Ever notice as soon as you start telling people you're pregnant...?

Question

They say, "yes, I KNEW you were pregnant." Okay. I can see one or two people, who are VERY close to you, suspecting that you're pregnant because of- I don't know- you're nauseated or you're tired all the time and b***s are getting bigger, or mood swings, etc...

but SO MANY people- people I don't even know that well- are coming out of the woodwork and saying, "Yes, I could tell by your eyes." This doesn't bug me, but I do find it curious and funny- not THAt many people could have known. (As just one example, the lady at Subway who makes my sandwich every week said when I told her this week, "I had a feeling you were. I have a gift." (My subway sandwich order hadn't changed at all, in case you were wondering if my sandwich suddenly got weird.) I haven't gained a lot of weight, I'm only 3 months. I get suspicious and wonder why these people never said anything BEFORE if they truly knew...

Anybody experienced this? Can YOU tell if a woman is pregnant by looking at her eyes?

Answer 1

I can usually 'sense' if a woman is pregnant, but not EVERYONE.  They are people that I know pretty well from either working with or being in a position to observe them.  Women that know they are pregnant act a little differently and aren't so careless anymore.  It's not any one said thing, but just the way they move, talk, reflect.  Usually it's before they tell anyone around 2 - 3 months.  The one girl, I actually had a dream about had a baby boy and told her and she started to cry.  She told me she just found out that weekend.  She did have a boy.  That was the strangest one for me.  I usually don't say anything to anyone on the off chance I am wrong, but neither do I admit it unless I had some real proof of what I was saying so I don't sound like an idiot.  It's just a feeling I get inside and a thought.  I don't dwell on it too long.

Answer 2

Yes, it's normal. I got that all the time. Even when I didn't know that I was someone said it looks like I am and that day when I want home from work it was positive! You have a glow about you that people pick up on. And even guys feel this way to. My experiences only. I can't talk 4 anyone else.

Answer 3

I've told a few people they were, before they knew...but not because of their eyes!!!  I just had the "feeling".  BUT...about why they didn't say anything before you told them...can you imagine the feeling of consciousness you'd have if they asked you about it...but you weren't?  Just a thought!!  Maybe you just have that beautiful "glow" about you people have talked about in movies!!! Congratulations on your pregnancy!!!!

Answer 4

people just want a connection with you.  I've had 2 kids, the second pregnancy i kept a secret from EVERYONE and of course every person had their own idea that they were 100% sure of.... actually the majority said it would be a girl, thats what they hoped for, and ha ha, it turned out to be another boy :-D So as I was 3 months along, and no one could tell... i hadn't gained weight, acted different, looked different, nothing.  as soon as i revealed it, suddenly everyone just knew.  can tell by the eyes?  What nonsence.

so annoying.

the other weird thing, no baby bump yet, i had a perfect flat tummy.  i say i'm having a baby (this was on the first pregnancy) and everyone felt like it was ok for them to touch my belly.  and talk to it.  and rub it.

so then i'd rub theirs, after i got sick of all that. :-).  Or I'd charge money.  Well i did feel like a Carnival attraction!

oh, and when especially fat women, yes i work with a lot of them (nothing agains them in general, etc) would say wow!  you've gained so much weight.... well, depending on my hormones at the time, and how b*tchy i was feeling, you can imagine my comments.

"so have you!"

"are we comparing?"

and so on.  but i'd say it with such a sweet smile, as sweet as theirs.

they're not really trying to be malicious, but it gets old and really annoying.  and you don't want to gain a lot of weight, you want to be a perfect looking mom (hey, if you have to carry a baby in your stretched out belly, you might as well look d**n good doing it, right?).  One woman was looking at my butt, made a comment of my weight (i was a size 4/6).  Hormones raged, so I said:  I'm pregnant.  Um, whats you're excuse?

Happy pregnancy!

Answer 5

I had people telling me they were'nt surprised...like a was a s**t or something LoL!! (i'm not I promise) I had been dating my now-husband for 2 1/2 years when I found out and I knew what they meant but just the way they said it sounded like a slept around! LoL!

Answer 6

No, not possible, they are just making idle conversation.  

Answer 7

I said to a woman in my work she was walkin differently &she admitted she was 3months gone, but I didn't know what was causing it. But the eyes is a strange one. Maybe just cos you look so happy :)

Answer 8

People thought I was pregnant because my appetite had changed. I was eating healthy foods all the time. They also told me they "just knew". I imagine it was because I had a little extra weight. I was only 102 lbs before I got pregnant so at 8 weeks, I had a belly!

Answer 9

when i found out i was pregnant i told the people at my work right away since me and my hubby work at the same place, all of a sudden everyone started saying i knew you were pregnant and all this stuff... Well my response to that was if everyone knew i was pregnant how come nobody thought to let me know i was pregnant i didn't find out until i was 8 weeks(i have endometrosis and very ireegular periods)...

Answer 10

My aunt knew I was going be pregnant cause she said the way I was act, and I don't think they would notice pregnant woman tell by eyes, I believe the way act more then the eyes. Congrats on your pregnant!

Answer 11

I don't think it is to do with the eyes, you just know. It is one of those things. Intuition or something.

Answer 12

No I haven't gotten that but I did get a lot of

You can tell look at your breast and you have this Glow

So I started looking for the glow...

Older people can kinda tell before you can

Answer 13

No I think its just something people say. It could because most women experience a time of being very glowing. Your hair doesn't fall out, you get more vitamins, you might even have a better mood. Some women don't experience this though it just depends on the person. Unfortunately this is just part of pregnancy. People saying weired thing and wanting to rub the tummy. If this makes you uncomfortable don't be afraid to say please don't do that. It is your right to say no to the baby belly rubbing's. Personally I enjoy the added attention of all the o's and ah's. Have fun and enjoy your pregnancy!

Answer 14

That is hilarious. I actually had a lot of people ask me before I told them if I was pregnant because I was in a better mood (I had just had a miscarriage and had been pretty down before) and was a bit sick, but never people that I didn't know very well, most were surprised. That is funny though, the Subway lady. "I have a gift..." that cracks me up.

Answer 15

Yes you can tell. I personally have only been able to tell once, but I already knew my friend was pregnant. The very next time I saw her (after she told me on the phone) she just looked fuller (not fat) just thicker all over. The had a warmer glow to her skin tone, her eyes where also more glossy. She was 6-7weeks along. However, I don't think I could tell if someone was pregnant if I didn't know them or see them regularly.

Oh and the way my friend (same as above) found out she was pg,  was that her husband started having the morning sickess before her! And no he's not sick, he just started having morning sickness, cravings, cramping, etc. Before she did! So he asked her if she might be pg b/c of all the symptoms he was having! Weird uh?

But there are people who just seem to know or can tell....

My husband and I went to see his cousins and his aunt at their house (we would usually do this 1-3x a week.) 4 years ago. Well, we left and later that week when my husband went back by himself, his aunt asked him if i was pregnant. He said "No, why?" She said that she could tell I was b/c I had that glow, and that she already had 3 kids so she knows if someone is pregnant. Well he came back and told me. It was weird b/c i had already missed my period and I was worried I might be, and I hadn't said anything to anyone about it. So, I went and took a test and BOOM! BFP!  Now we have a 3 1/2 year old daughter!

Now my hubby and I are TTC again, and his aunt now lives next door to us, so if Im too wussy to take a test and think I might be I just go over there to chit chat and hope she'll tell me if she notices something different about me!