Every time im away from my husband i feel like he is cheating but when his around i feel fine and cared for.?

Question

Is this normal?

why am i so insecure?

How do i over come this?

Answer 1

If there is nothing in your relationship that leads you to think that he is/would cheat on you when apart, you need to get a grip on your insecurities before you drive him away. Perhaps therapy to resolve your past issues so that they don't affect your future.

If there ARE current issues - emotional distance, lying, money problems, past infidelities, etc. - then you need to work on them now before they becomes a real problem. Talk with him about what you need to feel more secure with him, when you are not together. But don't be too demanding, that can be a turn off too.

Communication is the answer.

Answer 2

you may be insecure....but you also may have that thing that us women have....called gut feelings.  talk to him about it.  communication is the best way to get things in the open.

Answer 3

Have you told him this?  Thats what I would do.  See if he can make you feel better about it!  If he cant, then leave him.

Answer 4

No, it's not normal.  Have you been left before (ex-husband, dad, mom, boyfriend, etc)?  If so, that's probably where it's coming from, if not then it could be from a lot of things.  It's hard to say without knowing more about you and your life.  

As for getting over it, sometimes we're our own worst enemy. When the thought comes to you, treat it like an enemy trying to turn you against the man you love and tell that enemy that they're wrong.  Tell them that you trust him and you won't infect your marriage with doubt and distrust.  Just keep doing that until the enemy shuts the h**l up.  It will probably take a long time, months even but you can change this destructive self talk.  

Be careful that you don't let this damage your relationship.  These things can become self fulfilling prophecy - you create what you fear.  If your husband feels that you don't trust him and that you're blaming him for things that he hasn't done, he might decide to go ahead and do what he's being blamed for.  Even if it doesn't go that far it could still undermine your relationship in ways that will be hard to repair.  

Answer 5

Sometimes your gut dont lie!

Answer 6

No it is not normal. He has either given you reason to mistrust him that you've yet to get over, or you're the one out there messing around.

If he has done nothing of the sort, then you need to stop being so insecure and move on from that ridiculous and stressful mindset that you have.

Answer 7

I go through the same thing.  When my husband is gone I get very anxious and sometimes start having awful thoughts.  When he is home or around me I feel fine.  It's my own insecurities.  I have a wonderful loving and loyal husband.  I sometimes open up and tell him what I'm feeling.  When I do he seems to always reassure me about who he is and how much he loves me. We've been married for 12 years and I still go through this once in a while.  Maybe it's because of past relationships where my ex-husband cheated, or previous boyfriends that cheated.  I have found being totally honest with my husband and letting know how I feel has helped tremendously.  Yes, my husband can't believe I get like this sometimes, but him reassuring me that he is not going to cheat and that he loves me really helps. I guess realizing that you CAN trust your husband is what it's all about.  I have never ever really trusted anyone but him.  It's a wonderful feeling.  Not every man is a cheater.

Answer 8

ummm i think you should learn to trust him a relationship without trust dosen't go to far and if he was cheating on you i think that it would be a bit more noticeable and if not secrets ALWAYS! come out i learned this from past experiences =]

Answer 9

Want to know the truth about what your spouse is up to.

Are sick and tired of looking like a fool and getting walked over.

Have spent lots of time and money on professional investigators but have had limited results

Are frustrated about how much hard painstaking work you've put into trying to catch your spouse for nothing.

Are so outraged by how worthless the books and professionals that you've wasted your money on that you feel like beating someone up!

http://simplyfreenow.info/cheaters.html

Answer 10

WAKE UP .... STOP KIDDING URSELF

You likely feel this way for a reason....

unless your psychotic  

Answer 11

If you have this deep seeded distrust of your husband, then you really have to analyze whether or not you really ought to be married.  Believe it or not, these feelings will cause problems down the line if you do not learn how to trust.

However, if your feelings are right, and he is cheating on you, then kick him in the sack.

Answer 12

Trust your husband all the time and you'll find your marriage going stronger each passing year.

Answer 13

don't worry about it. this just shows how precious he is to you. You must love him a lot, this is natural.

Answer 14

HES CHEATING ON YOU!!!!!!

go and s***w another guy before its too late