Ever Feel Like You've Wasted Too Much of Your Life?

Question

Emo question of the century, friends: fire away!

Answer 1

Nope ... I never wasted a minute ... I've lived , loved , cried , laughed  and it's been a long strange trip ... 2 divorces ... 3 marriages ... 1 son ...

   Now I'm older and the memories of things I've done and seen make me a happy man . Along with my wife who I dearly love and always keeps me smiling.

   And still I look forward ... forward to my sons graduation .. his marriage ... my grand children ..

  I have hope for the future .. but nothing , of course , is written in stone . That's what keeps it interesting.

Answer 2

hahaha i'm 19 and i feel like i've wasted half of my life.. i feel unaccomplished because i want to do so many things in my lifetime..... but i know i'm not (my mom says so).. i can't help it though, i just feel like that esp since i'm turning 20 in a few months...i think, 'oh man, 10 more years and i'm 30!' gosh i wish there was 3 of me around or at least people had 200 years for a lifespan.. that way i can do all the things i want to do.. darn it.

Answer 3

absolutely.  i have wasted many years looking for that one to 'complete' me.  only to find out years later that love is nothing more than a fallacy that some people choose to believe in..oh well. and the only one who can complete me, is me.  (although batteries help  lol) the best thing to come outta this is my children.  im happy with me right ow

Answer 4

Everyone in this life feel it in certain stage of their life.

It is no way out.

Answer 5

I have felt like that, but later I realized that all those experiences were helpful, helped me mature.  So in the end, nothing is wasted.

Answer 6

I wasted my time reading a lot of c**p, and not meditating.  Gather, gather, gather, gather, and gather some more knowledge, but never learning how to focus.....I mean, REALLY focus, quiet the mind.  So absolutely I feel I wasted a lot of my life.  If I had to change something about my past, it would probably be that I would do more "lotus position" meditation.

Answer 7

yes.. lol..

i'm crying for two weeks because of my first broke up.. haha

it feels like,, im totally wasted,, but life goes on and on. it is just a matter of experience. and my mistakes was the reason of my depression that time. and some mix of innocence..

Answer 8

no.... it's weird. i live with no regret, yet i am not happy.

Answer 9

I wasted too many years being depressed about my past. And no I don't really think it's an emo question but a human question. I think everyone has something they wasted too much time on.

Answer 10

I wasted 6 years being married to an alcoholic/drug addict.

Answer 11

The first thing I want to say is that this question is presented based on the premise that something was "wasted" because it didn't lead to something desired, good, productive, successful, etc... and that is a very debatable assumption. One could also say that all the "wasted" roads travelled were the necessary foundation to what ended up being a desired destination/ successful outcome.



  I don't think people do what they do because they purposely want to be unsuccessful, unproductive, or because they chose to experience life passing them by, etc. If a person knew exactly what to do to make their desires/ plans/dreams come true at any given time in their lives I'm sure they would do it. But the fact is that in most cases life is a challenging process through which a person may learn, grow and become aware of the mistakes/obstacles that were holding him/her back.

The notion of having "wasted too much of your life" is usually the product of flawed perception that contributes to having feelings of shame, guilt and/or regret. If you can positively say you knew what you were supposed to do at a given time in your life and still didn't do it, then you may have a genuine reason to regret your own actions. Besides "knowing what to do" is not a guarantee of success anyway... But in most cases this is not even the problem, the fact is that in most cases a person had no clue on how to proceed or the course of action to follow, resulting in poor planning, poor choices, and poor procedures. They might have not been perseverant enough because of lack of focus, confidence, enthusiasm, belief, energy, etc.  

So "wasting life" is a relative term and most likely a wrong perception of something people do involuntarily. As I said and believe, there might be instances in which the case might be justified, but for the most part this issue, and the perception of time/life wasted, is the product of many factors that could be summarized as just a case of a person's lack of better judgment/awareness/ knowing,   experience and the like. A healthy person's choice is never purposely against his/her own well being.

  The solution: forgive yourself for those things you didn't know. Your concern is proof that you didn't mean to "waste life" and that you care to create positive change. Now you know better and have gained experience. it's time to get it together and move on.

Answer 12

Yes, I often feel this way.

I keep wishing that I had done more when I was a teenager. So much of that era was spent being lonely, depressed and feeling like I didn't fit in. If only I had known then what I know now. I also wish I hadn't waited so long to go to University.

Yes, I have many regrets but I try not to think about them too much. I mean, it's not like I can build a time machine...so I'm trying to do what I can now.