Engagment Ring Question.?

Question

Okay so me and my boyfriend have been talking about getting married, and so I have been looking at engagment rings, he's the one asking so he should pick out the ring right? But their is one I feel in love with and it really cheap only 188 dollars, for me it not the amount of carats that matter it is I just want it to be pretty. I know he'll pick a nice ring I trust him but I don't want him spending a lot especially when I really like the cheap one! Should I tell him about the ring or what? I want to be suprised when he pops the question so I really don't want to be their when he picks it out.

Answer 1

I would show him the type of ring you like he can take a picture to a store and they can find one they have like it..that way its not the one you picked out but its still what you like..and maybe tell him you dont want too expensive of a ring that way you guys can put it towards the honey moon!

Answer 2

take a picture and tell him where you found it.  Tell him how much you love it.  In my opinion in the end it's his choice, but you can at least show him what you like.

Answer 3

what I did was talk about it with my best friend.  She and I would stop in the jewelry stores in the mall when we were walking around and I would say what I did and didn't like.  Then, she would go to him and tell him.  That way, I'm not telling him and putting the pressure on him, but he is still getting the info that he needs.  :)

Good luck

Answer 4

girl..you've gotta tell him. or show him actually. take a pic of it with your cam on your phone or something then..casually let him see it.

What we did though...well, on the 3rd monthiversary, we went ring shopping..he asked me if i wanted to see them..anyway, we went and on our 8th monthiversary he proposed! it was a surprise! And it was totally the ring i wanted.  

Answer 5

Tell him!

Answer 6

definitely show him. but also understand that it wont matter what type of ring he gives you... you are going to fall in love with it. My fiance and i we out shopping for rings and i fell in love with this one ring, i started comparing every other ring to it.. and he fell in love with, what i thought was SUPER ugly... well he didn't end up getting either ring but got a different one that i remembered saying that i didn't like.. but as soon as he put it on my finger.. i was in love with it.

But definitely tell him so that he knows what your "style" is...  

Answer 7

Well, you have to decide what's more important to you - being surprised or having the ring you chose. There's nothing wrong with either approach, but they are mutually exclusive. If you tell him about the ring or show it to him, there goes the surprise. And if you let things take their course, he may pick a ring you wouldn't be in love with. Or you may love it, who knows. You can always talk to him and tell him you don't want to spend too much money on the ring; you can also find your ring online and send him the link, or take a picture of the ring you like and send it to him, but basically if you want the specific ring you will have to tell him exactly what you want, which will somewhat ruin the surprise element of it.

I'm not big on surprises; my husband and I went and picked out a ring together a few weeks after we got engaged. He couldn't choose a ring if his life depended on it; he would have never known what to get me. I'm very happy with my ring, and choosing it together is one of our happy memories from that time.

Answer 8

I picked my own ring. Actually , we went together. He wanted for me to have exactly what I wanted and not take risks by choosing something not of my liking. I'm a very particular person with very specific taste, so he knew that he was better off going with me. Smart guy.

I think that you are right, if your are going to wear something for the rest of your life, you should have a say in the matter. It may not be as romantic, but the heck. I rather do that than wear something that is not my taste for the rest of my life.

Good luck

Answer 9

Rings are superficial.

Answer 10

why not show him the ring and ring and explain that $$$$ and carets aren't everything in your opinion.  this will show him the style you like and assure him that you don't want him spending his life savings on a ring just to impress others!  

its refreshing to hear from someone who isn't worried about what everyone else will think!

congrats and you sound like a very level headed gal! he is a lucky guy!

Answer 11

I was the same way! I wanted a gemstone ring, and I didn't want to see him spend a lot of money on a diamond I didn't really want. Since we were talking about marriage anyway, I just asked if he would like to know the kind of ring I liked, because I'd hate to see him spend a bunch of money on something that wasn't really my style. He was happy for the help! After that, I'd just send him links to different rings I liked. He chose one of them. So I knew I'd be getting something I liked, and he still got to do choosing.

Answer 12

That was the idea at first for us too - but in the end we both went and looked at rings together - but after several places and several months of shopping I decided on a custom setting. It didn't bother me like I thought it would. I feel him - it is a huge purchase, regardless of the $$$ spent. We're both very happy we did it this way. There is something to be said for surprises... but the same can be said for getting exactly what you wanted.

Answer 13

Let him pick out the ring...believe me.  If he wants to spend more money and get something from HIS heart, don't deny him that.

Answer 14

Just let him know which one you like best. He wants to get you the ring that you want. If you tell him which one to get, you take the guess work out of it for him. He will know that you will love the ring, instead of being nervous about if you will like it or not.

Answer 15

with my engagement ring, he wanted me to point out ones to him that i liked, all the rings i had pointed out to him where under 1500.00!!

when it came to him buying it he had made up his own mind and picked something that had abit of the 2 rings that i feel inlove with!

yes it is better then the ones i have picked and alot more expensive!!

i guess what i am trying to say is take him with you and point out rings!! then he can make up his own mind and if he wants to spend more then he can, he is the one paying for it!!!

Answer 16

What you should do is tell one of your best friends or maybe your mom about the ring so they can pass the message along to your BF.  Guys typically tend to ask close female friends or family members of the girl to help them pick out a ring for her.  I know my friend asked his sister (and a friend of his GF) to go ring shopping with him before he proposed.  So if your friends or mom or sis or whoever knows about the ring you like, they can tell your BF about it when he asks.

Also, engagement rings have nothing to do with how much they cost- they are a symbol of commitment and love.  I know some people are sort of materialistic and expect a big diamond that cost thousands, but if the ring you love is only $188, that's the one he should get you (and consider himself a very lucky man for having such a practical GF) Best of luck to you!!

Answer 17

If you want it to be a surprise then do not do anything. let him pick it out. you will like any ring he gives you plus it will come from his heart not your and the fact that he picked out will make it all the more special.

I know with mine i wouldn't have picked mine out and my fiancee gave me the most beautiful ring in the world. All i asked when we were talking about it was that i did not want a diamond center stone. He knew that i love sapphires so mine has a one carat sapphire center stone.

Just trust him to do his thing.

Answer 18

I'm not of the belief that the ring should be a surprise if you know what you want... My husband was too nervous about picking out the "wrong" ring that he wanted me to pick it out so that I could have something I loved.

I was still surprised when he was engaged because he planned a whole special day and an incredibly romantic proposal months after we had looked at rings.

I'd let him know what you like and then leave it in his hands.

Answer 19

He should be the one to pick it out, to make it a special piece of jewelry. However, if your definately partial to a specific ring, it wouldn't hurt to show it to him, without making it too obvious. Maybe something like "wow, this ring is really beautiful! what do you think?" may be enough. I wouldn't get too attached though in case he decides on something else... you are getting engaged to him & not the ring after all!

Good luck!

Tiana

Answer 20

Take a picture or write down the SKU number on the back of a business card for the establishment that you saw the ring in, and leave it in a conspicuous place. You can also tear out pictures of rings that look similar and leave those around. Hopefully he'll take the hint.

That way, you don't know what ring you'll get, but you'll stand a better chance of getting what you like.