Eight year old son giving me too much lip!?

Question

I have an eigh year old son. He is good for the most part, but talks back to me a lot. I'm firm with him and have rules, but he just disrespects me too much. The other night I was hooking up a came for him and I needed to upload a newer version. Well he went off saying I didn't know what I was doing and got so mad because I didn't give him control of it .. so he goes into a fit of rage saying "I hate you, you're the worse mom in the world, you don't know how to do it stupid" I was shocked. So, I put him in his room with no TV or lights and told him to go to bed that what he said really hurt me. The next morning he wakes up like nothing happened. Any body have a child talk to them this way.. what do you do? I don't want to spank him. All I can do is punish him.

Answer 1

I would first empathise with him by telling him that you understand that it might be frustrating for him not to be able to do it himself. Then tell him that you are willing to help, but only if he is willing to be patient and talk respectfully. If he cannot then you will not help. Period. I think how you handled it was good. In general when my 6.5 year old son talks back to me, I tell him "I am willing to work this out (whatever the problem is), but it is not acceptable for you to talk to me this way. Go to your room (chair, time out, etc.) until you are ready to talk about it nicely and I will be here when you are ready." I found that spanking only made my son angrier. The point of discipline is really for the child to learn inner self control that will help him to be a more successful adult. Patience and boundaries...good stuff!

Answer 2

ANGER MANAGEMENT if you do not want to spank him. He has anger issues.

Answer 3

A good old-fashioned bare bottom spanking

is the answer.

Answer 4

i would probably just make him care for himself under you supervision until he will respect your authority. or for faster results under one week, introduce him to the back of your hand

Answer 5

You should talk about the incident now that it is over and emotions are not so high.  Tell him that you are not going to accept him talking to you like that and there will be consequenses EVERY TIME he does it.  I think in his room, no tv or games or electronics is good.  If it is dark outside, I'd say lights out is good too.  If that doesn't work you may have to take away electronics, tv, games in the daytime too and see if he gets the message.  Also, be sure to talk to him with respect to set a good example.

Answer 6

Tell him he is grounded from games until he apologizes and MEANS it.

If that doesn't work, spank his butt until he cries like a little girl and show him you will not tolerate his bad behavior OR continue receiving what he is dishing out.He doesn't respect you because you give him no reason to when he wants to misbehave.Also get some positive men role models in his life.

Answer 7

its a part of growing up i think. i am the same way (15) and well i wasnt like that when i was 8 but it is similar. and basically when i say that im just getting mad and instead of keeping it in i just let it out and i dont want my mom to yell at me becuase htere is no point. he just let his anger out instead of keeping it locked inside. just say to him "if you think your so much better than you do it" or somethiung like that but dont lock him in his room it really does nothing to kids these days

Answer 8

spanking is NOT ok for this age -- try going on ebay na d getting "total transformation" book and cd set, ot at least consider really looking at another way to relate. libraries have "how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk" it is not SO hard to control him based on fear but he will act out especially later. it is a ctually normal for them to say that sometimes. not saying it's okay, but not SO off the  charts.  don't take it personally but don't totally l;et it  go eother. just don't listen to people who say "punish" because the thing is consequences are better and not punitive, leading to less rebellion later when it could dod more damage. this is not mumbo-jumbo this is based on others' mistakes....

Answer 9

Sounds like my house. I have an 8 year old son too, and he can be a hand full.. and that's being kind

Depending on your discipline method, you need to stick to your guns.  If your punishment is taking away TV and lights at bed stick to it.  

There is no point in trying to reason with a child in a fit of rage, its best to punish them and discuss it once they are calmed down. And its best for you not to have a fit about it (at least not in front of him)  If you freak out and start yelling he will take cues from you

Best of luck and stay strong in your convictions

Answer 10

Now may be the time to give a well-deserved spank. When he's doing this, he will be so surprised if you give him one good spank that he'll stop almost in shock, and this can work wonders.

Answer 11

well if you're not going to spank him then get used to this fun behaviour of his. you reap what you sow.

Answer 12

we, as human beings--especially males, need some stimulation.. & we generally love control

ever notice how some people always need to hold the remote control for the tv?

I guess that's the way it is.. & I guess it's normal for an eight year old to do that.. you mustn't get upset because he said those things.. u know he doesn't truly mean it & that he was just, i guess u can say, frustrated because it was taking "too long" for him.. I don't know how he is but I'd say he's quite impatient and loves attention.

Would u have liked it better if that next morning he woke up still mad at u? It's good to be able to let go of things like that.. cuz it shows that he's able to forget easily & not hold grudges, and also that he doesn't really hate u.. but was just mad for some time.

Answer 13

Well, I think after you punish him you should tell him why you punished him and how you expect his behavior to be. Not only that, but when he's doing something good reward him. And it's a part of a child that at some point tests the things he can get away with, so I would suggest that when all end fails to whoop him.

Answer 14

I Thought That Rebellion Stuff Happens During The First Year Of Being A Teen

Answer 15

you have allowed this type of behavior....now deal with it ! !

Answer 16

i know you dont want to spank him

but to me thats the only disipline that only works. just try it once. and if it dont work then dont do it anymore.

i kinda think that you need to show him whos boss.... your the adult so show him that and start acting like one

Answer 17

I think he feels like he can talk to you like this because some were in his life you started to let him. I think you need to put your foot down soon before it is to late and he will only get worse. Maybe sit him down and have a talk with him and tell him how it makes you feel when he talks to you the way he does or if you have a man figure in your family ask him to sit down with him and tell him how he is suppose to treat people and how his should always respect his mother and all other women. Good Luck

Answer 18

Beat his ***. I have no idea what is wrong with parents! If your kids i a little a*****e beat there ***! Dont get on the net and ***** about it! Untill you wise up get used to it!

Answer 19

you should take away the things that he is most interested in, such as games, TV, etc. Put his games in the trunk of your car for long periods of time, that's what my mom did. The more he cuts up the more you take. Once he realize that he has nothing left he'll understand that he can't act that way and still have luxuries. Once he starts to act better don't give him the stuff right away make him earn it by doing chores or something. That way he'll start to act better, respect you more (because you can provide or take away his stuff),  learn responsibility, and appreciate you and his toys more.