Ever since baby our s*x life has changed can you help?

Question

since having my baby girl my boyfriend doesnt seem to want it anymore , ive asked if its me and he says no i ask if its because ov the baby and he says no he just says he doesnt feel like it that much any more but he still loves me what am i sposed to do with that my baby girl goes to bed at 9 and doesnt wake up until 6 so shes not about and shes in her own room so it cant be her i want it alot but he never wants it and if i get it twice out the whole month im lucky sorry if thats to much info what can i do ? he doesnt even lyk me touching him and looknig at his private bits anymore

Answer 1

I totally agree with smarties.

Answer 2

i dont know why a man would act like that. Unless he is out getttin it from somebody else. Sometimes men get disgusted after a woman has a baby, i dont understand why tho beacuse its a bueatiful thing. I feel as tho its wrong how he is making you feel. No man should make a woman feel that way esp after she gave birth to his own child.

Answer 3

Don't mean to sound mean or harsh but has your body 'changed' since having a baby?

Answer 4

He may have issues with your body as you might still have some baby fat from the pregnancy.  That is something he will need to live with.  

What I do think is concerning is he isn't interested in s*x, all guys cant stop thinking about s*x so you need to work out where he is getting his release from; Is he masturbating, looking at p**n or if you are only doing it twice a month if you are lucky, he could be having an affair/cheating. (I hope not for your sake)

If he is genuinely not interested in s*x it could be something more serious such as depression.  You need to encourage him to talk to you about this problem or if he can't talk to you he needs to see a therapist to overcome whatever problem he has. If the problem gets worse then you may need couples counseling to hit this head on!

Good Luck

Answer 5

men go through alot when they have children it could even be related to his own childhood talk to him be patient relationships are not just about s*x, maybe he's terrified about having another child. It could be a number of issues also explain that you miss intimacy and you feel sexually attrached to him above all communicate and trust in the love you share within your family.

Answer 6

Was he in the delivery room ? some times that changes a guy try something fun and s**y or going well (exploring different places ) if you know what I mean.

Answer 7

Well, thats strange, i think, the baby is a put off factor for him. Maybe things hadnt changed if you two didnt have the baby. But you have had it.... so what can be done? if it really bothers you, seek professional help.

Answer 8

lol xD . . .  s*x . . .

Answer 9

the baby is not the reason.  It's just that your boyfriend is not as horny as you are.  He lacks s*x drive which he needs to work out, maybe he's just physically tired and needs vitamins for vigor and vitality or maybe he lacks that hormones that will stimulate s*x drive, or in any other reason, it may be that the two of you are not sexually compatible.  No need to blame the baby.  

Answer 10

He sounds rather immature but that reaction is not unusual

try Relate together

Answer 11

buy some lingerie and surprise him... but if not and that doesn't work then move on. hes not worth the waiting for :) x

Love Abby & Jaz x

Answer 12

its just his s*x libido has gone down hill thats all and its natural,it could be a number of reasons but dont worry about it it doesnt mean hes gone off you he could be just stressed or down sit down and talk to him  

Answer 13

It seems to be a quite common thing to happen. It's some sort of psychological block he now has.  Maybe talk to your doctor, or it might be something Relate can help with.

Answer 14

having never had a baby Im not the best to give advice, but is there any chance you've let yourself go since giving birth? He might just not be as attracted to you as he once was if you've been left with a lot of baby weight? Or he might just not feel comfortable having s*x so soon after you having had the baby in case he hurts you or something?

xx