Emotional longing for children at a young age?

Question

I am 18 years old, and engaged. My fiance and I plan to wait until after college to marry. Please note that we are in an extremely comitted and serious relationship. When we first started dating, I had dreams every night of being pregnant for two to three weeks. I would get extremely emotional anytime a saw a pregnant woman or young child. I still get longing urges to be pregnant many times a week. While my fiance and I plan on having children, we want to be stable first. How can I put these feelings aside until I am more prepared for motherhood. Please help as this is effecting me in my everyday life.

Answer 1

Your feelings are fine to have, just follow through with your plans first before you take that step.  It sounds like when it happens you will be a very nurturing mother.  just wait!  Urges are a natural reaction from our hormones.  You know you'll  have kids someday, so enjoy your youth and then motherhood.

Answer 2

Wanting a baby is normal, but know that it is REALLY difficult to have a baby - it really isnt as easy as it looks. Try to enjoy the stage in life you are in now. Try to enjoy the alone time that you an dyour fiance have because once the children come, that alone time disappears for a long time. You will miss this time. Dont be in a rush to grow up. It will happen when it's time. In the mean while, maybe you can babysit for some infants. That may help with satisfying those baby urges and may help put things in perspective about how hard it really is to be a mom. Dont get me wrong, being a mom is great, but it's worth waiting for. It's the hardest thing I've ever done, and i graduated with a 4.0 from and Ivy League college and am finishing my doctoral degree.

Answer 3

Maybe there is a reason for the longing.  I was the same way and learned at 18 I had a fertility issue.  I was married so the doctor said that I needed to have kids now or never.  Now at 25 I have had to have a hysterectomy and only have one child.  Sometimes our feelings are placed there by God for a reason.  God Bless!

Answer 4

Oh honey. I'm 15, and I have a mothers instinct. It's just your womanly insticnt kicking in. In the olden days, woman our age were required to have children at this age, you know? So, it's ok. It's really normal. It just means that you want children in the future and that you are quite a motherly person. When I was nine, I'd care for little ones as if I was a 30 year old adult, it freaked people out. They all said I had 6 people's motherly instincts combined into one, and it shocked them.

It is completly normal my dear.