Ever told your friend that you were falling in love with them, then get rejected, then stayed friends?

Question

Only reason I Didn't post this in relationships or friends or whatever is because I don't like the section too much :P. But just to lighten things up some more, I just felt like posting this question. And yes, this question is from personal experience. .

Answer 1

This has never happened. To any guy. Ever.

Plenty of guys have wound up in the 'Friend-Zone', but that's a silly name because she's clearly no friend of his. Who would want a friend whose opinion of them is so low?

But the guy might stick around.

The woman may think he is her friend, but really he's just very patient, and absurdly optimistic, and hoping that one day he'll get into her pants.

Which of course is the only reason a guy is 'friends' with a woman in the first place.

Men and women can't be friends.

Answer 2

I was convinced I loved this guy when I was 16, and then when I got a bit older I realised I'd never fancied him or wanted to sleep with him and that made me think I hadn't really loved him, except in a platonic way.  He tried to stay friends, but he never let it go and after a bit I got tired of feeling that he was convinced I was still pining after him, so I ended the friendship.  Some people can handle it, but others will always have that smug air about them - guess you'll have to wait it out and see how she goes :-)

Answer 3

I don't tread in that path - telling a friend that I have interest beyond our friendship, when unsure how the person feels about me. I did it once and regretted it afterwards (found out he was g*y), and some have said so to me, when I haven't felt the same... so these experiences have served as a lesson for me to not, under any circumstances, tell a friend whom I like that I have "romantic" interests, unless I am certain that this person also feels the same.

It has potential of ruining a good friendship, when one could eventually get over such feelings and meet someone else in the future.

I'm sorry that things are not the same with your friend whom you care for, hopefully you will both get past that and salvage what could be a great friendship.  :-)