Engagement, ladies please help?

Question

I was with my girl for almost for years and have two great kid, she want to get married two years into our relationship but we werent ready, not was set up right and I felt like it was too soon... We have been broken up for 3 months now and I still help her emotinally and finacially, she runs to me everytime that she has a problem..she tells me that rightnow she is not ready to get married because some of her friends from high school just came from college and she is having fun rightnow. Do I let it go or still habg around to help her out even though I feel like I am been used...

Answer 1

Let go she doesn't seem like a very emotionally stable person.

Answer 2

wow darling

just let her go

she sounds a little immature don't you think?

using you, and blowing you off for something sweet and important, and leaving you to care for the kids? for friends? thats a no no, big  NO NO

i don't think any girl would do that, if she truly cared for the man,

i say let her go...

Answer 3

Let it go and just be a Dad to your kids and not a provider for her.  You should step away so your feelings don't continue to get caught up in all that you are doing for her.  You can't make anyone be ready for marriage.  Take their word first and their actions second.

Answer 4

If those are  your kids then surprise you have to help out financially. You have to continue to be a good dad. However if you two are broken up then move on emotionally. There is no need to waste your time. If those are not your kids then I would say keep a standard friendship but move on otherwise. There is no need to be a dad to kids that already have a dad and even if they do not have a dad (I hope this does not sound mean) but you should not feel obligated to be their dad just because you were in a relationship with their mother.  

Answer 5

Try to be there for the kids and see where things go. Seems like you two are very young. I feel sorry for the kids. Who takes care of them when she is "having fun"?

Answer 6

hunnie are you serious?

oh my goodness

LEAVE HER ***!

you seem like such a sweet guy

you dont deserve to be treated like this!

you need to do something!

tell her its now or never

good luck sweetie!!

Answer 7

Let it be and let it go. Just concentrate on being a great father.

Answer 8

Let it go if she really cared about you she would be ready by now and you guys have been broken up .. it sounds to me like she just wants to have fun and doesn't want to be in a relationship and is just using you .. I wouldn't stick around waiting for her when there could be someone else out there for you !  

Answer 9

Simple.... support your kids... they deserve your emotional and financial support. If she wants to be single let her but do not support her finances . You always have to  try and get along because the kids but that does not mean that you have to be her atm or doormat. Stand up and do what is right for you and your children. Go on and live for you an kids if it is going to be it will be. If she wants to go out then let her maybe you should try having some fun yourself. Please take care of the KIDS FIRST and do not petty fights between you 2 get in the way of that cuz they will be the ones that suffer.

Answer 10

Mr. Stephen, I am so young to your age but i want to say that she had need of your help and you should understand her. she may be actually in trouble and on the other hand she gives you two great kids so this is your responcibility also to take care them. so i want say that you should talk him and try to understand each other.