Emotional turmoil when i am pragnent..plz help...?

Question

Hi, I am an Indian women expecting my first child, i am 6 week pregnant. My problem is I don't know how to be calm and happy during my pregnancy, I tend to worry too much and stress myself to the limit of sobbing for hours. I hate to do that, I fear that my crying and stress may not be good for my baby, but i just cant control it.. does it hurt my baby too?

My husband and family is very supporting and caring, but what bugs me is a huge financial difference between my parents family and my family, I feel guilt to have more luxury, good living standards when my parents and my brother can not afford much lavish life though they are earning their bread and butter very well. I hate when i see my brother's career is not up to his expectation, he can not find a nice girl to marry, i hate to see upset face of my mom, dad or my brother, though they all care for me, they love me and don't want to give me any stress but whenever i heard any problem which they all seem to have handy always out of their habit, I just cant stop my worries and melancholy, I am tired of my cryings. just want to get rid of this,

I know there is no big issue either in their life or in my life but even then i don't find myself light hearted and happy. Sometime i worry too much for their well being, constantly pray for their happiness, I think i have learned this habit of being unhappy from my father. he loves me a lot, always cared and supported me but he has a habit of always talking about problems and only problems never seems to have any solution and never satisfied with anything he has, from his wife to a bed sheet to vehicle, i never heard a word of praise about anything. he seem to be unhappy with most of the things he has, sometime it irritates me and when i argue with him, he surrenders quickly and i feel bad to see his defeated face and i often end up frustrating and crying silently. I want to see him as pillar of strength but on the contrary he is more like a loving but too emotional mother, I love him and i don't want to see him weak and indecisive and unhappy most of the time. I feel guilt to think like this about my father because he cares so much for me, i am like his special child, and it bites me to think not good about him,he was my idol when i was little kid, I still love him but i am unable to admire him now, he has many good quality but no confidence in himself.

I used to fight a lot with my mother when i was teenager and my father was my shelter, but now i admire my mother for her way to live life. she is brave, generally happy and practical lady. I feel light when i talk to her. but I fear I am more like my father, feel unhappy and heavy inspite of having so much in life..

How can I solve these emotional issues ? i really want to be happy and light for my baby and me.

Answer 1

fist of don't worry about the baby-feelings don't hurt them and the worry is just stronger love u worry because you want a beautiful life for your baby

i think most people worry about things at the start those first few weeks seem terrifying i no it did for me. its mainly hormones going crazy and it will settle, i cant promise they will become back to normal i think u always act a bit odd when ur having a baby!, you need just take Care of you for the moment and let all the rest slide- stress is not good for an expectant mother, think blood pressure, try and focus  on the beautiful baby coming in 34 weeks- it Will all be worth it. i find (this sounds silly) helps, have a walk round a baby shop just looking at the tiny clothes will give u butterfly's and make it better if only for a few hours.

know you are not alone and it is very common to worry- mine are 19 month and 4 and its all i do :0D! i hope this helps i know that u can have the world around you but you feel alone just because u feel like no ones feeling the way you feel they are- they just hide it better! take care and good luck

Answer 2

When I was pregnant my emotions kept going up and down to, I worried a lot about the baby and my own future and stressed out about whether he was healthy or not. It probably does have an effect on the baby.

Unfortunately many of us have finances strained and cannot get a decent job or coworkers.  Its just something that we all need to deal with and worrying about it will not help you or the situation that your family find themselves in at the moment.

The fact that you pray for your family's happiness is a great thing all you need to do is extend that into focussing on a gratitude journal mentioning things like being grateful for having a close-knit family, a supportive husband, good health, etc. to keep your mind focussed on what great things you do have about your life.

You cannot do anything to change other people, all you can do is focus on being strong, decisive and happy yourself and also focus on the good qualities that your family, friends and acquaintances have.  When the baby is born it is also good to focus on the baby's good qualities and the importance that having a strong family can bring into raising your child.

Last, but not least, try meditation - focussing on the breath.  Other topics of meditation could be on the good qualities of others, on love, on gratitude towards others for their contribution in everyday things, on the wonder of creation around you.  And you should be back in happiness in no time at all.

Best of luck.

Answer 3

You seem like such a kind and loving person. One thing that struck me is you're afraid that you're like your father - but your question proves exactly the opposite. You are full of praise and admiration for everyone you care about.

You're in a transition right now in your life. You're going to be a mother and that is a time to change and make new directions for you and your child.  Most women when they're pregnant have these questions and fears. Please don't feel like you're all alone.I think it's the biggest time in a woman's life to question her choices.

Hormones are also probably playing havoc with your emotions. This is normal. You can only be responsible for you right now, no matter how much you want for things to be better for your family.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and best of luck to you.  

Answer 4

im sorry your going through this but here this will chear you up =]]] trust mee

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yITEJVrFL...

it makes you smile! hope this helps!