Dont know if i should have another baby or carry on with training to be a foster carer?

Question

ive got two little girls but the youngest one is the only one that belongs to my husband. my husband is a good dad and step dad. at the moment i am training to be a foster carer it is something that i have always wanted to do and my husband is very supportive and doesnt mind having a foster child living with us. the only problem is that if i become a foster carer i wont be able to have another child of my own because there wont be space in my home and im worried that my husband may want to have a baby but doesnt want to say because he knows how much i want to foster. i only want to do this if he does and if he wants a baby i would give up my training and have one but i would have to wait years before i get this chance again. im worried about making a mistake but i dont know which choice to make. ive talked to my husband but he just tries to make me happy and say the right thing all the time . what would you guys do

Answer 1

wow it takes a lot to foster and we need more people willing to do it!!! id continue with the plan of fostering but it is you descion!!

Answer 2

I think that is wonderful of you to want to help a child in need.  And it will be a very rewarding job for you and your husband. I think you should continue in that path, it will bring you a new happiness, different from the happiness of caring for your own child. Good luck, it sounds like you are very lucky to have such a supportive husband.

Answer 3

Like what kind of a foster carer?  You want to adopt a child to raise as your own or you want to provide "temporary" care to children in need?  I have a friend who works for an agency that monitors fostered children.  She said that she always thought about taking in these poor children who need a place to go, however now that she is working in her current position and has seen more than she would sometimes like to she doesn't feel that taking in children who have been abused or seen abuse would be "safe" around her own daughter.