Egyptians, putting a no-polygamy clause in marriage contract?

Question

Scholars at Al Azhar have said that it is within women's rights in Islam to put this in the contract. I will put it in mine Insha'Allah, not cause I don't trust my fiance (I do) but because that is the whole point of the contract, to lay down your terms and conditions...

Egyptian women, would you/have you done this? Men, would you agree to sign such a contract?

Why yes/no?

Answer 1

no

Answer 2

***Edited post.

You know Shalfat, after reading your post and thinking about it a little bit, I think you are right. I previously said that I would never marry a man who didn't sign the contract as I couldn't be in polygamous marriage. I still know that I couldn't share my husband but really polygamy is not just about the men it is about the women too...

Say the man I married and had kids with suddenly decided that he fell in love with another woman instead  (Insha'Allah this will never happen!) if I put the condition in the contract he will definitely divorce me and if say I was a stay at home mum and unable to support myself (hypothetically) and my kids, what else could I do...

If I didn't put it in the contract I could stay married to him until we sort out proper arrangements and I have the time to make sure that i'm looked after and then leave if I want... although I would NEVER let him anywhere near me if he married another woman and certainly wouldn't think of him as my husband anywhere but on a piece of paper.

I think you cannot force a man to be monogamous if he wants to be polygamous... he can either divorce you if he finds someone new or have extramarital affairs, or like Hope said a misyar marriage.

If you find that he has taken another wife, you can get a divorce. You do not need a contract to do this!

p.s. Give Shalfat best answer!

Answer 3

yes u can do that. I didn't, but maybe I should've lool

Answer 4

Hey there Eman,

It's your God given right to accept to continue to live with your husband or not if he chooses to have a second wife, so by having it legalized by the law, there is no contradiction to it.

I think my husband wouldn't have mind if i asked for this clause to be added to our marriage contract, but still, even old timers like me have the law on our side, cos a second legal marriage will be automatically reported to the first wife..... that is the law, as to what happens in real life, well we all know its a different thing.

In both ways Eman, this clause will mean absolutely nothing if there is no faith and trust between the two partners, cos quite frankly there are other methods to marriage other than the formal one like 3orfi, messyar (which is becoming a new fashion these days),  and other ways too !! and as those marriages are usually secretive, the first wife will have no way of knowing what's going on and might even have a tough time proving it in the court when she asks for a divorce due to violation of the marriage contract.

Answer 5

i think yes its her right as it his right too.

About me: i didn't think of it wallahi but my fiance asked me once what i'll do if he married another woman and i told him that he has to deal with it in a proper way between the 2 of us PLUS he has to tell God his own reasons for the second marriage.

Answer 6

Some people incorrectly assume that Muslim men will marry/have 4 wives.  Multiple wives are seldom found in Islam today.

As for signing a contract, I wouldn't mind and I'd make her sign a pre-nuptial contract as well..

Answer 7

No Eman, I will not.

Allah gives us allowance because he knows best about his creations. But sometimes his creations trying to go their own way, thinking they know better !!!!!!

Just to give you an example of how wise Allah is and how unwise people are. you will only put this condition in your marriage contract thinking that you are protecting yourself. Well, you are wrong my sister, because when Allah allowed polygamy it was for both men and women not only for men.

Now, imagine that 15 years down the line you got very sick and you couldn't take care of yourself or satisfy you marriage duties. Your man loves you but he also doesn't want to fall in Haram, so he needs to get married but he also wants to take care of you. What would he do, he will either divorce you and you can't take care of yourself Or he will not and he may do somthing Haram, I say may because people are different.

Allah is the all wise , he will not allow something that is harmful to people. Now you are just turning your contract like Christians thinking that you are protecting yourself.

Anyway, this is my opinion and it is your decision. Wish you all the best in your life.

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Edit:

@Eman: I don't think you got my point Eman. You have just repeated what I mentioned above about trying to protect yourself against the Future that Allah only knows. Remember when Allah said in Quran what means that  you may hate something and it is good for you, and you may like something and it is bad for you.

At the end of the day whether you put this condition in the contract or not, I am sure you have chosen the good muslim man who will obey Allah and observe his orders and take very well care of you.

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Answer 8

Eman ,  I am always the one that has a different answer ,  I want my husband to have a second wife ,  because I want him to be able to have a blood child of his own .  I am not selfish and I think he should be able to marry another girl that can give him a child . But ,  I would make him sign a pre -nuptial  agreement that my money is MY money .

Answer 9

if I'm a monogamy pro [ which I'm not ] I would do it happily , but I won't do it even for the girl I love .

Answer 10

Of course I do not agree with this requirement

We Muslims succumb to the teachings of our laws and not of status