Dont u just hate it when your friend cancels plans at the last minute??

Question

its so anoying! my friends do it all the time to me. unless they have a really good reason its so unfair! couple of weeks ago my friend arranged for us to go to the cinema that night, another really good friend then rang and asked to do som,ething else ( i really wanted to go with her instead cause hadnt seen her in ages and it sounded fun) but i couldnt cause i had to go to the cinema.. but later my other friend rand again to say that she actually couldnt be bothered and wants to stay in instead. i was lik.. wat! and it was too late to go with the other friend.. so im just left Doing nothing..

then last night another different friend arranged to do something tonight, she just had to ring me today to find tell me the time. i got call from my neighbours to do this other fun thing, but i couldnt go cause i had made plans! now this friend hasnt called, so i rang her, left msgs and she hasnt called back..

they dont realise how much it affects you when they just cant be bothered anymore, and when i could be off doing other things... :( nothing i can do...

anyone have any same experiences??

Answer 1

Always have a backup plan........even you can use that time for yourself.

Answer 2

if they dont have a good reason, than they dont sound like good friends

Answer 3

yep, and i tell those friends to call me when they get there.  if somethings comes up before they call, i let them know that i've made other plans.

sounds pithy but, after a while, you get tired of being disrespected.

Answer 4

I went through this for a few years with two friends from high school, and to this day, they both blame me for our current friendships failing, basically because I don't sit around waiting for them to return my messages or chase them constantly for their friendship.

Seriously, join a club, sports group, volunteer, take up a hobby, anything so you're not sitting around waiting. It really is disrespectful when friends keep cancelling. They do get used to you just waiting around.

Regardless, call your other friend and make plans with her. Life is way too short to sit around waiting for people; you have your own life so enjoy it!

But, I would have a calm discussion with the friend who dissed you and explain how unfair last minute, non-emergency cancellations are to you and that you're not going to sit around waiting for her to make up her mind. Maybe she doesn't understand how much it hurt you?