Entering 8th month of TTC, discouraged. Why isn't it happening?

Question

AF came this month, 2 days late, what a TEASE by the way..

and I find myself feeling depressed and discouraged after 7 months of trying without any success.

I feel like it's hopeless and I'm infertile.

Who got pregnant in under a year?

What is the percentage of couples who conceive within a year?

I feel ready to just give up and accept the fact that I'm unable to conceive.

I don't know what to do. Any advice is appreciated..

Answer 1

With my first pregnancy, we conceived the first month of trying.  We thought it would happen quickly with the second attempt...but it took 9 long months of trying.  After trying for 6 months, we went to my doctor to see what was wrong, and he said to try the ovulation sticks (you pee on them and they can indicate when you are ovulating).  I had been charting my basal temperature, but he said for some women, that's not a good indication (it has to change by more than 1 degree for it to be a reliable indictor of ovulation, and mine wasn't changing by more than 0.5 degrees).  I'd recommend you go out and try the ovulation sticks.  They're expensive (about $40 for 5 sticks, that's what you probably need for one month of trying) but SO worth it.  It worked for us.

Answer 2

It took us about 1 1/2. I was all consumed with getting pregnant. We were on clomid, taking my temp, ovulation tests . . . everything and anything to get pregnant. We had test after test and there was nothing wrong. It was SO stressful. I got more and more depressed with each passing month that I didn't get pregnant. I finally told my husband I was done "trying". I got pregnant that month! Relax and don't "try" so hard. It'll happen. Just have fun and don't stress! Hugs for luck! Kris :)

Answer 3

You are not infertile if you have been trying for only 7 months.  

Answer 4

I completely understand your frustration. We have been ttc for 10 months now and no luck yet. It does hurt and it makes me feel that much less of a woman. The only thing I can hold on to is that God is in control, as much as it hurts to think that he doesn't want me to have a child. All I can do is leave it in His hands.  And if and when he sees fit, I'll get the baby I've been hoping for. Just do what you have been doing, relax, and let God handle the rest.

Answer 5

My husband and I got married in Nov. and I was not on birthcontrol, so we said if it happened, it happens.. I didnt stress about it at all. I knew when it would be my time to have a baby it would happen. Well needless to say we got pregnant this March, so it didnt take us very long. I just think your stressing yourself out toooo much. You need to relax and enjoy s*x as just s*x, not trying to make babies. Stress can mess your menstral cycle up and that could be why your not conceiving.  

Answer 6

I can empathize. I have been ttc for almost a year. I am entering my 9th insemination without any success. It has always been my dream to experince pregnancy and motherhood. The thought of giving up on this just doesn't sit well and so, I keep on trying.  I don't want to have any regrets. Some months have been better than others. What keeps me going is the thought that someday soon I will hold my child in ym arms.  After 7 months of trying, I do not believe that you are infertile. Maybe just challeneged in a different way. Best of luck to you!

Answer 7

I'm in the same boat as you, we've been trying for a while, just got back from dinner where every person who walked in the door had a newborn, or did I just notice it b/c i want one so much? It's hard not to be discouraged but from all of my findings, under a year is very normal. My doctor won't even look at any potential fertility issues until we've tried for more than 9 months so that tells me it's normal. Also, how long have you been off the pill? I got off the pill in December and it was not until May that I felt like my periods were back to Pre-birth control fashion. So that right there tells me it took 5 or 6 months for the birth control to leave my body. Also, I didn't know this, but don't use ky or lube, apparently it kills sperm. Also, I use the Clear blue easy & cheap ovulation predictor kits and both work, before this I was using a calendar and that was off. So now once the kit says I'm fertile, we make sure we have lots of "swimmers" a few days before, during and after. It is very frustrating, sometimes I just feel like crying b/c i'm so anxious to have a baby. I wish you lots of luck!  I'm 29