Emotional nine year old daughter?

Question

my nine year old daughter has been very emotional for a few days, crying at things she would'nt normally, this morning her friend went out with her mum to spend some birthday money,when my girl came home she was in floods of tears because her birthday is not till october, and last night she spent 15 mins crying because she could'nt be bothered going upstairs to get a pair of slippers,there have been a few incidents along these lines in the past few days, we are very close and i have asked her if anything is bothering her but she just clammed up and told me to leave her alone.

All of this is very out of character any advice?

Answer 1

she needs psychiatric help..

Answer 2

sometimes children want to tell but dont know how to . Fear of upsetting the ones they love. Tell her about a time you felt emotional so she understands adults do to, she will tell you when you are in a relaxed situation like when she is feeling very close to you . Both have a bath tonight put y pjs on share some quality time read have a cuddle and she will be more likely to tell you how she feels rather than being confronted. My nine year old has just said to tell her you can stop her sadness if she would just let you know what is wrong and that you want to make things better because you love her more than anything and it is making you feel the same because you can not help her.

Answer 3

There's no bounds what goes on in the mind of a 9 year old. I once saw a boy of a similar age cry blue murder, because a chip he was about to eat broke in two. Do as she asks, leave her alone, she'll grow out of it.

Answer 4

She may be heading toward pubiety.  My friends daughter is going thru the same thing and the pediatrician told her to get ready -- it's one of the first signs.  Good luck -- you will get thru this together!  Just be there for her!

Answer 5

Maybe she has a problem and she's not telling you.I did the same when I was 9, I don't even remember why.It will pass with time.Don't worry.

Answer 6

Buy her a cheeseburger.  Bam.  Fixed.

Answer 7

I started my menstrual cycle at age 9. she might be going through puberty, and unfortunately its not going to get any better until around 16 (if this is the case!)

Good Luck!

Answer 8

she sounds depressed.. maybe  you should encourage her to talk to someone, maybe not you but her close friend, or maybe she is starting her womenhood.....

Answer 9

lol well the first thing you must do is to hide all of the sad theme musics she has cause most of the girls in her age are impressed by this kind of matters goodluck.

Answer 10

Maybe she is going to start her period soon and is hormonal.

Answer 11

ummmmmm wow ur daughter is special.... lol jk but get her therapy maybe? or even maybe she might be getting her period soon i know shes nine but my aunt got hers at 10 soo you never know

Answer 12

How much do you the mum need comfort?

sometimes children can express our own feelings?

Maybe added with some peer pressure

girls approching menstral cycle are starting to enter the competion for boys...

its when everything is analised down to which side you wear the parting of your hair

Prehaps shes a little confused in finding her feet in all the tangled emotions and is feeling  a little overwhelmed with all the information on what will make her aceptable.

Answer 13

look out for her first period soon!! i was exactly like that when i was nine and after a couple of weeks being super emotional, my first period appeared, just try to leave her alone at the moment and explain to her what might be happening to her body soon, because i didn't know anything abt periods before and when i saw blood down there, i was terrified! so make sure she knows what will happen is 'normal', good luck x*x

Answer 14

I think it's puberty, you should just leave her alone, but let her know that you're there for her. Let her eat chocolate when she's upset, I heard it helps. Let her sit and listen to happy music, because music can effect mood. Good Luck!

Answer 15

9 year old are VERY good about making themselves cry (i no i did it all the time), so she might just be doing it for the attention. Thats not a bad thing, it just means that she wants be be with her mommy<3. Spend time with her, have a Mommy and Daughter day!  If this continues and you believe that something is seriously wrong, take her to her doctor or a child psychologist or therapist.

Answer 16

She may be getting close to her first menstrual cycle. Some girls start earlier than others. Does she have any other signs she's hitting puberty? I started at age nine as well.

I'd try the usual options you'd use on yourself to sooth pms. Maybe some hot chamomile tea, a hot bath, and perhaps a midol if it's safe for her age (ask her pediatrician).

Good luck to you :)

Answer 17

maybe she is going through a hard time in school

Answer 18

Maybe something happened between her and a friend.

Maybe it is her period.

Maybe she's having a hard couple of days for no reason at all-- I am an 11 year old girl and that happens to me every now and then.

Maybe it's an age thing and not her period-- I remember very well feeling upset about little things when I was 9, and also getting into fights with friends a lot, although I never used to and no longer do.

Use your judgement between these.

If certain things make her very upset and aren't related, and/or she has a sort-of tantrum (A LOT of crying) DON'T listen when she runs up to her room and tells you to leave her alone. I am about to reveal the secret of children. We tell you to leave us alone when we are upset, when what we really want is for you to come in. Don't say anything, just sit  with her quietly. She may try to push you away, but soon the pushing gives way to hugging and sharing with you.

However, there may be nothing wrong at all, the above is only in case there is something bothering her.

Good luck, and most likely it's nothing to worry about!

Answer 19

agree my first thoughts are she may be starting her period soon,but also something may have happened,you said she's been like this for a few days,think back to that time,did anything happen to her?

Answer 20

I"m going through very similiar things w/ my ten yr old daughter.  In my experience, I think it is the beginnings of puberty.  My daughter and I are very close as well, but I have come to find out she is not confiding in me as readily as she use to. She confides in her friends more.  So, I am trying to have frequent opportunities for her to talk about something that may be bothering her (without Dad or brother around).  Even though she says nothing is wrong, sometimes I just know she isn't telling me something, and you probably feel that same thing sometimes.  ??  Remind her frequently that she can tell you ANYTHING and you will not be angry.  This has helped me several times and come to find out, something was bothering her and I never would of expected that was what it was.

Answer 21

Hey this happens...I think now would be a good time to explain to her about hormones and what happens to women when they hit puberty.....Ive been told American Girl has a good book with age appropriate pictures and descriptions....I never used it but it may help you

On the other hand.....It may be that your daughter is just at the point where you need to put your foot down....Being emotional does not excuse bad behavior.....( Hey just cause i hate the world does not give me the right to go across the street at 7 am to scream at my neighbor for mowing their yard....lol)

These are hard lessons we have to give our kids...I'm sorry that your birthday isn't until October, but save your money and mabee you will be able to buy that item you wanted ....If you want the slippers go and get them but, if you are going to continue this behavior you can go to your room and go to bed...or grounded whatever your punishments are...DO NOT allow this behavior to continue!!!!

If you really think this is more than any of the above call your pediatrician.....

Answer 22

She clammed up. Its ok. Just be there. for her. It may be timing.

Answer 23

snap... my 9 year old daughter is acting like that as well lately.

if i ask her whats wrong she'll just go outside or into her room....

must be something in the air!!!!!

might be just a phase they go through at that age???

Answer 24

she might be going through puberty or maybe something happened like..... Someone died or moved

Answer 25

It sounds like she is going to be getting her first period soon.  try taking her for a girls day out.  Maybe a movie and icecream or a home spa.  She will probably feel more at ease then and talk to you about it.  You can also talk to her about the changes puberty will bring on as you probably haven't already.  

Half of a midol probably wouldn't hurt either.

Answer 26

sounds like shes getting her periods