Dont want my little boy 2 go 2 high school?

Question

hes so lovely, im scarred h**l get with the wrong crowed, or get bullied. at my school it was either be a bully or get bullied. what chance do our kids have now days. id rather home school him and just send him 2 some after school clubs to socilise.

does any one else feel the same?

Answer 1

You rock!  Have confidence and don't be afraid to try homeschooling.  I can almost guaruntee that you will not regret it!

Every time I read homeschooling questions I get SO MAD.  People are just completely ignorant.  Allow me to state a few little-known facts for the benefit of the other answerers.

1)  Being bullied is not good or natural.  It is not an essential part of growing up.  It is pure h**l for the child and could leave emotional damages for the rest of their life.

2)  People are so concerned about socialization.  The main reason my mom decided to homeschool us was because she didn't WANT us to have that kind of socialization.  I believe that rather than helping a child to develop, it holds them back.  Spending all your time with people who are your emotional and intellectual equivalent or lower will not help you make progress in your own growth.  They say that you become like the people you spend time with - so spend time with people you respect, look up to, and admire.  Like your parents, for instance!

3)  Anyone with half a life can easily put themselves in POSITIVE social situations whether or not they are homeschooled.  You  meet people everywhere you go - it's not limited to a public school. Example -  My sister is studying for her private pilot's license - there is now a group of pilots or students she has met that are regular visitors to our house and who our entire family loves to visit with.  Also, we attend a fairly large church and take advantage of the wide variety of activities offered there.

4)  Do you people seriously think that every homeschooling mom is a pro in ALL areas of ALL grades?  NO!  My mom said she doesn't remember almost a single thing from her public school education.  She says she's learned more from teaching us then she ever did in school.  You don't have to have a degree in teaching or be an expert at science to teach your child.  You just have to be willing to put forth the effort to learn ALONG WITH your child - rather, a step ahead so that you can answer their questions!

5)  According to my logic and observations, being bullied as a child does not equip you to 'stand up to the world'.  Rather, it makes you fearful, with lowered self-confidence.  

Because the fact that I am worthwhile and loved has been reinforced to me throughout my entire life, I have more confidence and am more outgoing than most of my public-schooled friends.  I am not easily hurt by others, yet it's not because I have formed a protective shell around myself.  It's because I know that my worth is not dependent on what others happen to think of me.  

And somehow, I learned all this without going through the brainwashing, bullying, and brutal system that's supposedly so wonderful for our kids.

Answer 2

Ah, don't you just want to wrap em up tight and keep em from anything nasty forever!  I feel like that with by little boy.  I'm not going to say "oh he'll be fine" because it won't change how you feel, it's that maternal instinct taking over rational thought again!  Home schooling - not a good idea.  I do know one thing though and that is we don't realise how well our kids can cope with things (better than we did) ! And don't forget that schools take the issue of bullying very seriously nowadays, it simply isn't tolerated just like racism etc.  There's no job harder than being a Mum!!

Answer 3

Every mother feels this way when it is time to allow your `babies` some freedom.It is not a good idea to home tutor young children, even if you are yourself a qualified teacher,because they need the company of other children Your child will be alright with out you. If you are really worried have a talk to the teacher. Do try to settle your worries before your child goes to school and try not to transfer your fears to your son.Encourage him to tell you what he does and what happens at school, without inferring the possibility of bullying, then you will be able to tell if ever anything does go wrong. He will soon have friends, get to know their mothers, this will help.

I must tell you though, that you will always feel this way about him, at every stage in his life, you will worry. This will continue through childhood and teens and twenties. You will always have concerns for your child, even when he is an adult. Parenthood is a life-time job. I am sure that your son will be very happy at school, so enjoy it with him.

Answer 4

well i would say that, schooling him at home would keep him socialy behind

Answer 5

You have to have some credentials in order to qualify to home school your child. What makes you think he will get bullied in the first place? If you send him to some after school clubs to socialize; what makes you think he won't get bullied there? I would suggest Karate classes for your little lovely to help build his confidence and strengthen his muscles so he is able to defend himself. Send him to school so he can learn how to socialize with others....you can't protect him forever. Did you go to high school..?? just wondering

Answer 6

Well with the bullies it isnt as much as now ... like CNS (city of norwich school) thats where i go and ime fat and in yr9 and dont get bullied! And he can always tell somebody

If you want your son to make friends and so he is happy it is best idea to send him to high school and more education. He will be happy ... id rather get home schooled lol but going to high school is more active! And P.E is great you get more space on field and you dont feel alone.

Answer 7

This has more to do with your insecuities...every mum has them......he will do well in any school the more relaxed you are the child will be too......else if you are dead set on doing it yourself there is plenty of help out there but also lots of opposition...good luck

Answer 8

First off, in the real world, bullies are hauled off to jail for the tactics they get away with in public schools.  

Normally, I wouldn't mention this but have you considered a charter school? Some states have them where it is public school at home.  

K12 has their virtual schools in other states, and Calvert has Connections Academy - neither of which are in NC. They are usually the first two online charter schools in each state. Online public charter schools are the only way to get an online education "free" (you still pay your property taxes). Post what state and we can see what options you might have. You still need to have your child be active with other people and these virtual academies have field trips and get-togethers. You can also get him involved with community activities such as boys and girls club or parks and rec sports.

http://www.k12.com

http://www.connectionsacademy.com

Answer 9

i feel exactly the same about my son and i wish i was qualified to teach him my self, and because of a rare illness that he has i have to have a meeting with 98 teachers, but i bet they don't listen, so i know I'm just going to be constantly worried

Answer 10

I feel the same way, though I am biased as I was home schooled by my parents neither of whom have any teaching qualifications (in the U.K)

I think it was the best thing to ever happen to me. I was taken out of school after being bullied and being home educated allowed me to regain my confidence and some. It also allowed me to become my own person away from the pear pressure children now experience.

And it is rubbish that home educated children can't socialise with other children that is just not true of the majority of children who are home educated. I am now in my second year of college getting on well with people my own age (18) and making loads of friends. I have also got great exam results for my A-levels so home educating didn't hold me back but has allowed me to achieve my potential.

I think its great that you are thinking of home educating as it is fantastic and if it means your son is not bullied, which can be crippling all the better. Just get him enrolled in drama clubs, scouts that sort of thing where he gets to interact with children his own age and he should be fine. You will probably find he if the envy of all his mates who go to high school :) since he gets to study outside the national curriculum which can be boring and study a wide range of subjects.

Whatever you and your son do,all the best and greatest of luck.

Answer 11

yes indeedy.......so i kept mine at home. go look at these links, they'll help you. www.sandra dodd

www.education_otherwise.org    www.freedom-in-education.........and also look at joining a yahoo chat group.... type in  yahoo groups, and then search for..AEUK, and also  EDUCATION OTHERWISE......then your son will be as freeee as a bird to develop as he will. oh, and socialisation is NEVER an issue.....people just put it forward asan argument cos they're caught up in the system........HAPPY HOME SCHOOLING   see you on the chat site.... x*x

Answer 12

i will be homeschooled soon.

ive been to elm, middle and high school now.

And trust me, it's not as bad as you'd think.

No one really gets bullied at my high school, and there aren't many bullys around. You should let him try it out, see if he likes it and then if he likes it, he can stay, if not homeschool him!

I chose to be homeschooled because, 7 hours of the day is too long in my opinion..I'd rather do it all in 3 hours, and do other stuff after.

I'm homeschooling online, so maybe you could try that too.

Good luck!

xx

Answer 13

If he doesn't go to high school and risk the bullying, how will he ever survive in the real world? There are bullies and jerks everywhere, and we have to learn to deal with them.

When he's 26 and working at the gap, and a customer comes up to him yelling and carrying on about how the pants they just bought ripped, will he be able to handle it or will he have to go hide behind Mommy's skirt?

I never had a problem with bullies when I was in school. Everyone just did their own thing and if you didn't like someone, you didn't have to talk to them. Which is how I run my life as an adult, too.

Answer 14

I'm 15 going in to year 11. I'm going to be starting at a tutorial college. Yeah its expensive but I think its going to be worth it, my old school was a bad experiance for me, girls are really b*tchy there, boys have high expectations not all but it doesnt take many, I had that in my primary/elementary school but I think that was just children being cruel, whereas there are some good high schools but if you can afford it I would send him somewhere like where I'm going. Its small, and you get treated like an adult not inferior to the teachers, plus people are much kinder. Because of my childhood and my high school over the years I was always depressed and then when I turned 15 I couldn't take it and now am on antidepressants, and I'm not taking anymore of it please dont let him turn out like me and be aware that boys are gonna show their emotions less than girls because its not 'manly'. Look after your boy, don't feel bad if you let him get hurt just dont act too late. I've been through it all if you ever need to talk x

Answer 15

you should let him go to high school let him experience life and other people and let him have freedom he will be just fine

Answer 16

I am sorry, but get real. Look at your spelling and punctuation!!! You may have been qualified to push him out, but there is no way that you will convince me that you are qualified to homeschool! He will grow up to be an uneducated and unemployable moron!

Answer 17

You'd better send him to school.  Your grammar is an argument against home-schooling.

Answer 18

YEAH! someone who doesnt automatically assume that just because they want to homeschool their kid they have to have a socially unstable kid!!!

In my opinion homeschooling is great.....but hey,what do I know? haha!

Dont be discouraged from it if you dont feel qualified,there are several curiculum out there that make it possible to teach a subject thoroughly without  having a degree yourself.

Answer 19

put him in school for a bit and at least then you can pull him out if you want. if you are worried then go onto the UCAS website and search for a good school in your area on there. but it sounds to me like you're holding him back and wrapping him in cotton wool, and later on in his teens he'll just rebell against that and purposly do things like get in with the wrong crowd. but schools aren't that bad anymore, and really, kids need to learn how to be tough and to stand up for themselves, otherwise he'll just be a softy for the rest of his life, which is not good for him in the world of work.

Answer 20

he will be fine, i started high school tues and its great! ppl arent mean at all. but the grade twelves are a little scary cuz they are so big.....lolz

Answer 21

For most of elementary school, I was home schooled myself.  If my parents had given me the choice, I think I would have chosen to home school all the way through middle and high school and not really cared about the social ramifications.  You're biggest hurdle is going to be state laws.  Find a home schooling group or organization in your community (they are there) and talk with them, they can tell you what the laws regarding home schooling are.  Believe it or not, there are numerous states that do their best to discourage home schooling, so make sure you know how the system works before rushing into it.

Home schooling has its advantages in terms of the quality of education kids get.  In most cases, home schooled kids have access to unbiased history, and aren't as indoctrinated in whatever nonsense (not necessarily true) the state and teachers unions say is the truth.  I won't go into depth on that point, but people tell me that's a concern they have when they think about public versus home schooling.

The drawbacks home schooling has are reduced exposure to performing arts (theatre, band, etc) classes that just can't be taught at home (Theatre was my favorite subject in High School and it's not the same thing to read a play in the living room and actually perform it on stage).  Finding clubs that promote well rounded educational opportunities for kids isn't easy if you're not in a big city.  Also, the social dynamic is one that a lot of people think of when they think of home schooling.  From my own experience, I never really fell in step with my peers after starting home schooling in one state, moving to another and being put back into the public school system.  It is something to consider.

Public school isn't for everyone, but deciding to home school should be made after trying out the public school first.  If things are too rough there, and the opportunities to socialize are limited, then maybe home schooling is better.  Let your son try out high school for a while, if he finds a club that he's into, let him participate (I was in Chess and Dart clubs along with theatre, I was the only ambidextrous dart player in the team's history), having a group of others around who share similar interests will reduce the likelihood of your son getting mixed up in the wrong crowd, and it'll give him the confidence to stand up for himself should he find himself being bullied.

Answer 22

I understand your worries, but are you qualified to home school?

Answer 23

Let him go.

If you taught him right from wrong, and provided him with enough self esteem, he will know which crowd to hang around with.

Bullying is something that happens, and it actually therapeutic for kids to go through a bit of.  (I am talking about a little rivalry type stuff, taunting and the like, not any actual violence.)

I understand the desire to protect your child, but in the long run, you are not doing them a service.  The real world is nothing like home, and children learn how to deal with it through interaction with other children, good and bad.  

If you let your son get pushed around a little, he will learn that it is not the end of the world, and that he will survive a bully just fine.  He will encounter the "wrong crowd" at work, and he will encounter "bullies" at work.  And, there is a lot less protection available to him at work, he will be expected to take care of his own bully problems.

Let him go to high school and learn how.

Answer 24

yep, but you have to let him go. he has to spread his wings and this is where you really come into it as regards parenting. you cant cotton wool em. the world is a nasty place and they need to learn that for themselves and how to stand and be counted. i'm sure he'll be fine. and i'm also sure we arnt the only generation who have felt this way and i'm sure we wont be the last.

Answer 25

no you have to let your kids grow up  bullied i think he is old enough