Embarrassing question... My daughter saw me pee in my pants. How should I deal with the situation?

Question

Ok, about a week ago I’ve been shopping with my little girl (she’ll be 3 in october) at the mall. I was dying of thirst, so I had gotten a large soda and a bottle of water. By the time we were about to leave, it had made its way through my system and I wanted to go pee on our way out, but found the bathrooms closed for cleaning. The other bathrooms were all the way on the other end of the mall and my dd started nagging, so I decided to hold it till we got home since it was only about 15 minutes to go, I thought. Unfortunatly I proved wrong, as an accident blocked the road and traffic was held up for quite some time. 15 minutes became 30, became 45 and I was sitting there now dying to pee after i had my large soda and water. When we finally got home after more then an hour, I was absolutly bursting. I got out of the car and picked up my daughter. As we were walking back to the house, I felt a spurt coming out and started to panic, but since my daughter was walking next to me, so it was not like I could grab my crotch. I just ignored it and kept on walking, using all my willpower to hold it, but I couldn’t do it anymore. A couple of seconds later I started peeing full speed, soaking my panties, leggings, socks and sneakers, creating a huge puddle on our driveway, my little one watching me mesmerized. "Mommy?" she asked, rather confused "Did you pee pee in your pants?" "Yes honey, mommy had an accident." I answered not knowing what else to say, feeling my face turn beet red. I told her that accidents happen, but about a day later she came to me and said: “Look mommy!! Look!! I’m just like you!!!” and she was there peeing her pants. She is potty trained, but now its been happening since I did it. I really don’t know how to handle this. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Your daughter needs to understand that what you did was wrong and that if she continues to pee her pants she will be disciplined.  She is still young too so if the disciplinary action does not work eventually she will grow out of it.

Answer 2

Mommies have accidents too.  *hug*



Just try to tell her that it was an ACCIDENT...something you don't want to happen, but it does.  

Answer 3

sooner or later she's gonna forget that dear!

Answer 4

i think you handled it well.

you told her you had an accident.

perfect! something she can relate to!

tell her it is not normal for you or her but sometimes accidents do happen!

Answer 5

well maybe you should tell her that peeing your pants is only on accidents and that you should always use the restroom when ever having to go pee. me peeing my pants the other day was only an accident, don't do that anymore...

Answer 6

I know its too late now but next time i would suggest a little white lie... Like persay mommy spilled her cola on herself or something?

Not healthy to lie but its a lot easier in this situation.

Answer 7

quite the role reversal, the daughter watching the mother pee her pants.  i give you credit for not lying to her when she asked you "did you pee pee in your pants?"  You said "yes i had an accident" and you should remind her again that's what it was - an accident.

not sure if there's a much more embarrassing thing a mother could do than pee her pants in front of her child, but fortunately your daughter's so young, she'll forget about it before long (and you'll likely never forget about it).

Answer 8

LMAO!!! I'M SORRY!!!! BUT HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAA!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

retrain her, and shell forget all about it by the time shes 3 [in october]

Answer 10

that is hot!

Answer 11

If i was in this sittuation/

'' Darling you have to stop pee peeing your pantys because mummy has to clean it all up now. Mummys was an accedent and it isnt going to happen again with me, so lets not let it happen again with you ok. Remember santas watching you, and you are a very good girl and we dont want him to change his mind now do we.''

It should work. But go soft, because he/she is only turning 3 x

Good luck x

Answer 12

try to tell her, what you did was wrong, and was an accident , and it will probably never happen again, good luck

Answer 13

   Just don't be embarrassed about it . And deal with it openly and in a very matter of factly manner

  

  

Answer 14

tell her that you just spilt something on your pants. it depends on how old she is if she is older than 4 then there isnt much you can say about it just tell her the truth that you peed your pants she will under stand hope i helped bye!!!!!

Answer 15

AWWW , I'm sorry but that is so funny and cute.

Okay well about your daughter, you should simply sit her down and explain to her that it was an accident and that big girls shouldn't pee on theirselves. And if she says something like "But you did." just keep trying to convine her of the fact that it was an accident and emergency.  

Answer 16

That is an absolutely horrible situation and I'm so sorry that had to happen to you!  Talk about the irony of ironies with the traffic getting blocked and the bathrooms being closed!  It's like something out of a terrible nightmare.

I do think it's a pretty easy situation to handle.  Just say, "No, Mommy peed her pants because there wasn't a bathroom to use.  When there is a bathroom that you can use, you go to it.  Mommy should have tried to even pee in the bushes but there weren't any around.  Peeing your pants is bad because then they smell and you have to wash them."  Also, don't let her watch that scene in Billy Madison where Adam Sandler explains that you're not cool unless you pee your pants.

Answer 17

We are human's , so things can happen accidently... She is little girl so she might not understand... As a Mom try to convince her.

So try to tell her that this is a simple accident happened in a circumstance... not always....

make her to forget this....

Answer 18

tell her.... u were not trying to do it... and say u have to use the toilet or u have to go back to diapers... i had no bathroom but you have one availiable at all times

Answer 19

Because she's so young she will eventually forget about it.  Tell her it was just an accident and that everyone can have accidents. Even mommies.  But just because it happens sometimes doesn't make it funny or something we should try to do.  Start rewarding her for using the potty for a little while until she forgets about it.

Answer 20

explain what happened to you was an accident, and you didnt do it on purpose. remind her she has never seen that happen to mommy before, and probably never will again. tell her how she is a big girl and knows how to use to the potty and you would like her to be a big girl that you know she is and to use the potty, and she doesnt need to "be like mommy's mistake" children understand a lot at this age, my daughter is only about 2 months younger than yours.