EMERGENCY: his insecurities are going to end our relationship!?

Question

We had a talk and He projected all these things onto me saying that I "felt" that he never was good enough for me ( like making me happy enough and being romantic enough) and that he knows he's holding me back...

none of it's true. I try to ell him how happy he makes me and I love him more than anytrhing. he drives me to be this amazing person. he basically broke up with me becasue he thought I wasn't happy enough ( I was very happy) It was so sudden and I know this is just another one of his emotional impulses and I don't want to lose him.

How do I make him feel secure in how happy he makes me and how much he means to me?

I really don't want to lose him but I don't know what to say to him. he's really stubborn so I can't say the wrong things

Answer 1

Honey, this is one of the most common of all break-up ruses: "I'm not good enough for you". (Read: "you're not good enough for me".) Second perhaps only to "it's not you, it's me".

He doesn't want to be with you, but he wanted to let you down easy. There's nothing you can say or do, it sounds like he just wants to be on his way, but he's not brave enough to just be honest and tell it like it is.

Answer 2

tell him hes good enough for you and always will and that hes not holding you back. tel him you truly love him  

Answer 3

Unfortunately Sandy is right.

To add to that - if he has had 'emotional impulses' that's a sign that this has been coming for awhile.  Emotional impulses just mean that someone's been keeping something inside and just 'explode' their emotions once they've bottled up too much.