Dream about brutally beating cheating husband, and wearing a captain america costume? What does it mean?

Question

So I'm at a touristy type/barber shop with my girlfriend. We are both getting our hair done and my girlfriend says that she heard one of the girls that worked at the barber shop performed oral s*x on my husband. (In real life, my husband cheated on me once before we got married and in waking life I am not worried that he will do it again. I trust him.) Back to the dream. I'm mortified and unbelievably upset. I try to call him but his number isn't in my phone. So I try to punch in his number, I remember seeing the screen on my phone very clearly as I try to punch in his number over and over again, but somehow the wrong buttons are pushed. I cant seem to type in the right numbers. I'm getting very irritated by this and decide to go find him on my own. i end up finding him and start questioning him about said girl. I think I asked him something like "Have you been hooking up with other women?" or something. He's avoiding the question and being catty with me, but he finally admits to it. I start beating him in this alley/parking lot type thing. I'm hitting him over and over again, this unbearable rage comes over me. I beat him for a long time when finally he says "okay, okay..." And I stop. I throw my ring at him. The scene changes and I'm walking up stairs to my mom, she asks if I'm okay and I say I'm fine, even though I'm crying. The scene changes again and we're at the police station. I'm with a very close friend. My husband is drunk and being obnoxious.

For some reason he was responsible for us, and since he's drunk he can't drive us home. (I dont know why we were at the police station). The cops are calling people to come get us. I say I can take care of myself, and I run away with my girl friend. I remember telling the cops that we weren't with my husband and we can take care off ourselves. I was still livid with him about the cheating thing. We're running down another alley that resembles some of the alleys of the town I grew up in. My husband is following us. For some reason my girlfriend and I are both wearing a Captain America costume. My husband catches up and my girlfriend disappears. I'm crying still, but allow my husband to put his arm around me. I feel safe. He keeps trying to pinch my butt but I tell him to stop because I'm crying. I feel overwhelmed with love and anger. We hear the cops as we're walking up more stairs to get out of the alley, and we try to hide behind a bush, but I'm wearing a Captain America costume so the cop sees us. Then I wake up.\

Please help me figure this out! I had this dream only a few days after

we got married. Both my husband and I still wonder what it might mean. He used to have a drinking problem which is why he cheated on me.

Answer 1

Wow.  I was married once before. My husband left me for a friend of mine and I worked very hard to forgive him, but about two months later, I had a dream that I was stabbing him over and over again. (And the girl too.) Subconsciously, I was still very angry. I decided to be deliberately kind (planned-- premeditated kindness) to the both of them in order for God to heal me of these anger issues. It did help me get over it and I was able to move on. I still remember what happened though and I am very careful with my friends and my marriage. I know forgive and forget is a common cliche, but not necessarily a very healthy one. It's okay to remember what you know in order to protect yourself, your husband, and your marriage in the future.

Another thing that you need to keep in mind is that when someone breaks trust with you, it takes time to rebuild. Time, openness, and accountablity. Your husband's phone, email, friends, car-- all of it should be an open book to you-- to rebuild trust. Nothing should be hidden.

So okay, usually I interpret the dream first, but I'm a little out of sync I guess.

Your dream is about a subconscious question. You may have forgiven your husband in your waking life, but subconsciously, it's still there.  You're asking "What if..." and then subconsciously hashing out an answer. How would you cope? How would any of us cope?

The scene changes, and you're at a police station. The police represent the authorities-- and it seems that you're accountable to them. God created men to provide and protect. In your dream, your husband isn't doing that, and the police are trying to figure out who can step in to fill that role.  (And this goes back to those wedding vows.)  But your reply is anger. If you can't have your husband's protection and care, then you'd just as soon fend for yourself. (And frankly, my dear, I don't blame you for that response one bit!)

And then you're running up and down alleys from your hometown. Your husband, representing this issue of cheating, seems to be following everywhere yougo. (Which might be true in your waking life. Even though you say you're not worried, your dream is saying something else. It's okay to feel that way, healing does take time.)

Your girlfriend and you are wearing captian america costumes? Not too sure about that, unless you feel like you need to be a superhero in order to deal with the issue or life in general.

Your husband's response-- pinching your butt-- seems to be that you might perceive that he's not taking your heartache or issue seriously, but just concerned about HIS needs. You should talk about this.

Hiding behind the bush-- first time I read this, I forgot about this. If the cops are really representing those who would hold you accountable, then hiding a bush would mean that you're trying to go on like nothing's happened. This wouldn't hurt him at all, but it would you. But since you're taking on this superhero persona, it's more obvious than ever.

And I know folks who've had drinking problems that haven't cheated as a result. Please, for your honesty and sanity, don't connotate the two.

I would recommend prayer, first and foremost. Prayer is a strange thing, like dreams. There is a lot of power in prayer, specifically in the name of Jesus. Strange, but true. Popular, no? But there you go.

Prayer and a Christian counselor. The reason I specify Christian is because they have values that the world in general does not. My parents saw a counselor that recommended divorce. For the sake of yours and your husband's wholeness, you both need to work together to face this issue. It WILL make your marriage stronger and more stable.

Blessings! I will say a prayer for you both right now!