Ever notice how the ruder you are to people the more they seem to respect you, if grudgingly?

Question

I always thought the kinder you were the more likable you are to people. However, noticing people around me the ruder and more arrogant you are the more people respect them. I don't get this nor do I want to be this way. It's confusing to me and heart-breaking. I just wondered if anyone had noticed the same thing.

Answer 1

I have absolutely no respect for rude people.  I avoid them like the plague.  The only time I have to deal with them is if they happen to be family members and I still try to avoid them.  I find rude people to be immature and or miserable people.

Answer 2

i think it's more to do with fear rather than respect...

Answer 3

I think you're confusing being intimidated with respect.

They probably think the person is an arrogant ***, they just don't bother to say that out loud. It's not worth the trouble...

They are merely more likely to respond to your demands where it is easier to merely give you what you want, then to argue with you, especially in business.

Answer 4

It's not respect.

They dislike you. They just pretend respect so you aren't rude toward them. (You or whoever.)

There's no call to be rude; and it's counter-productive, as the people you're rude to do wait for every opportunity to get back at you for it.

I keep saying YOU but I mean whoever you're talking about. No, you don't want to become a horrible person.

If you did, others wouldn't really respect you.

Answer 5

it's people are afraid to say something because they might be lashed with a rude comment. The people think they're superior so other people begin to see it that way too.

Answer 6

I totally get what you are saying.  My own experiences and observations I have noticed that we are always meaner and ruder to people we love the most.  I think in general we are ruder to the people we actually trust because we trust that they will be able to take our frustrations.  It's not fair to them, but it seems to be a human thing to do.  We say such mean things to people we are close to and frankly it's not really fair to them.  It's like we feel so close to them that we feel we can say and do anything we want, but in turn, what happens when that person gets tired of taking it?  Good question and thoughts.