Embarassing or what??

Question

Hi,

Now this is really embarassing, but as i dont have to face anybody here go's.....

I've been seeing a new lady recently who is absolutely gorgeous.She is kind, sensitive, and loving, i cant believe my luck, and she makes me really happy.

We have taken our time in 'that dept' and have spent many an evening kissing and cuddling to the point where i thought i was gonna explode.

However, things have moved on in recent nights, and whilst initially all go's very well, things keep 'flagging' at the most inappropriate of times.

I have NEVER had a problem like this before, and it's really playing on my mind. My girl has been great about it and tells me not to worry, but of course i am......has anyone some advice they might be able to give me?

A.

Answer 1

It sounds like she is a great girl!

and this could be a part of the problem. I had a similar issue with a girl that was literally the most beautiful woman I had laid eyes on. And after about 15 minutes, I would go off the boil and experience the shame of trying to slap some life into yet remaining s**y... not easy.

Maybe your anxiety comes from the fact that you think she is so great! Having her on a pedestal can lead to trying to hard, and worrying about not being able to satisfy etc and its a mental spiral that is hard to get out of.

Take her advice. Try not to worry about it. As the relationship develops further, and your feelings deepen, your anxieties should lessen and normal service resumes =)

Answer 2

You've probably got performance anxiety cos she is so special to you. It can happen to the best of us. Just relax, take it slow, let her know that this may happen and things'll work out fine.  

Answer 3

well done you are moving on. The thing is now is not to try to hard, let things run at there own pace. and as your new girlfriend says don't worry give it time and every thing will come good  

Answer 4

You set your self up with a little bit of performance anxiety and the stress is causing a mild problem that will go away with your relaxing and giving yourself to let things happen naturally.  Focusing on her beauty and how she turns you on, it will happen.  Sounds like you are so lucky to have her and to be with her.  If the problem continues ask your doctor for a prescription for one of the ED medications and that will definitely help.  You will feel like a spring chicken.  You will be fine.

randy

Answer 5

proberly performance anxiety