Everyone in my grade has had s*x?

Question

basically everyone who is well known in my grade has had s*x. I am part of the "popular" crowd I guess you could say. Im not like SUPER popular but pretty much everyone knows my name and I get invited to a lot of cool events.

Over the summer almost everyone had s*x at some point. They all talk about it during lunch and on the bis and I feel left out. I don't want to have s*x but I do kind of want to be a part of the conversation and not look like a giant baby lol. So what should I do? I am in 8th grade.

Answer 1

don't do it! one time and you could end up with a child and protection doesn't always work plus if everyone is having s*x you could get an STD. s*x is very serious don't mess around with it!

Answer 2

well those few weren't lying then but I'm sure allot where.

+ you said the "popular" kids. that still leave the regular kids on down that most likely didn't either.

and yeah in 8th grade my hormones where like a time bomb and I just wanted to go off but it calms down...slowly....but it calms down.

I hope your going to wait tell marriage

I am, I didn't want to give my wife something that's been other places if you know what I mean. I would feel dirty and I want to give her the best cuz I know if you do studies show s*x is better in marriages where both where virgins going into it.

Answer 3

First off you will look like the mature for not giving it up. Congrats on that and don't ever let peer pressure take it away from you. If you want to get involved. Get some facts and things from google. Type in any question and most likely you will get an answer and become very knowledgeable.

Answer 4

i think you are way too young anyways wait till your married

Answer 5

8th grade?  d**n, you go to school with a bunch of s***s with no self respect and no self control.  The right guy will wait, and the right girl is worth waiting for.

PS - Chances are some of those kids are lying about what they've been up to, just do they don't look out of place.

Answer 6

They have not. I guarantee they have not. There are not that many stupid people in the world.

They talk about it because one person talked about it, and apparently being reckless with your future is the cool thing, so they fabricate things to sound "cool".

The 8th grade? I kind of feel sick.

Do you want to go to college? Get a good job? Live within your means? Then focus on school. Trust me. s*x is much more important when you're in the real world (i.e. out of high school) and you actually know what you're doing.

Answer 7

Believe me, honey, they aren't all having s*x.  Some of them are just pretending to have had s*x, because they don't want to be left out of the conversations.

Be HAPPY, because sooner or later, the conversations will turn to whispers about so-and-so and how they got pregnant / got an abortion / got an STD, etc.  You don't want to be the subject of THOSE conversations!  

Answer 8

whoa... 8th grade thats a bit young... thats my age by the way XD

umhs... don't do it. don't listen to them. obviously, they are whores or s***s. just dont.. you could get pregnant and than you'll regret doing it!

p.s.- do not give in to PEER PRESSURE!

Answer 9

They all probably go home and worry about if they are having a baby or caught an std as well.  It isn't that cool to have s*x.  I was a true believer in waiting until marriage but ended up giving in.  It was the worst decision of my life because when I met my husband and we married I would have loved so much to tell him he was my one and only and have that night be so special.  Don't let what others think or say about you determine how you act.  It is your life not theirs and the conversation is just that... a chance to look cool when really it is quite disgusting that an 8th grader is even thinking about having s*x!  I mean really could someone that age truly deal with having a child?  There is so much more that kids your age need to be thinking about not to mention how easy it is to get emotionally attached to someone at that age.  Stay pure you'll be glad you did!

Answer 10

I doubt they are telling the truth. I'm not super popular, but I'm not a total dork either. Recently I was at a party with 10 girls, and the topic came up, and all of us said we were planning on waiting until marriage. I'm in 8th grade too.

Answer 11

I think that you are the smartest kid in your grade b/c you have not have s*x. Once you have s*x, you cannot undo it, I know teenagers are having s*x at this age and it's the "norm". But with pregnancy and diseases out there it's best to wait a little longer until you are older and in a serious relationship at least.

Answer 12

Just find a nice boy that's still a virgin and make a pact to tell your friends that you did it with eachother (but really you didn't)...not the best advice but it'll keep you popular and you'll have something to "talk" about...good luck sweetie and don't do it just because your friends are do it because YOU want to do it and make it with someone you really care about your still very young and you don't want to end up pregnant or anything like that right!!   I just know where your coming from I was one of the popular kids in school too and peer presures a BI***

Answer 13

o stop it.  

Answer 14

They are lying to get attention.  Stay firm in your decision.  

Answer 15

I am also in the 8th grade and most of my friends have had s*x already. So I won't be like everyone else and tell you are too young, times have changed since our parents were in 8th grade! Don't feel left out, most of my friends know I am still a virgin and they don't make fun of me at all. You can include yourself in the conversation, but you don't have to include yourself in sexual activities to feel more "in".

Answer 16

some people just make up stuff because they feel the exact same way that you do and they don't want to feel left out so they lie and make up stuff to fit in.  I'm not saying that you should do that because it is quite lame but if i were you i wouldn't believe everything that people tell you.  Honestly it's ok to be different and if people look down on you for making the right decisions then they aren't true friends anyway.  :)

Answer 17

Haven't you learned, individuality is cool, as is not being afraid to be yourself and to stand up for what you believe in. Don't have s*x to follow the crowd, that is what a sheep would do. Be proud that you are a virgin and that you are waiting. You say you are popular so use your 'influence' for something good, like showing to others that it is ok not to have s*x and not to give in to peer pressure.

Answer 18

Ok im 24 and most of those guys are lying. Trust me. I was in 8th grade and very popular. I had the best girls but i wasn't getting any. A few guys are but most of the guys at the lunch table are lying. I used to have to lie about it too just to fit in.

The average guy gets it around 9th or 10th grade maybe later. U should just wait for the special girl to come along

Answer 19

Don't give in to peer pressure. As they are bragging about having s*x, brag about how you havent because you don't want to be a s**t.  

Answer 20

You wont look like a baby, just say "No one deserved me yet.  Im waiting for the right one."

And 8th grade is awful young dearie.  Dont feel pressured to have s*x.  It's not *that great* unless you have it with someone you care about, respect and feel comfortable with.  THEN it's worth it.

If anyone teases you just say "Im not loose. Im not easy.  Im waiting for the right one, thanks."

And leave it at that.

Decent people will respect you for that.

Answer 21

8th grade?

whaaat

do you like live in the ghetto or something?

who's having s*x at age 13-14?!

Answer 22

dont have s*x until YOU want to.

i made the mistake of doing that.

it doesnt bother me, but i wouldnt want anyone else to do that.

plus, you should feel special.

it sets you apart from everyone else.

and, if this doesnt sound wrong, guys will want you even more when your older.

it isnt that great.

baby in 8th grade?

no/

haha/

Answer 23

Im 18 and still a virgin Ive been dating my boyfriend for three years and hes still a virgin as well and hes almost 23.You definetly shouldnt be having s*x at that young of an age.Think about the consequences (pregnancy or a std).Do you really want to have to deal with that?And if anyone makes fun of you just tell them they dont deserve me.I like thinking about it as such do you think a guy would want to share a cup with  6 or 7 other people?

Answer 24

no one will think your a baby. i wish i had waited. im very proud of you for waiting and not falling for peer pressure yet. you would be amazed how many people talk about things that they know nothing about. so maybe not EVERYONE had s*x. just dont fall for the pressure  

Answer 25

you say a few of them are not lying, but some of them are. Just be yourself. If you cant be yourself around your friends then they are not your true friends

Answer 26

8th graders have s*x??

wow

like that is wayyy too young to be having s*x i bet all your friends are just lying about having s*x because they think its cool or something

Answer 27

well if your gunna do it just be safe thats all im gunna say.

but do it when you find the right guy you wanna be with.

dont do it for fun and be cooler thats not cool when your gunna pregnant.

but i udnerstand the pressure of it, but itss your choice after all.

Answer 28

you dont have to have s*x just because everyone else is. and dont feel like a baby.

wait till your ready to have s*x and then go for it.

who cares how long it takes?

Answer 29

I think you should get a purity ring and saythat its like the Jonas Brothers' and Selena Gomez' and Miley Cyrus'. Im in the same grade as you and not thaaat many ppl have had s*x! But ya get a promise ring and say that its you promising your parents and god to stay pure until marriage.

hope this helps! good luck!