Ever since my mother met the man who would later be her fiance, shes been really non mom like i need advice..

Question

She met him about 3 or 4 years ago, I was 12 and my sister was 17. My sister got kind of lucky, because she got to have both of our parents for most of her childhood, because they divorced the year my mom met Dan (later to be fiance, next month husband) and I just feel like, ever since the divorce, both my parents just kinda blow me off. Like the other day, my dad was up here borrowing my sisters car, he had no where he needed to go, so I asked him if he wanted to play a little game of chess, and hes like no, and he left. My mom never wants to do anything with me or my sister unless Dan is involved, and if Dan doesn't want to do it, then she won't do it.

And the whole thing, is I just kinda feel like, neither of my parents really care about anymore. Neither of them ever take the time out anymore to see what my problems might be, mom never helps me with my homework, even when I really need her help. She always helped my sister, and this is part of the reason my sister got better grades than I get. I've failed classes because I didn't do the homework because even though the teacher explained, I still didn't really get it, and my sister works all the time so I can't ask her, and my mom doesn't even give two s***s. I know 15 is kinda old, but I have basically been without caring parents for the passed 4 years, and its really starting to bug me, because I used to be really close to my parents, I just feel like, my parents gave my sister their all, but they realy haven't with me.

I'm afraid to talk to my mom about it because whenever I try to she always tells me that I'm full of it, or whatever. I only have 3 years of school left, but my mom went and decieded she can't wait 3 years to marry and move with the Dan, so instead, I have to leave the house I've lived in my entire life, I have to leave all my friends, and go to a place I really hate. And the least I feel like she could do for me is love me more than she seems like she does.

Am I being redicuous?

Answer 1

h**l no your not being rediculous. If you really feel that way you need to have to talk to your mom or dad. It may sound awkward but thats the only way things are going to change. If your talking to your mom do it at a time when Dan isn't their and if she blows you off tell her its serious. Your dad on the other hand I dont know what tell you about him. Your 15 and you shouldn't have to finish growing up in house where you feel un loved. If you dont have a serious talk with your parents your future can be affected in a very negitive way.

Answer 2

No, I don't feel that you are being totally ridiculous, however I do feel that you really do need to address the problem even though you dont like talking to your mom about it because you feel she blows you off. Try not to place the blame on the fact that she got engaged and re-married so soon and just tell her how you are feeling left out and that you really miss and need her still. You also should tell your dad b/c as obvious as it might be to you, he may be totally oblivious to how you are feeling. If it would be easier for you, write them each a letter and leave it for them maybe on the kitchen counter before they leave for work or maybe in an email at work or somewhere were they can read it and have some time to let it sink in before they just 'blow you off" or say you're full of it. Maybe suggest that once a week you can have a day when you and your mom can hang out together for a few hrs at a time and go to a movie, or bowling or shopping and the next week maybe you and your dad could do the same thing....but for the most part you need to address how you are feeling because regarless of how rediculous anyone thinks it is....you ARE feeling this way and its not going to go away unless it is addressed! Good luck babe! I grew up in the same type of situation and it all worked out for me in the end but it took some work......