Elder brother constantly orders me about?

Question

First off, I am 23 and about to enter graduate studies. He is turning 27 and is constantly scolding, dictating, and ordering about whenever he talks to me. He and his family live about 8 hours away.

He constantly says "You shouldn't do this, or more directly, don't do this." And I'm freaking sick of it. I mean geez, he was the one that made most of the major mistakes in the family by getting his fiancee pregnant and having a child out of wedlock.

I'm sick of him constantly shaking the finger at me. He wonders why I never call or email him. And when I asked him to please stop, he just mutters "whatever." Jerk.

Answer 1

He just doesn't want you to make the mistakes he made.  Tell him that you want a brother brother relationship not a father son relationship.  Show him you are responsible and he will worry less about you.  He just doesn't want you to get on the wrong path.  I'm sure it is out of love if it wasn't then he prolly wouldn't ever say anything to you.  He isn't doing it cause he is bored he is doing it cause he thinks it is what he is supp. to do,

ohh my bad, brother sister relationship, not a father daughter relationship, you are female right.

Answer 2

just  tell  him

Answer 3

There are people in this world that just need to be telling someone what is  or is not right. What to do and what not to do.  Your brothers appears to be one of them.  Just accept it as what it is, him trying to be the big brother that thinks his little sister needs advise.  In one ear and out the other.  thank him for the advise and move on.  Be thankful he doesn't live with you.  If he questions why you don't call or what ever just tell him you have been very busy with studies.  Limit what you tell him about your life and maybe there will be less advise given.  If you know in advance that you are going to be seeing him prepare what you are going to say to him. Maybe even come up with some good stories to lead him in some far off direction.  Could actually become a game for you.  Just don't take it all too seriously, have fun with it .  Life is short, at least he talks to you.  LOL  

Answer 4

I kicked the c**p out of all my brothers, and they all deserve it again!

Ask the Lord for all things first

then your prophet

then yourself

then your unconditional loves

then this pathetic place last!

why do you put God and yourself last all the time, women are surely twisted and bent sideways and upside down these days.. women are being attacked by the devil!

Answer 5

yea i know how u feel..mi big sis is exactly the same...if u try 2 ignore it only gets worse..then they yell @ u.. well i don't really get along wid mi big sis cause shez stubborn.so its best jus stay out of the house....tell him hes 27..not 15h hes a grown adult..so tell him 2 start acting like 1..and 2 he shouldnt b bossing u around..tell him im not ur puppet..stand up ..and tell him y dunt u do it urself..if u dont speak out against him..then this can go on 4ever..

good luck...