Dream analysis please?

Question

I had a dream that has really been bothering me all day.My dad died when i was 10. This sunday will be the 6 year anniversary. Last night, i had a dream that he came back(i know it's not possible.) I had sent him a text saying how happy i was that he was back and i was going to go see him and i was crying i was so happy etc. and all he said back was yeah. I saw him standing on the sidelines watching a town football game and was running towards him and he looked at me then turned back to the game. He knew it was me but he totally rejected me. I stopped next to him saying "Dad let me hug you please! I've missed you so much come on!" and he looked at me and with no expression said "no i don't want to" and turned back to the game. After that he didn't acknowledge me at all while i stood there asking if he even cared that i was crying and that it was killing me. I got nothing but total rejection and it hurt me a lot. I woke up crying and I don't understand why I had this dream. Before he died, we had the best father-daughter relationship, like the ones you see in corny movies, so i don't understand. I believe that you have dreams to tell you something, and i don't get what this dream is trying to tell me. Please help analize my dream and help me understand why i had it! i miss him so much and this wouldn't be the reaction i'd get from him if he really ever came back.

Answer 1

When people who have died come back in dreams it is that they come for a visit to see you. Have you been holding on too much to him? (it is understandable if you have) It may mean that he is fine and you need to move on with your life. This may have been the only way he could signify this to you. Its his way of telling you that he loves you and wants you to move on and be happy.  

Answer 2

The error people make when interpreting dreams is trying to find some meaning for it as it applies to their physical life.  People are addicted to the physical life.  But dreams are messages for the spirit, not this temporary physical life.

The spirit who was playing the part of your father in this life is a spirit that you do know on your spirit level, itself.  But you know your father in a different way, in a more ancient way.

In your dream, your father learned of who YOU are as a spirit.  When you approached him in your dream, you approached him from the mindset of his daughter in THIS life.

This all explains why his initial reaction to all your crying and happiness was just "yeah."  He had learned something about you on a spiritual level that he wished you could know, and this was his way of getting you to question his reaction.  "Why are you reacting this way to all this crying and happiness to see you?  Aren't you as excited to see me?"  The fact is, he is actually FAR more excited to see you than you can imagine.  It's because he sees you in such a bigger way now, as someone he's known for far longer than just being your father on earth.

At the ball game, you saw him again.  He saw you, too, but turned away from you.  This was a stronger message than the first.  He's telling you here that the way he knows you as a spirit is so much greater than the way he knew you as his earthly daughter.  In fact, as a spirit, he has already accepted that he will never know you again as the fleshly daughter you are now, as this life is temporary.  The feelings between the two of you are more ancient than that, and ancient feelings of a different type that originated before creation began.

I think this dream is a goodbye from your father, but also a hello from the spirit who played him and who knows you on a far more loving, divine and understanding, unconditional way.  Your experience in the dream was an expression of your own hurt over this, and you hurt because you weren't understanding what it meant.  What I've described should explain what's going on.  The truth is being revealed that these fleshly bodies is not who we are on an eternal level, therefore we won't know each other in the same way that we knew each other in this life.  We'll know each other in a far greater way.  Your father's spirit knows this, and he knows, also, that you will love it so much, and be so glad, or he would not have put you through all the pain he put you through in that dream.  He DOES love you more than you know, and it hurt him equally to see you go through that.  He did it for both of you, for both of your eternal souls.  You won't know him again as the father of your current physical body, but you will know him again as a VERY close friend of your eternal spirit.

As for the timeline, I've been feeling something is about to happen -- that we're all about to be reunited with our ancient friends from before the start of creation.  Literally all the dreams I've been reading in this section of Yahoo Answers have been declared as bizarre by the poster, but I see all the signs of the merging of heaven and earth in all these dreams, and we'll once again know ourselves and each other as we were meant to be.  I hope it happens soon. It feels like it is, but sometimes feelings can be misinterpreted.

Damaeus

PS (Added after Right Guard's post) - Hey, I think if you mesh together the information in my post and Right Guard's post, the whole thing will make more sense.  I always speak from an eternal perspective, while Right Guard speaks from the perspective of this life.  Putting the two together should add up to a complete picture.

Answer 3

I don't know if you have a new father-figure in your life since your dad has died or not. If there is a new father-figure, this dream of your dad may represent you current feelings about your i.e. "step-dad". You are missing the relationship you had with your true father and that longing is being translated into a dream. A longing that you had before and cannot be replaced by any other "father" is making you wish for that kind of person to look up to once again. You want someone you can come to and express affection with, like you used to with your dad. There has been something missing in your life since your dad has died. This is an issue that you have to deal with in your soul because it is causing you to seek for him. Perhaps you can work on your personal relationships with other family members by looking for and initiating ways that you can be closer. In example, you can organize a day out with your mom to express issues that are on your heart.

Answer 4

You are still dealing with your father's death.  One of the steps to recovering from this loss is to be depressed.  You feel like he rejected you by dieing.  Do not feel bad it is common and only means that you are working through what has happened to your life.

The footbal game is life and you are on the sidlines trying to get your father back.

Get in the game and forgive him for leaving and forgive yourself for letting him go.  He would truly want you to move on.  Be the quarterback and make the big plays so he knows that you have moved on.

Seek peace.

Answer 5

you where probably just having a dream with mixed reasons...about your dad because the anniversary and maybe something happened in your life getting rejected that week, or even someone getting rejected on t.v or something, happens to me.. sometimes dreams just don't make sense and they normally have something to do with what you did that day

Answer 6

I am very sorry for the loss of your father, that is a very hard thing especially at your tender age when it happened.  

You've actually answered your own logical question - logically - "this wouldn't be the reaction I'd get from him if he really ever came back".  But while you know that intellectually, there's more at work between your heart and inner mind that needs some kind attention, hence your heart-felt question.

Your dream signals a need for closure - even after six years.  It appears that your growing maturity from that time to now has kept this need alive - you were only at the cusp of those years that bring such rapid change to us when he died.  Now, being sixteen, you've matured a great deal and your perspective has matured, but the memories and impressions from that time are those of the younger you in large degree.  There is a conflict in this and it makes gaining closure between the heart and subconscious mind a bit more difficult.

'Closure' of course is that process by which we reach some state of reality with grace - not forgetting someone but coming to grips with the loss in a way that permits a more normal daily outlook as we move beyond grief.  You no doubt struggled with this loss as a youngster and found some degree of closure or you would not be as healthy in attitude as your writing indicates.  Now, here you are in adolescence - and likely doing so much that your dad would be very proud of.

Your heart and inner mind haven't caught up to that quite yet.  The feelings you struggled with before have not been dealt with in the light of your current maturity.  Your adolescent maturity makes new demands on your understanding of this loss, even after six years.  In a sense you are being forced to look at his loss again and some doubts appear to have crept in about your own nature, not his.  

That's human - it is OK - but what is important for you to understand is that those doubts are not truly warranted.  Given what you've shared of the relationship he would never treat you the way he did in that dream - as you already know in the rational sense.  But dreams are at once terrible and wonderful - they reveal that gap between heart and mind in such things.  By synthesizing this hurtful scene the dream surfaces this need of focus to your conscious self so that you can make the connection needed to gain peaceful closure now as a young adult.  

All of your reactions to 'seeing him' are quite normal - including your shock and disappointment at his rebuff.  That actually underscores how much you still care.  Think of how you felt as this was occurring - and how he seemed to feel: you were not of interest to him.  Why?  You have grown, you are not the same 'kid' he left before.  How could you do this, grow up without him?  And what of the things you do now and what you've become - how could you expect him to accept those?

It truly seems that there is a part of you that probably wonders, deep inside, just what he would think of you today - you've outgrown that little person he knew and turned into someone he never knew.  How disappointing for him to see you and not find what he should have, no wonder he turned his back...

Again, quite human - but wholly not true by logic.  He would delight in you and the things you do - by the tone and content of your writing I can tell that.  You care deeply about him and honor him with your care - which makes me believe you honor him in all ways possible as you hold him close in your heart.  He could never be disappointed in those things about you.  

It seems you 'outgrew' the relationship as you recall it.  Little wonder - you have not been able to enjoy 'growing up with him'.  So, when he 'came to you' in the dream you could not imagine being recognized or appreciated as the same child.  But just as you have written already - if he could step back into this world today he would know, love and appreciate you for so many things.  It is that logic that your heart and subconscious mind need to embrace - it is a truth.

Take the dream then as a gift - it gives you a direction to take: to consciously refocus on this very thing; to see him as one who is not locked away in time forever even as you live on, but one who would know you anywhere and love you for being his own child.  This he would do no matter your age or circumstance.  

Do this and allow the more mature you embrace him again in spirit so that you can consciously realize that he would return that embrace in full measure.  You do also need to give yourself a forgiving break and  forgive yourself for 'growing up' and let this realization work its way into your heart.  

The love between you has never gone away and it will grow every day of your life, even though he cannot be physically present.  The 'relationship' does change - it grows as you grow - it's OK.

You will have to decide these things for yourself, but your dream calls out for a continued need of closure and your growth does appear at the heart of it.  Go and grow and know that - let the feeling seep in that he can know it too because his love is in your heart, always.

Again, I am sorry for this hard loss in your life - but you have great heart to have shared what you did and honor your dad quite well.  He would love and admire you for that.

All the best to you.

Answer 7

all i can say is Disney is right. a DREAM is a wish your heart makes. but what you had was a nightmare. nightmares are caused by stress in our everyday lives. as you said, the anniversary of your fathers death is coming up this sunday. that alone is enough to get your mind wandering places, even when you're NOT asleep. this nightmare is a result of a memory that will never be erased. in these past 6 years i am sure you've had the opportunity to run every idea of what would happen if you DID get the chance for one more day with him over and over in your head. and i'm sure you've thought about every option so much that you began to think about how it could go wrong if he came back instead of going right, no matter how much you didn't want to believe it. there is no deeper meaning to this nightmare other than the fact that you have a lot on your mind right now.

like you said, you know you're father, and you know if he did come back that this would not be how he would react. don't doubt that.

keep on keeping on.