Dreaming of the dead?

Question

2 1/2 years ago I had a friend of mine commit suicide. His death left a bad taste in my mouth (so to speak) because of it's nature. I was in military training in the middle of the woods when I found out about his suicide, and I didn't get to go home and attend the memorial service. I went through a couple of phases with his death. One being hurt, confused, and then eventually angry on top of being hurt. I over the past two years I have put him out of my mind. But now I am dreaming about him a lot lately, and it's really messing with me. One of the dreams I had, we were having s*x, and he was mean and disrespectful towards me. The other dream I had, he attempted suicide, and I got a chance to hug him, and tell him that I love him. Can anyone tell me what's going on. I have never experienced anything like this before. I literally woke up with chills.

Answer 1

Just my guess, but I think that being in the military is making you consider your own mortality, in addition to his.  This is very normal, considering what you are going through.  Get counceling to deal with these very real issues, and I wish you the best.

Answer 2

My grandmother passed away last October and sometimes I have dreams with her in them.  The last one I had I was in a pool with my kids and in the distance I saw her floating by smiling.  I just took it as me missing her.  I think when we dream about people in our lives that have passed on it's because we miss them and we feel like we didn't get the chance to say goodbye and tell them how much we love them.  I think in your case, because he commited suicide and you were so far away when it happened you have a lot of questions that cannot be answered and therefore they are coming out in your sleep.

Answer 3

I personally think that you had never really got a chance to say what he meant to you and you feel a little guilty becuase of it. Maybe you need to sit down and write him a letter and set it aside... this will help you tell him all the things you wanted to tell him. Also if he is the first death experience, it may be you are realizing 'death' does happen. Just a thought!!!

Answer 4

Basically, the state you see the deceased in is the actual condition they are in, in the grave.  If they appear content, then there are in peace, if they are discontented or irritated, upset, angry etc..., likewise, that is their state in death.  The dead can no longer perform any deeds, therefore they are at the mercy of the living to recall them and ask for forgiveness and God's mercy upon them.  The dead can hear the living, so what you say and how you remember him/her to others will be heard.  Whatever the dead say in a dream is the truth as they live in the world of truth, while we live in the world of deceit and lies.  Therefore, anything a deceased says, heed.   This friend needs someone to pray for him and ask for forgiveness.  If you are able to perform deeds of kindness, charity or generosity on your friend's behalf, do so as this also will be to his and your favor.  As I said, he can no longer perform deeds, thus, any kindness you can do on his behalf will be a reward for him.  He comes to you in need of prayer.  Do so.

That you have physical relations with him only indicates that you or he loved each other as friends greatly.  You had admiration and respect for each other.  This person is in not a peace.

Regard