Ever find yourself or know someone who can't keep up a conversation?

Question

I know it's easy for a lot of people but it's hard for others. You just don't know what to say and your mind gets blank and you're trying to think too hard of what to say and ...

^ end of that sentence is how it's like sometimes :P

What do you do?

also, ever known somebody and seen them for years (i.e. class, work, w/e) and never (hardly) ever saw them speak (open their mouth or anything) all that time

Answer 1

I have found that people who find it difficult to carry a conversation are usually so worried about not sounding stupid, or ignorant that they find themselves tongue-tied.  One thing people like that need to know is the other people are feeling the same way.  Try very hard to forget yourself and just concentrate on the people around you.  When you forget about yourself you'll find it easy to talk to others.  Being tongue-tied is the result of not having very high self esteem.

Answer 2

Good conversationalist are people that do it a lot.  They are usually extroverts that love being around other people.

When I was a teenager, I have a great deal of problem with others because I stayed to myself a lot.  Finally, I forced myself to begin to mingle with people and first learn to listen and then to talk about what others were saying.  I made sure to make others feel that they were interesting.  That helped me to get into the conversations easier.  In time, I could start conversations and join others with no difficulty.  

Practice and taking it slow works.  Best to learn to be a good listener first!

Answer 3

Often people will start a converstation and talke about something where my mind goes blank.

Answer 4

I find most conversations I encounter so awful I woudln't even bother - just sit on the sidelines smiling. I dont like 'chatting' which usually means pulling down someone who is no better than she ought to be- "isnt it awful?" conversations.

I find these hurtful adn I have nothing to offer - I dont watch T.V so I cant talk about what was on telly or celebrities.



I like a good laugh and being real with people  - I find these with my friends so save up my conversational energy for when it counts.