Ever done this to ur kid ?

Question

Have u ever put ur hand over ur kids mouth? Nowadays....kids have become so naughty and they scream n shout a lot. I just read somewhere that parents esp moms are doing things to keep their children under control. Have u ever covered ur kids mouth to silence them or when u want them to be quiet in certain situations? and should i do it when its impossible to make them stop screaming? I did it once ,it actually worked and got my son calmed down. But i fear he doesnt get choked.

Will u ever do that if situation arises

Answer 1

Yeah I have, its normal. The things they put on TV now-a-days actually frighten parents into not parenting. You see how well its working with the insane amount of teen pregnancies, and killings in schools, and all the fun things going on that make you gasp. In my book spanking is okay (to a point), you can cover his/her mouth to get them to calm down, or stop screaming. Regular discipline is fine I say. If I end up in jail because I spanked my kid and he shoots up a school its on them. Balls to the wall parents!

Answer 2

Did it to my kid sister. Has an adult I wanted her to not embarrass me in public by her screaming. But honestly has her big brother I felt horrible.

Answer 3

I got spanked when I was being a brat. It was very effective and I turned out quite sane and uninjured. But if that's not your thing, you still need to do *something*, and holding your hand over your child's mouth is one of the mildest forms of *something* I've seen. You won't asphyxiate him, I assure you. I mean, unless you're grabbing his neck hard, or plugging both his mouth and nose or something.

Answer 4

If its more like a hush-up kind of gesture then I understand.It does work I`ve done it in public when I needed to control my kids I call it the "oral time-out".

Answer 5

I've done that not covered her nose so she can still breath and everything and it's not something i'd do for 5 minutes more like 30 seconds.

Answer 6

i think that this depends on the nature of the reaction. are you scaring the sh$$ out of your kids? are they threatened? you shouldn't make them fear you but enforce a way for them to breathe them down. I like "SHHHHH!!! we're in PUBLIC!" also make the "fear" (negative enforcement) be about personal excellence; i.e "don't disappoint mommy!" Explain why they need to be calmer. If they are really really little i would try and take them somewhere out of where they are screaming so that they will divert they're energy in understanding the change in environment and not about the conflict at hand. goodluck and be careful.

Answer 7

when i was little my mom used to do that when i freaked out. i mean im pretty messed up but i dont think that had anything to do with it =)

but yeah i would go ahead and say its okay as long as you dont cover there nose or anything like that

Answer 8

Oh yes, I think it totally okay. Because sometimes kids just don't want to calm down.

Just a soft hand placed over the mouth and being told to "shush!". Nothing wrong with it. If it works on your child. Then I say do it.

He won't choke, don't worry. As long as you don't cover his nose. He'll probably calm down long enough that you can take your hand away. Good Luck! =)

Answer 9

I had to do it in public once.........my son was 5 at the time, and we were in the park, this huge lady came walking past, she must have been 25 stone, well, my son looked, eyes wide and started to shout"Wow mum just look at"........well, he got no further......i had to pop my hand over his mouth til she'd gone.......i felt terrible!

Answer 10

Yes mam, it works...and there's nothing wrong with getting their attention...and it does calm them down a bit...if that doesn't work take them to the restroom and spank their little hiney...that works too... Parents have to teach their children that they can't just scream and shout at you or in public...when parents allow their children to get away with this type behavior it's a reflection on the parent then not the child...HH

Answer 11

No !!!! I never have but if it works I might just try it...lol I normally give mine the "Look" but then they are older so they know it means shut up ! or else.

Answer 12

Whoa - I don't agree with most of what I'm seeing here.

I don't want to seem obnoxious (and I will), but the only time my three kids screamed was when they were playing (although I had one phase when one son was starting to mouth off once he was a teenager, but that stopped).  

I don't believe (and I'm not alone) in "muscling" kids into anything.

My approach was to tell them, "We're not having anyone yelling at anyone else.  I don't yell at you, and I wouldn't stand for you yelling at me."  I talked to them about other people who had yelling and screaming in their families, and we'd talk about how people can disagree without yelling and screaming.

If we were going somewhere where loud children weren't acceptable, I'd tell them ahead of time, "We're going to the whatever.  You'll have to speak quietly there."

You get the most respect and cooperation from children when you have a "take it for granted" attitude about setting the basic rules, but also when you treat them the way you expect them to treat others.

Again, I don't want to sound obnoxious, but I never had to "control" my kids.  They just pretty much behaved like civilized little people after being told the basics of behaving in different situations.  (That's not saying they never did anything wrong in their childhoods, but it was never a matter of "acting up".)

I gave them a lot of freedom and choice, but when it came to those basic behavior rules (no hitting people, no disrespect, no ruining the furniture, no running wild the stores, etc.) they were reasonable enough that my kids just kind of realized they made sense.

There's a tone of voice and an attitude that can kind of help parents take control of the situation, without needing to try to control the children, themselves.  

Also, if you make it clear - when all is calm - that it isn't acceptable for anyone to yell and scream, you can then set some consequences if anyone tries it.  ("If you raise your voice to me I won't take you out to buy those new sneakers you want." "If you raise your voice to me you will not be going out in the yard to play later.")

There are times when a kid could have a stuffed up nose and when covering his mouth could be dangerous.  Besides, what kind of behavior is that for someone who is supposed to be a role model for the child?

Anyone who believes doing that is just fine should ask their pediatrician for an opinion.  Or ask a teacher at school, a social services worker, etc.

Answer 13

Kids these days'

Answer 14

No I have not.  Children are human beings, not animals to be 'controlled'.  I think the problem has already got way out of control if the only way you can calm your child down is to put your hand over their mouth to shut them up.