Every time I open the door ......?????

Question

Every time I open the door for ladies , they don't say " Thank you " no more, why is that?

Time has changing?

Answer 1

It's not just ladies. American society on the whole is not as polite as it once was.

Answer 2

It is not just you my friend...

We have come half-circle in this battle of the sexes - waged now for some 30 years.

Often when a woman is seen as a lady and treated as such, she proves our assumption incorrect with inappropriate rudeness and manner-less disregard. We, as gentlemen, must simply count these as our mistakes and move along.

However, when one does encounter a true lady - whether she be a housewife or a master of fashion or industry, she will acknowledge your (quite proper) manners with a polite "Thank you" or at least a polite nod in your direction if she is busy (or Japanese).

Do not forsake your good manners due to the bad manners of others my friend. In the end, we may yet come full-circle when a woman (no matter how independent or powerful in her own right) is secure enough to be graceful and appreciative when treated like a lady.

I still open doors and make way for those I assume to be ladies. Often I am quite disappointed to discover that they are merely generic-brand "women" with ill-mannered minds, who do not appreciate a gentleman's good graces.

I pray society-at-large returns to sanity soon.

Mortimer Maxwell Manners

Answer 3

it depends on the man who opens the door.... if it is my bf i think its the cutest thing ever but if it is some 40 year old man who is giving me a cheesy smile and is looking at my chest not my face i wanna take the door ans slam it in his face... so maybe your opening the door for the wrong women? i don't mean your a freak or any thing so plz don't take it that way i mean that women always think a man has ulterior motives... i know what my bf wants when he is charming... it just makes women suspicious when you are kind or charming because that is the way we have to be in today's society... ( that was where  the cheesy guy comes in... i didn't mean you were the freak)

Answer 4

Yesterday, I was leaving a store and had my hand on the door and my body in the doorway. Not only did the 'gentleman' coming in not hold the door for me, but he stood there in my path, blocking my exit. The look on his face told me that he thought this normal behaviour. It was I who said 'Excuse me' as I circled around his only slightly overweight carcass. You are so right! Either manners are simply not being taught in the US, or attention spans have fallen so much nobody is paying attention! If you ever hold a door for me, I will say 'Thank you', and if I'm ever exiting a shop you are entering, you will stand aside. If you take off you hat, I'll blow you a kiss.

Answer 5

i for one, am of course, a lady. and i appreciate the good deeds of a gentleman. to show gratitude, i do say thank you.

but then again, not all are like that. a lot of men aren't like you. some are rude; many just indifferent. but don't change your good habits just because the world had. or because ladies stopped being polite.

:)

Answer 6

I'll open the door for anyone, male, female or animal!  I always say thanks to anyone holding it open for me too.

But the other day, I held a door open for my kids and this woman rushed through in front of them......cheek!  When I coughed meaningfully, she quickly said 'thanks'.  But then, my kids were dawdling so I might as well have held the door for half the country by the time they got through it.....I had nothing better to do LOL.

Answer 7

I always prelude the opening of said doors, by simply stating "There you go" or a simple "Ooops" or "Sorry".

It becomes very apparent, you are being Civil. Most occasions is relied with a "Cheers" or "Thanks".

If not, you are being Civil, they are not. So sod 'em.

Remember you want to get from A to B yourself, so sod them again.

Answer 8

I always say thankyou. Women should say thankyou if a guy does that, because not many men do. Some women are just not here sometimes so they dont even notice that a guys doing this for them. Dont take it personally, some women are s****. and uptight to everyone.

Answer 9

isn´t it horrible?i am a firm believer in thanks and please.always!

Answer 10

A lot of people feel entitled.  They feel they are the best thing since sliced bread.  It all boils down to ignorance and rudeness.  Don't give up, though, there are still many of us out here that appreciate a kind gesture when we see one. :)

Answer 11

Because they ain't ladies Junior. Aieeeee, you need to come home baby...they wasn't no ladies my little gordo. AIEEEEEE

Answer 12

i dont know im a girl and the only person that holds the door open for me is my dad

Answer 13

I think its everyone. I held a door open for a man the other day, I had my son under one arm and shopping under the other and he walked through like it was expected, i simply commented as i walked passed him, saying "I'll make sure i roll out the red carpet, bow and avoid eye contact next time then maybe you might say thank you for my gesture huh?" And he felt quite stupid. But some people are just straight out rude and have lost there manners somewhere along the line. I always thank people for holding the door for me as they don't have to and it's a nice gesture to do.

But a good gesture should done without a thank you or cheers, just let it slide an dfeel you have done your bit regardless of others bad manners.

Answer 14

I always say thank you when a gentleman opens the door for me.  

It's sad that people aren't considerate anymore and that some people get freaked out or offended by someone else showing them consideration.

Don't give up, some of us women still appreciate it.  I also will open or hold the door for a man.

Answer 15

NOT EVEN ONE? Then I suppose they are not a lady, because when you address a female with the commanding word lady, she possess an admiring trait. Because I also do such things open doors for little ole' ladies and half of them say 'thank you'. Even if they do not say the word TY it really doesn't matter to me the important thing is you done a very good thing for them.

JESUS CHRIST heal a blind man, a cripple, made a dead man rise from the dead, revoke the evil spirit etc NOT EVEN ONE OF THESE PEOPLE THANK HIM. So why only a mortal like us complain if no one thank us for a good thing for them, no need to cry over spilled milk.

Answer 16

Being civil and appreciative does not belong to only one gender or the other. It applies to both.

Yes, I noticed women do not say thanks anymore. I still do it - without expectation or being cheesy - however good looking they are or well endowed. Those definitely are not the reasons.

If the lady has a small child, it deserves full attention all the way through with all the sets of doors until she gets into the building safely. Do not expect thanks. But it comes automatically because you were considerate.

These are my yardsticks to helping someone.

No expectations. If I get a smile and thanks I accept it gracefully. Liberated women feel somehow saying thanks to a man opening the door is beneath them and that they were treated as a "weaker-s*x". Such people are confused about themselves and their roles.

Answer 17

I am not sure where you live but I know that I still say thank you.  The bigger the city, the more rushed and crowded people feel the less likely they are to be polite.  I live in a small town in the south, hospitality still lives here, most of the time.

Answer 18

People are too busy to have common courtesy anymore.  I told a man thank you for him holding the door for me & he got upset with me for having the nerve to speak to him.  Some days you just can't win.

Answer 19

yeah i know what you mean..

people are just plain rude these days..

haha try this.. only open the door for really sweet or really not so pretty women.. and not the "hot" chicks.. that would just eat them up..

and most likly the sweet ones might just MIGHT have some manners and say "thank you"..

and the not so pretty ones.. well they will be so happy that someone opened the door for them =]

and you will have made thier day..

also, sometimes they might not say thankyou, it might be just a smile or a nod.. i dunno where your located at but  where im from most the guys open doors for the ladys.. when i travel it just gets worse lol