Engagement ring questions.?

Question

Just a few questions, for the mere point of curiosity. :)

What is the average sized and clarity engagement ring out there?

Mine is 1/4 carat and fracture filled

Did you pick out your engagement ring?

I picked out a ring, but I didn't get the one I liked.

What is your dream ring?

My "dream ring" , the one that I picked out was a 3/4 carat princess cut solitaire in a simple trellis setting, H-I in color and VS2 in clarity... lol... long shot away , huh? lol.

What was your reaction when you saw your ring?

I was less than pleased...lol... especially since he makes more than $50K a year and the one that I had picked out was $1200 for the solitaire and band set that I liked and he gave me one that was... well, oh well, it's still a ring and I should just be happy with that...lol! But you know how we girls get sometimes!

How did he propose?

For me, he didn't really...lol

Once again, I'm just curious, I looove hearing about these things! Thanks girls! :)

Answer 1

I did not pick out my ring. It is a 1 carat heart shaped diamond on a large band. It is perfect color and has one flaw that can only be seen with the magnifier. He also got two diamond bands (one for each side of the engagement ring) The total cost was $20,000. He did great!

It is the ring I would have chosen. I wanted a heart shape and I would not want it to be any larger because it kind of gets in the way now. I hit on things.

He took me to his favorite spot under this huge tree and proposed.

Answer 2

My fiance and I decided ahead of time to give each other simple silver engagement rings (we had agreed to a max budget of $200). We did this because we wanted to surprise each other with something symbolic. For three reasons, this worked better:

1. Since we wanted it to be a surprise, we didn't have to worry about spending a lot of money on something that the other didn't ultimately like.

2. Since we wanted it to be symbolic, there are a much greater variety of rings made in silver than in precious metals like gold and platinum.

3. We only intend to wear our engagement rings while we're engaged. We'll put more money into our wedding bands.

So, in answer to your questions:

I don't know the average cut and clarity engagement ring out there. Mine is two silver bands with a vine pattern and a leaf on each -- to symbolize the strength and growth of our relationship. We are using a diamond from his grandmother in my wedding band and I think it's .5ct and it doesn't look the sparkliest, but that might be because of the setting it's in right now -- which is going to get changed.

My fiance had originally gotten me a slightly different ring with a tree bark pattern and a single leaf. But it was too heavy on my hand and it didn't look quite right. He told me to contact the silver designer and figure out something that had the same symbolism but would be more comfortable. My fiance and I are going to design our own wedding bands.

My dream ring is probably a round diamond in an turned fishtail setting suspended in a split shank. I've never seen it before and it haunts my dreams.

He slipped the ring on my finger in the dark, so I was reacting more to his words than to the ring.

He didn't propose to me first. I proposed to him in an elaborate way that included secret messages telling him to meet me for a rendezvous in New York (I live in NYC and he lives in CT). So I gave him his ring a couple months before he proposed to me and gave me my ring. We had already told our parents and friends and everybody considered us engaged by the time he proposed back to me and gave me my ring.

I'm sorry that things didn't work out the way you had hoped. You sound pretty upset. It is rather surprising that he didn't buy you a nicer ring, given his salary and the fact that the ring you wanted isn't outlandish or anything. But do you know the extent of his financial situation? Does he have student loans to pay off? Or is he trying to save for a house for your future? My fiance is very practical when it comes to these "girl" things because he really wants to buy us a house. It's something that bothers me every so often, but then I remember that he's being practical because he wants the best for us in our future.

Answer 3

Size:  nonexistant.  my husband never gave me an engagement or wedding ring, and after 5 years of marriage he still hasn't thought enough of me to give me one.

Did I pick my ring:  I have dreamed about several rings ranging in size from 1/4 to 1 ctw, but I don't have one and it doesn't look like I'll ever be getting one, so no.

My dream ring:  a simple solitaire in a trellis setting.  I really don't care about the size, it could be 1 ct, 3/4 ct, 1/2 ct, 1/3 ct, 1/4 ct, or even 1/5 ct for all I care.

My reaction when I saw the ring: Well, as I said before, there was nor has there ever been a ring, and my reaction to that was one of deep dissapointment and deep, deep hurt.  Like I was and am just a piece of trash to him who doesn't deserve anything.  

How did he propose:  He didn't.  We became engaged as the result of an argument which ended in shouts of whatever, fine, and storming out of the apartment.

Answer 4

I didn't pick out my ring, but my fiance knew that I liked round diamonds and white gold.  My ring is a 2 carat round diamond  in a white gold 6-prong Tiffany-style setting.

As for the proposal...He took me to a really fancy restaurant but chickened out on asking me there.  He ended up proposing to me in our own living room with a very romantic speech and my beautiful ring.

Answer 5

Mine's .86 carat (Humongous to me), and supposedly has inclusion, that I honestly can't see, so I don't care....

I had picked out a ring, 1/5 carat, very simple, not too fancy, and only $300 (long ways off on the other end)

The one I 'wanted' was 1/3 carat soitaire on white gold.... $750 (And I thought I was being pretentious)

The ring I go is so much better than any ring I could have ever dreamed I'd own.

I almost choked on air when I saw it. It was so huge! I didn't even think he could afford it.... (Well, we are still paying it off, but we're almost done....)

I could have killed him for spending so much money on a piece of jewelry!

But then he went and said the most romantic thing ever: "I picked this ring cause it reminds me of you: simple, elegant, and beautiful.... You deserve the best" *sight*

We'd been talking of getting married for a week.... He didn't exactly propose, just kinda said "I know it's not much of a surprise, but I hope you like it (the ring)" Boy, was it a surprise!

Answer 6

My ring is 1 carat all together.With 1/2 a carrot as the big diamond and 9 small diamonds in the band!

We went together to look at rings and i had picked out a smaller cheap ring and while i was looking he was over on the other side buying this ring and i was SO surprised!

Well he took me to a really nice dinner and then we walked around this beautiful water show and he ended up doing it when we got back home which i loved because it was private!

Answer 7

If you have a ring so be grateful, so many can't afford one these days, plus you will be married forever and I'm sure more rings will follow. I was married for thirty years and had a total of five wedding sets plus an anniversary ring. Each one was larger carat wise than the previous one. The last one was over 1 carat t.w., but then the unthinkable happened, I lost my husband to a heart attack. It was very sudden and no time to say good bye. On the Christmas following his passing I gave each of my daughters one of my wedding rings, no tears, just joy. The fifth one went to my youngest daughter on her wedding day and she wears my ring as her own, from her Dad, not me. I'm sure you love your fiancee so be patient I'm sure he loves you too, and yes I'm sure you will receive many more rings with each one being larger. Congratulations to you both, may you have many happy years together.

Answer 8

1. There is no average size/clarity. It differs depending on the couple.. My ring is 1.03 carat E color, VS2 clarity with other diamonds set in platinum.

2. Yes, I picked out my engagement ring. The one I originally wanted was marked up 100% for same size diamond for patented design (emerald krisscut), so I went with a classic round brilliant. My FI had it custom made.

3. I think I would want the emerald krisscut ring as my dream ring, but I love the one I have

4. I was very happy with the ring I got. Here is a picture of it with the wedding band we just bought.

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3100/2675...

Answer 9

1. my jeweler told me the avg size diamond for engagement rings is 1 ct. I'm not sure about avg clarity, but i think that would depend a lot on the cut. an emerald cut is going to require a much higher clarity than a round brilliant, for example.

2. yes, he took me to pick out my engagement ring a few days after he proposed. i think it was a good idea, because just for kicks afterwards i asked him to leaf through one of my wedding magazines and show me what he would have picked... and um... well put it this way, i would have loved whatever he gave me, but since i don't wear jewelry, i can see why he was WAY off base with my tastes.

3. my dream ring?? i'm not sure, but i think i have it!

4. when i saw my ring all put together i cried (i had to wait about a week for it to be mounted). i stared at it for hours!

5. he propsed when we were cuddling in bed. i don't think he planned it. we were just talking about how lucky we were to have found eachother, and suddenly he sat up in bed, took my hand and asked me to be his wife.

i love hearing about very dramatic and thought out proposals... but for us, this was perfect.

Answer 10

When my husband proposed it was a total surprise... We talked about getting marry  a few times but  i never told him what kind of engagement ring i like or anything like that.   When i saw my engagement ring it was the want that i always picture in my mind  the 14k white gold 1 1/2 carat  3 stone diamond ring... i cant complain about the ring i love it and my wedding band is absoluty beautiful too.  The clarity of the stones are unbelieved I never saw diamonds shine as much as the diamond on my engagement ring.( i have same diamond on my wedding band).. i ask my husband how did he know what kind of ring i would like and he told me that when he first saw this one he knew it was the one.

What i really think is important is that you both love each other; material stuffs are not as important as LOVE.... you should be excited about been engage and preparing your wedding  is a very important part of a women life doesnt matter if you have a $100 or $5,000 or $10,0000 engament ring..... dont think about your ring to much.. think about the brilliant future between you and you husband to be and Good Luck in your wedding plans and specially in your first year as a wife ( i would say the first year is the difficult one because you just starting to live with the person( at least you already leaving together) GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 11

I do not have a dream ring, and the differences in carats, clarity and price do not mean much to me.

There is no piece of jewellery that I can think of that comes anywhere close to displaying just how much me and my bf love eachother.

I would be happy if it were a band of wood or a few lengths of twisted grass; and I would keep them safe forever.

Answer 12

i hope you don't think i'm being snarky...but hey be happy you got a ring. i'm engaged and i still don't have one yet. but i was asked. he proposed when we were fussing at each other. and then he asked again the next day so i wouldn't think that he was just asking to shut me up.

my dream ring isn't even a diamond. i want a sapphire solitaire.

Answer 13

How about a guy's point of view?

My future wife and I went a dozens of places and tried on dozens of rings. Finally she saw one that she liked and tried it on. She began to cry -- and I knew that was the ring. I couldn't have cared less what size, color, price, etc., it was, seeing how much she loved it.

We weren't officially engaged yet, so she had me put it away until we were, but I learned she'd take it out and try it on from time to time. Once she even put it on just to vacuum the living room. That was my cue that it was time. We were having some friends over for dinner and we'd gotten everything set up, and were relaxing by ourselves on the couch, when I got down on one knee and proposed. She was surprised. It's a memory I will always cherish.