Emergency can u please help me?

Question

im 13 and im a freshman in high school and im stressed out. me and my mom fight(argue) all the time, i have to clean up the house everyday so i dont have time to do my homework, im failing 3 classes because of that and i dont get any sleep for example last nite i was up till midnight cuz my mom had to use a loud machine to clean up the carpet. i have to wake up at 5:30am every morning for school. i almost fall to sleep in classes cause i dont have time to sleep. i have to walk to a far bus stop because i was threatind to get jumped and i turned them in but they mite have to use my name in order to help me.

What do i do? im so stressed out that i overdosed in vitimans and other medicine(for my asthma) Im tired and i have no help. what should i do please tell me?

Answer 1

I have a mother like that my dear. (I'm 28 years old now) It damaged me quite badly and I haven't spoken to her in 9 months. She's been diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and takes 13 medications a day...I could go on and on. I never said anything to her when I was growing up, I thought that was just how things were so I dealt with it.

You, however, have recognized this is a problem (VERY VERY smart girl!) and you've also realized that its affecting your whole life which gives you great insight into the situation! :-)      The answer here is to at least attempt to have a rational and calm discussion about this with her in a non-confrontational situation. You could do this while you're out to dinner with her, at the park, watching a movie etc. Make sure it's just you and her alone. You DO NOT want this to turn into an argument so avoid yelling or getting upset.

You didn't mention if she has any type of mental-health issue or substance-abuse issue or if your father is involved in your life. This is fine, that's nobody's business but your own. But I'm really urging you to talk to her. If thats not possible or you felt like you didnt get anywhere with her while you had the discussion, then go to someone else. An aunt, grandfather, family friend, etc.

This will affect you long into your adult life which could damage your relationship with her permanently. While it may not seem like it now, you will want her in your life as you get older. Going to college, getting your first apartment, your wedding, buying a house, having babies...etc. Good luck sweetheart!

p.s., you sound like a great kid with a good head on her shoulders! We're all pulling for you :-)

Answer 2

your 13?! in high school?!

Answer 3

Of course you've got help Denise, you just don't see the big picture around you. There's plenty of support for you out there, starting with your mother, sit down with her and talk to her daughter to mother, tell her that you need somethings change, tell her that you've got school to concentrate on and that you can't clean the house EVERYDAY. If you have to get a guidance counselor or another adult you trust to intervene and help out.

Anything is possible If you put your mind to it, I think your mother is pushing you too hard. You need time to yourself, time for friends, school even a bf.

Anyways get things worked out with your mother, and get some sleep young lady !

It's unhealthy to go without sleep !

Best

Jordan  

Answer 4

Tell your mom you need more time for your homework. And if you need

to go to bed earlier then go to bed earlier. Don't yell at your mom.

And don't whine. Just ask. And you should say sorry to your mom.

Just tell her in a nice way that you need more you time. And you'll

clean the house when you have free time.

Answer 5

I think it would do you some good to try to talk to a teacher or your guidance counselor about your situation. Perhaps you can also enlist the help of a family member...an aunt or uncle to speak to your mom about it. There is no reason for you to be so busy with housework that you can't do your homework. Even your principal might be able to speak with your mom to get her to consider your needs over housework. Remember, your school administrators can only help you if you seek them out. If you hit a dead end, then keep trying until you find someone sympathetic to your cause.

Answer 6

Talk to your school councilor.  They are good at helping with parent problems like yours.

Answer 7

i would talk to your mom about it and let her know how you feel. and if that doesnt work, i would talk to a guidance counsler at school and maybe she could talk to your mom for you?

or maybe a dad or grandparent?  

Answer 8

First of all, you need to sit down with your mom and calmly talk to her. You need to tell her that you have to do your homework because you are not doing so well in school. Tell her that you can do your chores after you finish your homework. She should understand this-she's your mom! If that doesn't work out, you could look into mother-daughter counseling.

Here are a few sites:

http://www.counsel-search.com/

http://family-marriage-counseling.com/

You can also talk to your school counselor.

For your schoolwork, just keep working on it, you'll catch up! You should also ask your teachers to help you. They won't mind! It's their job! :)

As for the bus stop, you should call the school and ask them to have your bus come closer to your house. I'm really sorry about the threat, but you did the right thing talking to the cops.

WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T OVERDOSE ON YOUR MEDICINE! I know that you are stressed out hon, but you could kill yourself!! Don't ever do that again! If you are really freaked out, you need to call a doctor hotline. Try this number:

Call 775-982-5757 or toll free 888-324-3243

here's the website:

http://hometownhealth.com/hotline/index....

I wish you good luck, and I'm so sorry that you have to go through all this. Just keep your head up high-you'll get through this! I hope this helps!