Dummy boyfriend!!!?

Question

My boyfriend is a smart guy but he has a lack of general knowledge, example he doesn’t know the well known personalities of the world, capital cities, important events, can’t read that well, cant speak that well, cant tell a story properly, he is kind of rude guys and I am having problems with it and sometimes I am very shame while he is talking or doing smth. He is very busy as he works a lot and people around him are more or less as he is. He can’t leave that work cuz it is a family business.

Do you know is there any simple book (easy to understand) or any school in Europe that can help him to start and be part of the civilized world. Please help me cuz I love him and this is my major problem in my relationship. If you know any book that can help me to stimulate him or to make me help him please tell me.

Thank you very much

Answer 1

Anyone who asks about "Dummy boyfriend" has insufficient understanding and loyalty to be a "girlfriend".

You need to look deep within yourself to answer the questions:

   1. Why do I consider him a boyfriend?

   2. Do I think I can change him or "educate" him?

   3. Why would I spend any more of me on someone I really  

        don't like?

Answer 2

bring him to Y!A

Answer 3

i agree with kathy, and you shouldnt refer to him as dummy.

Answer 4

My impression is that you are going to "take care of him" in a very cruel world.  If you are doing that - then stop with the "boyfriend" stuff.   A potential marriage would be a disaster since you would always feel you were superior to him (mentally) and that isn't a good match for an equally balanced relationship.  Marriage is too hard anyway, let alone to take a problem like this into it.

You should turn him loose - let him develop without you "enabling" by protecting him.  Perhaps he is happy where he is and you are giving him unrealistic hopes and goals.   If he is not capable, then you are being cruel.   You have to be mature and let this one go - at least temporarily until he can stand on his own.  

There are many public programs for learning and he needs to pursue them if he really wants them - that's how you will  know if you are "beating your head against a wall" - don't expect him to change - he may not, no matter how much he says he wants to.    We all have to be our own person in a relationship and you are functioning somewhat as a care-giver, not a romantic PARTNER.  Partner - get it?     Let him bloom then decide if it is a good match for you, otherwise, you are doing so much emotional damage.

Good luck.

Answer 5

It seems like your boyfriend is just not very up on current events. I would suggest you start reading the newspaper with him. It's a great way for him to become a better reader while learning more about world happenings. Also it wont make him feel as stupid or inadequate as he would if he had to learn from a book like "how to be civilized for dummies". Most newspapers are written on a fifth grade reading level so it should be simple enough to understand.

Answer 6

tell him study! do few short courses.... read more.... anything that will  improve his thinking...