Every time my boyfriend comes over he expects to stay the night but I don't always want him to. What do I say?

Question

Every time he comes over, he stays and never gets a message to leave. Even if I say I'm going somewhere, he expects to stay in my apartment and wait for me. It's been like this for years. He has his own place, which I rarely go to since he just rents a room out of someone's house. I don't want him to go away forever, but I don't want him smothering me either and always expecting to sleep over for days at a time; the whole weekend. I sometimes say I need to get up early and make up excuses, whatever... but I don't like having to worry about what to say. How do I call it a night, even after we make love to assure he will go home?

Answer 1

ok if you don't always want him to stay over night say you need to be alone.. but if he wants he can call you that night.. make sure your all right... but girls do need there space,, and you gotta make sure he knows that

Answer 2

It sounds like he wants to be there with you and you don't want that.

If it has been years, you need to assess where this is going so that you both don't waste any more time.

Answer 3

I know that the game is different now, but realistically only a fiancee or husband  should be spending the night in the first place. When you lower your standards at the beginning of a relationship,you can never raise them in a man's eyes. Playing marriage games never has a good out come for the woman. He will be offended when you finally tell him to go, because now he feels this is his right as your boyfriend. If this is truly how you feel, don't keep dragging it out because it will only get worst with time. If women keep their standards high, no matter how much pressure we apply, you will have a better chance for a lasting relationship.