During your divorce, was there an "I NEVER thought he/she would do this to me" incident?

Question

Not specifically what CAUSED the divorce, but more along the lines of the separation process itself after you had decided the marriage was over: litigation, alimony, custody, dividing joint property and possessions...

What were some things your ex-spouse did that you NEVER suspected he/she would sink so low?

Answer 1

He called up my BRIDESMAIDS and SORORITY SISTERS and told them how pitiful he was when I left him.

They naturally were intrigued by his charm and sad story and they took his side.

He also got a coworker to CALL MY DAD AT HOME ON HIS OFFDAY to beg him to make me take my ex back.

Ha!

Answer 2

I personally havent gone through one but my mother has the day we went to court i seen how she was full of shame when my father took her to court to fight for my brothers custody she said how could he have done this to me... Personally i think evryone goes through this faze

Answer 3

he killed himself a year after the divorce.  That was 16 years ago and I blamed myself until I accepted that is was his drug addiction and I had a good reason to leave him.  I was to find out later that I wasn't unique in feeling the "I never thought he/she would never do this to me" concept.  I have been remarried to an attorney and he has many divorce cases.  I work with him in the office part time as a paralegal and I have seen many many weird things angry people do in divorces that are very self sabotaging and reckless selfish acts that hurt innocent kids and families.  So sad.

Answer 4

He called child protective services and made a bogus complaint in order to try and gain custody.

Talk about making my head spin.. I could not believe it.

Thankfully I kept custody of my son but the whole thing hung over me like a dark cloud for a long, long time.

Answer 5

Well I'm not the one going through the divorce, it's my boyfriend who is divorced. They had a pretty amicable divorce (as much as can be expected) until she found out he had a girlfriend (me). Now she's taking him to court to prevent him from seeing his children. What does that have to do with him seeing me? I'm a perfectly nice person...in fact her and I have never met. I always hear about people using the kids as pawns in a divorce, but it's different to see it firsthand. Especially when there's no reason whatsoever for it other than the fact that she's mad he has a girlfriend. I've never even met the kids either. It's so sad that because she's upset, the kids don't get to see their dad and he's crying because he misses his kids so much. Please everyone remember what's important...the children! Not the adults' petty jealousies.  

Answer 6

The soon to be ex-wife has accused me of being a drunk, my family as abusive and irresponsible, and not fit to take care of our child.  Plus, she told her attorney that she was not getting anything in our division of assets we agreed to.  Meanwhile she has ended up with more that 75% of our community property.  The topper was when the locks were changed at our house without my knowledge the weekend before I was to pick up my property.  I showed up and had no access to my assets.  Then I was threatened by her attorney that the cops would show up if I were to try and pick up my possesions on a scheduled weekend she agreed to.

Answer 7

Yeah -- my ex hid all of our stuff, so when it came time to divide our property, it was GONE.  That's okay, though -- I got the most important part of that union:  our two precious children.  And that's the rest of the story, after the divorce, he paid his child support once.  It was for two months, a check -- that bounced.  Our children didn't see their biological father until 16 years later, when they were both in their 20's.  

Answer 8

marrying the very female that he knew was a crack head