Ethan will not go to toilet when neccessary for a wee. he will just wet his pants. unless we get on to him?

Question

when in nursery he wets himself constantly.he knows when he needs the loo.if we ask why he will say he forgot, or he was busy or was interested in what he was doing.

Answer 1

hi there, i run a playgroup and have several children who iif asked just say they dont need. The trick is to make going part of the routine in the nursery day, ie beffore snack. Failing this ask his teachers, (i do this) to just take him to the bathroom, pop him on the loo and ask him try. If he doesnt then fine but they soon click.

Sometimes its hard for the children to use a toilet other than the one they are familiar with,  the teachers whould get to know his individual signs that he needs and respond positively when an accident happens, this way it isnt a big deal and it makes the transition easier to toilet use in the setting.

Hope this helps a bit

Answer 2

How old is this child?  Some children really show no interest even at 3 years old.  Though by three they most likely have the language necessary.  It sounds like this child is at least three if he can say he forgot or was busy or was interested in what he was doing...and yes...this is all probably true!  I find with boys, especially, that they get into what they are doing and do not realize they have to urinate until it's too late.

As was already mentioned, at this point it needs to be part of the routine.  When I do not know the child's "potty routine" very well I tend to have them "try" more often and at specific times of day...especially before Free play and outside.  As we begin to know the child's "signals" we back off and ask them to try about the time they would normally go.  Surprising enough...most young children's body functions are pretty routine.  Good luck!

Answer 3

We have a boy who is similar to this at preschool. We tried:

-Sticker chart-a reward chart-every day he goes home dry he has sticker that goes on his chart at home-this way we are working with the parents.

-His parents bought him Lazytown pants as he LOVES them...we also talk about Sportacus(?) and how he doesnt want weewee on him!

-We have it as part of a routine...mum takes him when he first comes in, I take him before snack and then mum takes him when she picks him up. I also recognise the jiggles and I say "do you need a wee" if he says yes I say "so what do you say?" and he has learnt he says "toilet please".

-Lots of praise and attention when he is dry and just a quick simple, almost silent change if he wets-that way he learns he gets more attention for beign dry!

Depending on what age he is he may just not be ready yet and you may want to think of pull ups as an option. I know it feels like going backwards but if he's not ready then its just going to damage his self-esteem!

Answer 4

One thing that I did with my own children and the children in my classroom is to have them take off their own wet clothes, put them in a bag for home and put on their own dry clothes. I would help but they did the most part. They also cleaned up any wet areas that would happen on the floors. Soon they learned that this took away from play time or art etc. They did not like missing these things. Also at this age other children will also start giving them feedback about not being potty trained. This is not bad at all. We praised when they would get through the day going to the bathroom in the toilet and not in their pants. Yes this does take time and time of the teacher away from the other children but it is an important self sufficient step for this child. I hope that there are at least two adults in the classroom. At home I would have a day or two or three, what ever it took;and tell my child that there is the potty and that is where they needed to go. If they started to go I would tell them to stop and take them even if they are peeing to the potty and set them on it. Then they went through the process of cleaning up the wet and changing their own clothes. We didn't play outside on those days but they had their usual playtime, naps and reading time in the house. Yes they did have a few accidents for a couple of weeks but the day of learning was worth the time. It might not work for all but it is a beginning. Keep positive with your words and encouraging but let the child know that what he does is his responsibility. Oh and yes I would re-clean the floor with cleaner and make sure the child was clean and have them wash their hands after. Good luck.