Egyptians , what is your opinion on this B.B.C. article about marriage in egypt?

Question

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/middle_east/7554892.stm

Answer 1

Why are you so focusing on that point?!!!

Tell me what's the most thing made you ask that Question To know how to answer you right Mr Persian?!!!!

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UGH ...hey Bro @ Bleeding :  Look ..it is non of ur business and ana mabaheb ghalstek heyda....we be3dayn...i think am here in Egypt for a period that's enough to let me talk.....

I think there is an Egyptian Proverb says "al labebo bel eshraty yefhamo"....Ain't it  ya labeb BEK ?!!!

and For the Last time .Lütfen.........SAKKER TEMMAK BEYAZ ERKEK

Answer 2

I speak from experience; alot of this is largely misonveyed but some is true. Women are allowed to seek things and higher education is respected by most. However, there ultimate demise IS marriage and many know that. Also, women usually don't have to decide if they're gonna marry someone who is only invited to their house. Usually, families get to know each other for awhile and the chidren talk on the phone/meet in groups/family settings. The rape is not high! But there is ALOT of sexual frustration and you can tell by the interaction between men. Many men DO act stupid and will harass girls if they are alone (as in touch them)--but rarely will go all the way.

Ya, it's kinda bad--and there are more 40 y.o. virgins than you'd expect o.O Sadly, they can end up marrying an 18 or 19 y.o girl. :/

Yaaaaaaa =D

Answer 3

OK i have to comment on that:

the book talk about marriage frustration issue in finding mr/miss right is right regarding financial problems. however some complicate things for themselves when they start to engage a girl from a higher social class. it is important to honest with one self...

in general: in most marraiges both the groom's family and the bride's family share the expences.

but the author frustration with her search finding mr-right is totally exaggerated, the stories (i read one sample story from the publisher website) are totally fabritcated or exagrated., and it is non-sense that she was the one who says no all the time.. and the other side was always seeking her.. isn't it weird?!!

i have read some articles from her book, she never talked about her dream or ambition of somthing. never talked about what motivates her in work, study, or even entertainment. i find her lacks a lot of self-defintion for her position in life. not really a marraige issue.

in the matter of fact: i find it some kind of self-reasoning to illusion her self why she didn't get married till now. just by generalizing that all youth are immature and irresponsible.

also living-room meetings are NOT supposed to be the end of the story, it is followed with an engagement period that could extend to more than one year is important so each parties get to know each others in a family context.

living room meetings are like a frist date, it is date when both parties agree to explore each other more, and this will be through the engangement period.

it is not right that we in Egypt dont support a girl who wants to do something related to her career and study, what the writer is talking about is just related to some social categories.

the main problem from my own point of view, that we lack the appropriate social interaction that is suitable for our coservative society in order to interact with poeple of similar interests and then the chances to meet the right one increase.

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@Moonrise: great answer.

Answer 4

i think it is 30 % right .

it sees part of the picture only .

our girls Do want to get married , this is healthy .

families Instill the idea of marriage in the minds of girls , this is good so that they wouldnt become wild and prefer to be single .

we are an Islamic society that refuses sexual fulfilment outside marriage.

there is a financial problem in Egypt as in all the globe .

families try to facilitate this problem in many ways like helping the young ones , providing the home for them, not demanding too much , etc.

this is a good point in our society which is well  bound .

the rich provide the poor with their needs .

my family provided a poor family with all that was needed for the marriage of ALL their girls .

we have a belief that when you help a couple build a home , you will have a home for you in Heaven.

the rate of divorce may have risen , but this is bec the young generation has become impatient , independent .

but the greatest majority stick to their spouses .

when someone asks me for advice about a problem with their spouses , i always pacify them, give them a peaceful strategy , they follow it , and become like newly weds .

this Article sees the negative sides only .

it needs more objective research to see the truth .

let the writer go to spouses who are happlily wed .

Answer 5

good ? but i can't answer.  funny that i saw your ? just after posting mine about it.  am looking fwd to reading the responses to this ? though...

Answer 6

"By the time they actually get to live together, they are already tired of each other"i think this part right here is so true,although i don't have personal experiance but my sister is married and her and her husband has been engaged for a year i belive and in the begining of there marriage was nothing but fights,she said that you should get engaged with in the couple months because "By the time they actually get to live together, they are already tired of each other"if they are engaged for a while then get married theres allot of fights but if they get engaged with in a couple months they have plenty to learn about each other in the begining of the marriage,but every  one is diffrent..but this is my own sisters thoughts this is what she belives.