Erection problem It wont stay?

Question

My partner is having problems over the last few months he gets one but it does not stay for long I think he is making it worse by worrying about it to much. we are usually very active his job as a chef does make him over tired I am supportive but I have my needs any advice please

Answer 1

My advice is to try something new to make him more excited, surprise him.

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Erectile dysfunction is when a man keeps having difficulty getting or keeping an erection. He may then have difficulty having s*x or performing other sexual activities such as masturbation.

Erection problems are very common. The Sexual Dysfunction Association estimates that 1 in 10 men in the UK have recurring problems with their erections at some point in their life.

Most men have difficulty getting an erection from time to time, due to stress, tiredness, drinking too much alcohol, or simply not being in the mood. If it only happens now and again, then its usually nothing to worry about.

But if you keep finding yourself unable to get or keep an erection and its preventing you carrying out your normal s*x life, disrupting your relationship, or making you depressed, you should seek help from your GP.

Many men are too embarrassed to talk about problems with their erections, or are worried about wasting their GP's time. But it is worth seeking help, because your GP will often be able to give you some simple advice or treatment that could solve the problem.

Answer 2

First, find out if he is also having problems maintaining an erection when he masturbates. If he is, then he has physical erectile dysfunction. Foods and exercises can help (a new study linked watermelons to helping this type of ED).  

If he can maintain an erection while masturbating, then he has psychological erectile dysfunction. The problem could be performance anxiety with you or with all women.

Answer 3

My ex was a chef and he used that excuse. I was pregnant. Turns out he shagged 3 other people. Sorry hun.

Answer 4

basically tell him to sit back and relax, give him a hand job, or ******** to get it up.... or u can always tell him to take Viagra, its because hes just so stressed with work, basically what i did i just smoked weed, and i was mellow, for a few times, and i could get a hard so quick, but ur probably not gonna let him smoke weed, so the first option is always good, just tell him to lay back and relax, put a show on for him, give him a  lap dance, but if that doesn't work, tell him to go to a doctor, see if they can tell him what he could do to get a proper erection

Answer 5

that happens at times, just remain supportive and things should work out

Answer 6

He's probably tired, and maybe a bit stressed.

I'd say don't worry about it for a few days, then on your next day off have a lie-in together. When you're both pretty much awake, gently initiate s*x. Not aggressively though, just try to make it a really lazy, relaxed affair, with lots of foreplay and that.

I suggest this because: 1. s*x in the morning is usually great, and 2. this will be a particularly relaxing time of day, so he should be pretty chilled out and fresh, and not too worried about his performance.

If it continues to be a problem, go see a doctor (either together, or just him).

Answer 7

tis the heat off the cookers, he gets all hot and bothered at work, so when he comes home, he just cant get the blood flowing.

either that or he don't fancy you no more.

Answer 8

gethim to the doctors and getsent to the uti clinic theywill determine if its mental problems or physical demand to see the uti because a couniler talks about the problem not fix it .. ucan talk the hindlegoff a donkey about this and it wont get better ,, see a uroligest hun just trust me i know ive been in ur shoes

Answer 9

The main problem is going to be him worrying about it.

But my i suggest a (sorry about the name) 'c@*ck ring' the tension help men stay erect for longer by restricting blood flow out of the p***s also you can vibrating varieties which will be just great for you both to enjoy.

make him feel confident by compliment everything he does so he doesn't stress too much, maybe try 'pleasing' him without full intercourse to see if he manages to stay erect that way, if he still has problems then go see a doctor.