Dreams about my grandma..what do they mean?

Question

i keep dreaming about my grandma who has passed away last year..most of them are bad (like she's either suffering infront of me and i cant do anything to help her..or i try telling her stuff i didnt get the chance to when she was still alive but i end up not saying a word) and i end up waking up in tears..i rarely dream a good dream about her..whereas my sister always dreams about her and all of them are good dreams..what do these dreams mean?

Answer 1

you probably have some regrets about her, whether you didn't get to know her well enough or didn't have adequate last words.

why don't you talk to someone who was close to her about your feelings? it will make you feel better.

Answer 2

Your grand mother was always suffering ; because she was trying to tell you ; that you would go through  lots of suffering in your walking life . You lost the person you love ; its a big test in a life of every body ; but your sister is happy ; so that why your grandma was happy

Answer 3

The same thing happened with me with my grandpa and the reason it was happening for me was i had regrets of not being able to say goodbye and tell him how he was my role model and it seems it happened that day with my entire family because since then it has fallen to pieces. So my advice to you is write down everything you had to say but it in a water tight baggy and bury it near her grave and if she was cremated then tell her use the urn and just sit down with it in front of you and say everything you wanted to say

Answer 4

i agree with consumer. Have you done anything to her before she died and she didnt know? it could even be something small you dont remember like stealing a small amount of money along time ago or something. Maybe its best to get anything off your chest if there is anything

Answer 5

You feel as if you didn't spend enough time with her, and her spirit is restless to you because she wants to spend more time with you.

Your sister must feel as if she's done enough, and she's accepted it.

Answer 6

Our relationship with our grandparents is generally less fraught with the kinds of emotive issues  that can characterize our attitude toward our parents, and their appearance may express a desire for just such  a relatively untroubled relationship with our mother or father. A  grandfather may symbolize the wise old man, just as a grandmother could represent the great mother archetype.

Answer 7

Your dream is one of struggling to gain closure about your grandmother's death.

I'm sorry for your loss - obviously you cared for your grandmother and do miss her.

Your sister's dreams are different - for whatever reason she's been blessed with a peaceful sense of closure over this loss.  Be glad for her and hope for the same for yourself, it will come in time.  Your sister is getting 'messages' of affirmation that 'it is OK' - your grandmother no longer suffers and the relationship is satisfied.

In your own case something is in the way of that same message.  You mention wanting to say things you never got too - and find yourself unable.  The dreams seem very related to that very thing.  We can all develop a sense of guilt in such a loss where we suddenly realize we can never say all the things we wanted to - and realize then things that we hadn't even thought of.

What can one do?  Our loved one has gone on from us and we cannot reach them to express how much we loved them.  For whatever set of reasons many of us get saddled with a regret as if we did not really let others know of our true care and love for them.  Maybe we were distant in some ways, or just didn't realize the gravity of an approaching loss.

It is not too late, however.  Are such dreams 'visits', or 'just dreams'?  They are quite real to the dreamer regardless of what the cosmic realities may be - it makes no difference.  What is real is your own heart and what is left there by the one who has gone on.  You must know that because of the very feelings you have - your grandmother would have known how you cared.  It matters not what was verbalized in this world - what matters are the feelings that transcend whatever shortcomings you may sense in your relationship.  

You have to consider how she truly knew you to understand that.  It did not have to be a perfect relationship; you did not have to be there all the time, or always have all the 'right' things to say - you have your special place in her heart that can never be destroyed.  She knew it before she left this world - even if words were not exchanged.  By her experience in life and how she would have known you there is little you could say that she would not have sensed.  It is indeed OK afterall - and you must let your own heart and inner mind accept that.

The images you are seeing of her suffering are in effect something visited on you because these things are not yet complete in your heart and mind.  Stop and consider that she no longer suffers, where ever she is, that condition is not there.  Realize how she loved you - and knew of your true love, no matter what else went - or what may have gone unsaid.  Love is bigger than that.  You care enough now to feel troubled - then allow that care and love to embrace what is truly there - an indestructable love between you.

If you can embrace these things and know that they are true - for they are true - then in time kinder dreams of a healing, fulfilling nature will come your way - just as your sister has known.  There's nothing wrong with you - it's purely a human thing.  But we're all individuals and deal with grief in our own ways and schedules.  

Give these things thought and allow your heart to grasp the idea - it is OK, she knew your love - it carries on.  Words could never stack up to that thing anyway, and she knew what was there and would not have you seeing her in the way that your dreams are showing her now.  She would want you to release her spirit in love and goodness so that you could know that same feeling in full force.  Let it be so.

All the best to you.

Answer 8

Basically, the state you see the deceased in is the actual condition they are in, in the grave.  If they appear content, then there are in peace, if they are discontented or irritated, upset, angry etc..., likewise, that is their state in death. If you are still mourning and greiving, you are causing her to suffer which she is. You grandmas discontent with you can also indicate there are things you are doing which she does not approve of.  Also, the dead can no longer perform any deeds, therefore they are at the mercy of the living to recall them and ask for forgiveness and God's mercy upon them.  The dead can hear the living, so what you say and how you remember him/her to others will be heard.  Whatever the dead say in a dream is the truth as they live in the world of truth, while we live in the world of deceit and lies.  Therefore, anything a deceased says, heed.   Your grandma needs someone to pray for her and ask for forgiveness.  If you are able to perform deeds of kindness, charity or generosity on your her behalf, do so as this also will be to her and your favor.  As I said, she can no longer perform deeds, thus, any kindness you can do on her behalf will be a reward for her.  She comes to you in need of prayer.  Do so.