Emotionally unstable...?

Question

My ex and I have been separated for about 3 months now...she has a tendency to act impulsively, irrationally, has no judgment, absolutely no self awareness (low self esteem, confidence, etc), no maternal instincts, doesn't really want to work (but sees now that she may have to), committment issues to anything (job, child, relationships), has a "runners" complex, abandonment issues (she was abandoned as a child and has abandoned her kids), failed suicide attempt when her daughters were taken from her and is unable to verbally communicate her feelings. She admits she may have reacted impulsively to a proposal from a guy she met on line but has not yet broken off the engagement. I think she knows something is not right and is convinced she can self regulate on her own. Is this possible? Is this something you can do on your own?

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, like you said she is emotionally unstable, and she is doing more harm to herself than good. So help her out and get her the proffessional help she needs. There are children involved, be compassionate. Goodluck and God Bless.

Answer 2

it sounds alot like shes looking for somebody to love her past some pain. i say this because i know what its like to have this type of behavior. i went through a rough childhood (i would gladly tell the story because i think people should be educated a little in the sense that many people think theyve got it bad when they break up with a boyfriend or loose a job...theres always someone whos got it worse, but i dont think i could fit it here.)i started looking for love in all the wrong places, never took any responsibility for anything, never thought about the consequences, never told anyone what was going on in my head, until i found the one person who pretty much (after a loooong period of trial) made me want to change. maybe this is the person she thinks can make her do that, even if she wont admit it. dont get me wrong, im totally against meeting people over the internet (one of those childhood things), but shes an adult, no?