Even if I am the father...

Question

...can I still remove my name from the birth certificate?

I had a one night stand some time ago with a girl who said she was on the pill. A while later she said she may have forgotton to take a few of them and that she was pregnant. After months of hurt and abuse because I begged her not to go ahead with it as we were strangers the baby was born. There is a chance the baby isnt mine as a paternity test was never taken but despite this, after the baby was born I didnt want the girl to struggle. She said she needed me to sign the birth certificate so she could claim her benefits, but told me after if I didnt see the child she'd slam me for CSA. I feel 1. Seriously robbed of starting a family the way I wanted to and 2. Completely trapped financially and emotionally. Because I stuck to my guns about not being a part of the childs life she keeps threatening me with CSA, despite me paying her a privately agreed sum every month. CSA is Something I know I just cannot afford.

Is there any way you can remove your name off the birth certificate regardless of the fact you are or arent the father???

Answer 1

you need to have a paternity test and if you are not the father then your name can be removed,if you are the father you are stuck

Answer 2

For the answer to your legal question, you should see a lawyer.

As for your other comments - you may feel "seriously robbed" and "trapped financially and emotionally," but what about her?  If anything she has more of a reason to say those things than you, because it sounds like she's going to have all the work and responsibility for the next 18 years.   She didn't get pregnant by herself. Honestly, you should have considered the financial consequences before having s*x.  You should stop trying to get out of your responsibility, do the right thing, and be a father in every sense of the word.  

Who knows? You might come to love your child and realize that it was all worth it.  You're not alone, you know. There are lots of people who are not able to start a family exactly the way they wanted to.  They all become involved financially and emotionally.  But they do what they have to do.  Do your best, and good luck.    

Answer 3

so your idea of correcting your mistakes is begging her to get an abortion? and making it clear you want nothing to do with the baby YOU helped create? Good job, way to be a man. If she decides to persue CSA you're screwed. And, frankly you deserve it. The world doesn't need another deadbeat dad. You trusted a girl you didn't know, had a one night stand, and are now blaming everyone else. Grow a pair and deal with it!

Answer 4

Removing your name from the birth certificate will not make you exempt from paying child support.  If you really are the father- you're obligated to pay.

It takes 2 to tango, buddy.  Should have thought about pregnancy before you went ahead with your one night stand.

There is a human out there that could very possibly be your child and you think that "sticking to your guns" about not wanting to be apart of it's life is a good thing?

Go get sterlized, please.  You're a poor excuse for a man & shouldn't ever procreate.

Answer 5

If she was a total stranger, why would you trust her when she said she's on the pill? Why not use a condom? Pregnancy isn't the only result of unprotected s*x. You need to face the facts that you're just as responsible as she is. You aren't the victim here buddy, that little baby who's dad wants nothing to do with him/her because he doesn't want to pay is.

You've made a few steps in the right direction by signing the birth certificate and paying child support, but you need to see the child and spend time with him/her if it's yours. Why should an innocent baby be punished just because you and mommy were careless? Get the DNA test and go from there. Good luck.

Answer 6

first of all you need to find out for sure if you are the father. you can get a court hearing and have the baby tested for paternity. then if the child is yours, you have to pay child support period. in fact, im sure you didn't think of this, but the way this girl sounds, she isn't very truthful. what happens 5 years down the road, she says "he hasn't given me anything!" then you get popped for back child support, because she isn't honest about you paying her every month. it doesn't matter how many receipts you have either, it didn't with me & my ex. the only difference is i told them that i did not need the back child support because he had been paying me. since i told them that, they only made him pay half, which still wasn't fair to him, because he had given me money. we workled it out though. anyway, do you see what can happen if you don't get the child support legalized?? how many people out there do you think give each other money for there kids and she/he turns on them because they are mad, and they get thrown in jail for back child support.? be careful. and to your question, no. you cannot get out of paying child support, period. the only way, is if you sign off on the child and someone else adopts him. you can sign off all you want, but if no one adopts him, you are paying till he is 18. if you could get off by erasing your name off a birth certificate, everyone would be doing it. it sucks how dishonest she was, but now you need to protect yourself. get something legalized, and do it quick!

Answer 7

you can call the local records office. But if she is coming after you for support in the leagal systems, a lot of states will now pay to have a DNA test done. Just to make sure the right person is paying for that. And if you want to give up all rights to the baby try that. This sounds horrible. This is why people have condoms to practice safe s*x.

I know you feel robbed but you had a part in this too. Keep track of any money you give her. Write checks and note child support. Cause if you pay her she can still claim you didn't. Your word against hers type of thing. Don't get me wrong. I'm for parents paying their child support but I'm also again those who take the other parent for everything they have! NOT OK for either men or women! good luck

Look up child support or birth certificates for the state you live in.

Answer 8

No there is absolutely no way to take your name off that birth certificate unless she decides to get married and asks you to sign off your rights so her new husband can adopt...

Other than that you are screwed, you could file a petition for paternity and take a paternity test which will cost you around 500 dollars, if you aren't the father, then you might be in luck...  if you are, they might stick you for more child support.

Answer 9

how bout this dude!

why don't you frickin get your *** off the computer and go get a DNA test

and if you are the father then go frickin take care of the baby!

you're such a deadbeat father!

how dare you!

Answer 10

DNA test.

Answer 11

find out if you are the father and if you are it doesnt matter if you only had a one night stand or not. that baby does not deserve to grow up without a father. my son is right now and how do you think i feel when he asks me where his daddy is. and why doesnt his daddy love him these are things you should never want a child to ask. you made the mistake now dont hurt the baby cause your'e horny. come to my house and look my baby boy in the eyes and explain to him why daddys leave.

Answer 12

you can somehow sign away your rights, but I think the mother would have to agree or something.  You should get a paternity test

Answer 13

heres an idea.  man up and stop being a deadbeat father.  you must have known that if you got a girl pregnant, they can have the baby whether you wan them too or not.