the girls...I think if you could do that and you want to then by all means,

go for it.

YOu should let her pick her own dress though.

Answer 19

NO! Sorry, but no...it is all about the bride....it is has been her dream for ever to plan her wedding. it is so important to her...you prolly won't even remeber what their dresses looked like 5 years later and she will 50 years later..so if you want this wedding planning to be as least stressful as  possible, just let her have her way...unless it is an issue with ethics or religion..giuve it up, let her pick her own colors and stuff....really cute though that you are tkaing an interst

Answer 20

Nope, sorry - Bride chooses what she and her maids wear and Groom chooses what he and his ushers wear. Thats how its working in mine and my fiances wedding anyway!!

Answer 21

Um....no.  Why would you want to KNOW what your bride is wearing?  Half the fun of picking out a bridal gown is thinking about the look of surprise on the groom's face...and why would you want to pick out the bridesmaid gowns?  Unless you're g*y....but then again you shouldn't be getting married to a woman in the first place!

Answer 22

heck no, this is kind of the brides big day, yea ur getting married, but shes weraing the gorgous dress, and stuff, but i dont tink she should just go out buying everyting , she should ask ur opion

Answer 23

Not really.  I guess to some point sense its the grooms wedding too, but when it all comes down to it, its the BRIDES day.  unfortunately, thats just the way it is!

Answer 24

h**l no. her parents pay for the wedding so she gets to decide what the women wear. do you want her to choose which tuxedo you wear?

Answer 25

I think that a groom should have some say, but at the same time, I feel that a wedding is something that every woman dreams of. So, if she has her mind set, it is never a bad idea to suggest things. Maybe they should have a little say, but I believe that weddings are for the women. And honeymoons are for the men.

Answer 26

No, and for two reasons.

1) We aren't suuposed to see the dress before the wedding.

2) Do we care? I know I didn't. I barely had any say in what I wore.

Answer 27

not the bride or the bridesmaids you should have a little say in that but definitely not the brides dress thats her decision and really a special day for her too

Answer 28

Exactly why she should choose it. The bride traditionally pays for it and it is her day. She should even get to choose your tuxedo and who your goomsmen are. Sorry, pal.

Answer 29

No, I don't. It has always been custom for the Bride's family to pay for the wedding and it is the Bride who chooses her colors and what the dresses these young women will wear. Her family pays for the bride's gown, all the flowers, gifts to her maid or matron of honor and the bride's maids and their dresses.

The only time the groom has any say so is, if he or his family is footing the entire bill for the wedding.

Answer 30

Yeah, i totally think that they should. I can believe people are saying 'its her day'

umm... it takes two people to make a marriage/wedding. A lot of woman just get carried away with their wedding day, im sure a lot of people forget they actually are getting married and have to spend their whole life with this person.

Men actually have taste though, imagine if you seen the dresses and other things and thought they were hideous.

My boyfriend will have just as much say in our wedding as i do!

Answer 31

why would a man care, in my experiences with bridal parties the men who care are either g*y or controlling and abusive.  Normal men really dont care, please really look at your situation, weddings are girly men typically dont care.