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Ever had a friend whom you trusted and then they just ditched you?

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Please read my story. I know it's long, but bare with me.

Ever had a friend who you had good times with, looked out for, did favours for and shared stuff with. And then one day, they just ditched you? That happened to me about a year and a half ago now.

We were in college preparing to go to uni. My friend went on holiday the day we both had an interview at the university we both wanted to go to, so I went on his behalf as well as my own. Anyway I told him everything about it and that. Come results day, I do better than him, with 3 good a-levels and a good as-level. He got one average a-level and one bad a-level. Anyways, we both got into uni and on the course. Come the first day which was like an information day, he went on holiday again, and so I again went down on his behalf as well as my own. When he came back from holiday, I told him the information that night on msn, and how to make the final preparations for starting uni. It was then he told me he isn’t going to the uni in question. To which I said, “are you not? Then what are you doing next year?” He said, “I’m going to ? Uni.” This uni was a much more better uni, than the one we were going to. However it required higher grades to get in, which neither of us got. But there was thing called, clearances (filling the empty places) in which they dropped the entry level, and thus he got in and didn‘t tell me about it at the time. After telling me this, he then said, “I got in and it’s too late for you, bye.” He then cancelled me as a friend on msn, and I‘ve never spoken to him since. I was shocked at what just happened. I thought we were friends, and after everything I did on behalf of him, this is how he repayed me. I mean, I know I should have checked clearance myself, but I didn’t know they lowered the entry level, and after everything I told him, he could off least told me, right? Now a year and a half later, through other friends, I hear how he’s at a better, higher quality uni than me, even though he has lower grades. He is getting a better standard education than me, better facilities, he’s getting professionals even ceo’s coming in to work with the classes, and all these work experience opportunities. They put on trips to companies, some modules turned into actual work with a company. The uni has a fantastic reputation and has high links with many in the industry. He will leave uni with better employment prospects and probably end up earning more than me for the rest of our lives. I on the other hand, will have to search and fight for a job without any links with poeople in the industry and having had the experiences this ex-friend has had. I might not even get employed at all and end up having to do something else my whole life. I’m gutted in a sense, because I feel like I’ve been backstabbed, and cheated.

What do you make of this story?

Got any stories like this, if so please tell?

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  1. don't worry you don't need people like that in your life

    i don't trust anyone either.


  2. My so-called uni friends ditched me nearly ten years ago now. I wasn't an angel but they didn't have the guts to tell me to my face just went behind my back and thought I'd take a subtle hint. It hurt a lot at first but with time, it got easier. I don't know whether it was because they were a bunch of snobs who looked down on others or what, looking back they weren't very nice people anyway. You sound like you're better off without your friend, if he ditches you like that what's the point in bothering with them? The funny thing about my story is that one of them contacted me via face book a few months ago but I think it was only to be nosy. I just wish I could confront the idiots and have final closure but I never get the chance, if I did then I'd wipe the floor with them and walk away. It sounds childish but hey.........................

  3. any chance you can transfer in to this better university?  Keep trying if you want to better your situation.

    My suggestion is to put this situation behind you and ditch him as a friend, considering it a life lesson to not be a doormat.  Then always work on your own plans first and let the next bloke worry about his own life.   Besides, why was he always going on holiday during times when he should've been looking into uni entrance?  

    I feel your pain but we all get lessons like this, believe me.


  4. Unlucky, that is really harsh. I never trust anyone, and i kind of bet bored of people quickly, which all i do it avoid them for a few days then I'm fine again. But just ditching you for no reason is very bad... you sure it happened like that, if so, then was he worth it? Just move on. He's obviously a tosser...

    Good example of why to never trust or get too close to people though...

  5. i think you should kill him

    seriously  

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