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Drama, Friends, and Life! Can you please give me some much needed advice?

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I'm a military wife, and hardly have any friends. I am stuck in a circle of drama, and everytime the water is calm a tidal wave comes crashing down! So, I really need some advice on what to do. I'll give you a little background info.(im making up names)

Friend 1(Ann)-So, I met Ann a while ago, and we have had lots of ups and downs. Her husband is disrespectful, rude, an alcoholic, and narrow minded. They are very young(18 and 20), have two kids, and no education. That was fine with me, I try not to be too judgemental. However, she causes so much drama. She says she hates all these people, and then hangs out with them the next day. She takes everything personally, and talks to me for hours on the phone about her life and plans over and over. Her house is infested with roaches, as well as her vehicles too.

Friend 2(Kayla)-So, she was the first wife that I met. She is very judgemental, and rolls her eyes at everything. She talks horribly about everyone, so it makes you feel uncomfortable hanging out with her because you know she talks about you too. She tells you how to do things, and also tries to help everyone out, but she is very nosy. 1 and 2 talk about how they HATE eachother, but hang out sometimes too? Weird!

Friend 3-I really liked her. She dosnt have kids yet, so I can relate to her a little better. She is mature, yet can be goofy if she wants. She is a little prissy, but so am I..haha! Well, friend 3 and I had an arguement a while back because she wanted to stay with me for a while. I didnt know how to tell her NO without hurting her feelings so I lyed to her telling her that friend 1 was staying with me. (it was friend 1's idea). Anyway, friend 3 wants to put the past behind us and be friends again. Which is great because I really like her. However, she now hangs out with friend 2, and her boyfriend likes friend 1's husband, and whenever I hang out with #3 Ann(friend1) gets jealous and talks c**p. However, I really dont like #1 because she is immature and annoying.

What do I do without causing drama?

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  1. Thanks alot for helping me with my question. This is a tough situation. Just don't trust anyone with secrets. Dont talk about one to another because it will just back fire on you. Tell them that you just wanna hang out with one person. such as "hey, let's just me and you hang." or something along those lines. Make it simple and don't let her think you dislike the other girls.  


  2. It sounds like you need to look around and find some opportunities to volunteer or join a club or something else! Maybe get a job or work on some activities at your church. The people you are describing here sound like total time wasters. And not only that they are stress inducers. So from my perspective they are wasting your time and causing you some internal damage. What do you think?????

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