Engaged for eight years? Why that long?

Question

I know a friend from South America, she's been engaged for eight years since HS. She's 24 now. Does that indicate something? Is it not headed anywhere?

Answer 1

Don't bring it up with her unless she starts talking about getting married.  If she is engaged and living with him, the chances of him asking her to marry him are very, very, very low.

Answer 2

Of course it is headed someone - negative or positively - even if it is not going to marriage.  

Answer 3

I think every situation is different. My parents were engaged for ten years before marrying. It's all up to the individual and prodding by the girl to start planning the wedding! If she wants to do it, have her set the date and start planning!

Answer 4

Every relationship is different. 8 years engagement doesn't mean it's not heading anywhere. Me and my partner have been together for 18 years now, we got in engaged in 1996 (12 years!!!) and only now have decided to tie the knot! We've got 2 young children now and a very happy relationship x*x

Answer 5

It's only a problem if one of them thinks there is. If she's complaining to you that she's wondering when the heck her fiance is going to get off his butt and start making plans, then it's a pretty good indication that it isn't going anywhere, provided that she's been talking to her fiance and he keeps putting it off. But if she got engaged at sixteen, and both of them are satisfied with where their relationship is, then they're probably just waiting until they're ready financially and personally than they were eight years ago.

Don't bring it up with her except if wedding plans come up in conversation, because it's her future wedding and it's between her and her fiance.  

Answer 6

I'd go out on a limb here and say it's not headed anywhere (just playing the odds).

Answer 7

Well  for one would not like to be engaged for that length of time with no marriage on the horizon.

Everyone is different and maybe your friend is content with things the way they are. Lets face it some people stay engaged, live together and never get married.