Early Maturing Girl Now A Women ?

Question

I posted this question a short time before in a different category and was disappointed by the results...I am hoping a fresh set of eyes will yield better results.

I am a young woman who physically matured early as a girl (began developing breast in third grade and menstruated in fourth grade) I also looked much older than girls my age. Being earlier developed caused me to have low self-esteem and body image and I often felt like an outsider at school. I often masked by chest in bulky clothes and sweaters. My personality also began to change during this time. I stopped participating in sports and physical activities and became painfully shy and isolated which continued well into high school. I basically stopped being a kid because I felt I no longer was one, I guess I never gave myself to fully live out my time as a little girl. As a young women (almost 20) I feel that the effects of developing so early are still haunting me. I believe that I suffer from social anxiety because of this. Can someone tell me my social anxiety truly stems from early puberty? Also can someone list any effects of early development as girls become women?

Also note that I consider myself a loner who prefers to be left alone and find it hard to make friends.

Answer 1

I can not relate completely because I am male, however, I was a late bloomer (which is the guy equivalent to you).  It is possible that all this stems from puberty, however, you can not continue to suffer.  Talk to a doctor or counselor.  They can probably help you live a more productive and satisfying life.  Also, if you can learn to live with your body in a positive way, you may find relationships much easier (especially with the opposite gender).  If you feel this kept you from living a satisfying childhood, then it probably was the culprit.  Trust your feelings dear.  Don't let it interfere with yur time as a woman. You are in the prime of your life and you should be able to enjoy it.  Also, keep in mind that men may find you more pleasing than those ignorant 4th grade boys.

Answer 2

Dear darling,

No worries, I think everyone is different in many ways. I don't see anything wrong with being physically developed earlier than anyone else. Have anyone done anything to you that made you uncomfortable about yourself. This is your body and you need to start accepting the fact that you'll be whoever you are and nothing can every change that. I know what i am saying doesn't help much but I hope you understand that everyone is different. And for those who treat themselves kindly will regard you with respect. Respect your body and accept who you are.

I bet you are beautiful. And remember there's a time for everyone to go through the same stage as you did. Maybe if someone needs any help you can talk to them about it.

God bless ya <3