Engagement ring, wedding ring combo? Do I wear both?

Question

My MIL is very traditional and was the one who bought us my wedding ring. Now she is making plans to have it permanently attached to my engagement ring (and she says almost everyone does this, so that they have 1 ring that is their engagement and wedding ring).

The thing is, I don't want my wedding ring attached to my engagement ring. Its not that I don't like the engagement ring, but the engagement ring was 3 opals and the wedding ring is 1 carat worth of diamonds placed next to each other along the band (I think its called an anniversary ring style or something?)

The 2 rings just do not work together, and when I chose the wedding ring I chose it to stand on its own beccause I do not want to wear 2 rings. I just want to wear my wedding ring.

So my question: How common is this 2 ring thing?

And On a side note: Since I am planning on just wearing the 1 wedding ring, do I take my engagement ring off before the ceremony, during the ceremony, or do I leave it on and then wear the 2 rings until the ceremony is over and then take off the engagement ring?

Answer 1

OK, you need to be straight with MIL and let her know that cleaning the diamonds in your wedding ring will damage the opals in your engagement ring.  You do not want them attached, and since you are the one to wear them, you get to decide.  But thank her for her kind offer.  Then wear them however you please.  Many people wear only their wedding ring, and I can't think of a single person I know who has their rings attached.  I don't.  I have an oval diamond engagment ring and a plain gold band.  I got a second plain gold band to match

for our first anniversary.  I like the look.  Sometimes I take off my engagement ring and wear another band between the 2 gold bands.

Couldn't do that if they were attached!

During the ceremony, wear your engagment ring on your right hand.

Leave it there, and don't wear the 2 rings together that day.  Also,

my aunt told me it is bad luck to remove your wedding ring.  Maybe that will stop MIL from taking them to be attached!  After the wedding, you have to stand up to her, or she will run your life.  Don't wait for your husband to do it, he won't.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

i had my rings attached together, but not until about a week before the wedding. so when we first got engaged, i only wore the engagement ring. then about a week before the wedding i went in and had the engagement ring and wedding band soldered together, then after our wedding i wore both rings together.

Answer 3

It really is completely up to you.  Many engagement rings now already have both together so you don't even buy a wedding band.  My mother got hers soldered together.  Mine aren't b/c I like to wear them separately.  My diamond is rather large and I don't want to wear it every day when I'm just in a tank top.  It's overdressed.

I'm not sure how many people actually get them fused together like that but if you don't like the look of the two of them together anyway, I kinda think you should get another wedding ring.  After all they should go together.  You'd wear them both much of the time.  If you don't ever plan to wear them both, what are you going to do with your engagement ring?

You'll shortly feel awkward without your wedding band on.

But as far as the ceremony goes, most brides have the engagement ring on and the groom puts the wedding band on.  Then if you want, you'd switch them after the wedding so that the wedding band is closer to the palm like it's suppose to be.  OR you would take it off and put it on your other finger.  After the ceremony, you'd put the engagement ring back.  But my wedding band finger is not the same size as my right hand ring finger.

Answer 4

My fiance had my engagement ring custom made for me, and the jeweler suggested that we could do this when we had my wedding band made.  But I had never heard of that, and I wouldn't want that done either.

I plan to have a wedding band made that matches the engagement ring my fiance designed (it's a three-stone ring centre diamond with a pink sapphire on either side of it).  My wedding band will be a half-band of pink sapphires and diamonds in a shared-setting style.  Since it will be so fancy I want the option of wearing it on it's own, because on more casual day all that sparkle will seem like a bit much, and when I'm working out a remove my engagement ring because it gets banged around, but I will wear my wedding band.

I don't know anyone that has theirs attached.  I think it's a personal choice (if they are a well matched set I can see that some people might want to always wear them together so have them attached, but it's not my preference).

#2: A lot of people don't wear their engagement ring for their ceremony, or they wear it on their right hand so there is a "bare finger" for the ring ceremony/the official pictures of him sliding the ring on.

Answer 5

WOW I never heard of the rings being joined together. Also I never heard of the MIL being in the middle of the ring thing at all !!  This should be your decision with your husband....... please, do yourself a favor and tell her exactly how you feel about the rings and anything else she tries to get into, or you are going to have big trouble in the future with her. As for your side note - just take the engagement ring off before the ceremony or put it on the other hand. It will be one less thing for you to be worrying about on your special day. And best of luck and happiness to you !

Answer 6

If you don't want it soldered, then don't do it. Old fashioned styles are sometimes soldered. Or my mom's has this mechanism in which hers attaches through a prong.

I plan on wearing my wedding ring with my engagement ring most of the time. I am sure there are times when I will just wear the wedding ring, though.

Answer 7

I didn't want my rings soldered together, either. There are times when I just want to wear my wedding band. My sister got hers soldered, and ended up buying herself just a plain wedding band that she could wear sometimes.

The majority of the time I wear my three rings together (they are small, on thin bands, so not a lot of bling). I have my engagement ring, which is a solitaire with shoulder stones; the wedding band which has three of the smaller stones; and an anniversary ring (10th) which is a chevron style (vee-shape).

The vast majority of women I know, and women in my family, all wear their wedding band and engagement rings together. Most often, they are sets.

However, there's nothing wrong with wearing just the wedding band.

At the ceremony, have the hand bare which will be accepting the wedding band. I wore my engagement ring on the other hand, then after the ceremony, put it on overtop of the wedding band so they would be together for pictures.

So you could just wear your wedding band!